My youngest daughter lives with her mum (my ex) and has done since we split up 2 years ago, we see each other regular, sometimes every weekend, but taking her back to her mum today she asked if she could live with me ? I dont have any probs her living with me, as im in a relationship and know she would be very loved. just i shouldnt be thinking whats best for me should i ? help
2007-01-07 10:01:16 · 10 answers · asked by Reproman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your daughter at the moment is having all the good times with you as you only see her at weekends, if the situation changed and she did live with you all the good times would then be spent with her mum, so I think you would confuse the child if you pushed to have her live with you - she would then perhaps spend her time going back from one to the other not being able to decide who she really wants to live with. I would leave her with her mum for the time being as she is only nine, wait three years or so when she is capable of knowing her own mind. Good luck to you, you sound as if you are a great dad I bet she loves you dearly.
2007-01-07 10:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be asking her what brought this on first and then make the decision to talk to her mother. Is the child in danger or just bored? It also sounds like you are not really welcoming the idea 100 percent. Maybe a trial period would solve the issue if all the adults are in agreement. Or perhaps not. Little girls love their daddys and this may cause some conflicts. hmmm lots to think about.
2007-01-07 12:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by greeneyedgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with your daughter, as well as with your ex, and find out what the motivation for the change is. If it is a valid reason behind the desired change, then you can either work it out with your ex, write up the new custody agreement have it noterized and add it as an ammendment to the origonal custody agreement.
If your ex is not willing to let your daughter move in with you, and you wish to fight her, you will need to call a lawyer and take her to court to sue her for custody. This can be a very long, and very expensive process, it is truly best for all of you if you can work it out, outside of the legal system.
Good luck!
2007-01-07 11:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by Julie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, has she asked out of the blue? maybe shes had an argument with her mum or got in trouble for doing something and mum is not best buddy at the moment? not saying thats the only reason she'd want to live with you though! i think the best thing to do would be to talk to your ex about it
2007-01-07 10:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by mummy_of_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have informed her the best ingredient. you additionally can tell her that all and sundry households are diverse, some dad and mom paintings, some do no longer, yet maximum conventional households a minimum of one parent works. If no longer they are the two very fortunate and characteristic won the lottery or are merely scrounging off the government. they could additionally be working from homestead or self employed and curiously to their daughter that they do no longer paintings, as they do no longer go out to a job.
2016-11-27 02:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you'd love her to live with you but kids are unpredictable....tell her that she can stay with you any time she likes but she needs to be at home with her mummy...i am sorry that you have to live seperately, but kids come out with some things that will be forgotten about tomorrow....i think if her mum knew what she said, she would be pretty upset....unless of course your little girl is not happy where she lives, ask her why she asked you and what reason would she want to live with you....she prolly just misses you alot....bless her
2007-01-07 10:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea you need to discuss that with your ex. She may not want to leave her youngest with you. But perhaps she may see it as good and decided that it would be ok
2007-01-07 10:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Nicolette H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you'll talk it over with her mum and after a while see if she asks again to see if she is really serious about it. after all , she is only 9 right?
2007-01-07 10:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to discuss it with her mother when your little girl is out of earshot and see if you can come up with some amicable arrangement.
2007-01-07 10:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by sarahlou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with her mother, its what your daughter wants anyway you say
2007-01-07 10:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by john m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋