i have been with this guy for almost 9 years since i was 13 i am 22 now and true we have had our good and our bad times like any normal copule, but i have been wanting to leave hom for awhile he just seems mad all the time he wants marriage and kids i am not ready for that, and i am not even sure if i want to be with him. i havent cheated but i have thought about it so that tells me i might to move on, i ma so confused i asked him if he was happy and he tells me i am his world and he never wants me to go anywhere i dont want to hurt him but i dont want to hurt myself what should i do?? and am i so mean to leave him???
2007-01-07 10:03:15 · 19 answers · asked by brown_eyedgurl22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't feel like he is the one you will want to settle down with by all means leave him . You don't want to go through life wondering what if .
2007-01-07 10:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by daizzddre 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow girll.if i was wit a guy for 9 stinkin years.he would b a keeper,but i gess so for u.u wwant out of dis relationship.u dont wanna b wit a guy dat cares for u and it sounds like he loves u. y dont u stay wit him and jus tell him u not redy for kids.but leavin him all together is not a good thing.not a lot of ppl r as luky as u to even b in a relationship for a month witout breakin up.its your choice though!! but u should reeli think hard and long about what you r doin.u mite hurt yourself leavin him as well.well u r bein honest and u shood tell him how u feel.im giivin u the odds to both sides. think about the days wen he is no longer there and your nights are cold and u want sumbody to hold and no one is there. or a day u come home stressed,tired,and there is no one to talk to.or no one to wipe the tears from your eyes.its all up to u
2007-01-07 10:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So young still, and nine years under your belt? If it doesn't feel right, don't go through with it. You need to experience different things in life. You are not a mean person for wanting to leave. Who is this guy? Jerry Lewis? Leave. Go to school, move in with another relative, seek out new adventures...if he is meant to be the one for you, he'll still be around later. How old is he?
2007-01-07 10:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time when you have to put yourself first. If it would make you happier to be on your own for a while, do it. He is a grown man and can take care of himself. Don't blame yourself for his words or actions.
It seems to me like you do need some time to yourself. Both of you need to figure out what you want. Meet new people; you'll never know if there is someone else out there for you or time off could make you realize how much you need him. Distance can make the heart grow fonder.
Good luck
2007-01-07 10:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by oh what a wonderful world... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are already hurting him by not being honest with him. It will be hard but you need to tell him the truth and that you want out of this relationship. People grow up and grow apart and your heart just isnt where you want it at with him but you will also repsect him as a friend
2007-01-07 10:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by workit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be cruel,grass dont grow over there, you know what you got,why give it up,for some game playing fool, or fools, your girlfriends need to mind their own business,thats where your trouble derives,99 times out of 100 your girls are spouting out their opinions, and you see the single lifestyle, it sucks what you dont see is the lonliness when you are sick, or sad, or at night lying down alone or with some jackas s thats just trying to get some and tell you what you want to hear for the moment,if you have someone that loves you for you why on gods green earth would you want to throw that away,listen to what you are saying,imagine getting rid of him and then a month later changing your mind, but hes moved on and thats now not an option you would never forgive yourself for what you did
2007-01-07 10:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by waterboy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. You were very young when you became involved in him. As people get older they sometimes go into different directions and want different things. You seem like you've matured and want to see whats out there. There is nothing wrong with that.
2007-01-07 10:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, EVER, stay with someone out of pity.
If you feel the love is gone and has felt this way for a long long time, then it is truely time to move on.
I suggest you do it in a nice way though. Break it to him slowly, otherwise he'll be crushed harder than he should be.
2007-01-07 10:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there you love him but you are not in love with him. You need to end this relationship yeah he says that he doesn't want you to leave but he is always angry sounds to me he doesn't want to be by his self. Girl if you ain't happy don not make your self miserable to make him happy. No you are not wrong for leaving him. You have showed that you are not happy by cheating on him.
2007-01-07 10:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by crystal n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...you cannot live your life for someone else, and although he'll be hurt he will recover (we all do if we choose to)...what would be more mean is to stay with him when you don't love him...give him the opportunity to meet someone who wants to be with him and wants what he wants...
...and you can lead your life as you want...
2007-01-07 10:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋