I just got out of a long relationship and I loved the guy with all that I had. How do you know if you are on the "rebound" or if this could be the next love of your life? I feel my mind is still a little mixed up and I keep trying to put this new guy off, but it is not working too well. His kids and mine get along great and it all seems right, but my thoughts keep going back to my ex b/f.
2007-01-07 09:55:42 · 10 answers · asked by jlynna10 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with him.
Let him know that it isn't him; you've just gotten out of a long relationship and you don't want to jump into anything too quickly.
you can still date and have fun and not be totally comitted.
Take things slow and if time shows that thigns are progressing positively, take it from there.
2007-01-07 09:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy I've been dating sounds just like you, I am a great person, but he just got out of a 7 year relationship with a woman who cheated and lied about the paternity of the child they supposedly had together. He says that he is not ready for a serious relationship and it truely hurts me because I think I am the rebound woman. If you are not sure that this new guy is the one for you than cut him loose, the sooner the better otherwise he may get seriously hurt. I still think you should give him a try though, if you say he is a great guy.
2007-01-07 10:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mi nd, you now have two exs. Contact your ex. If he wants you back, then go back to him. Other wise, forget him and go back to the guy you just dumped. A relationship is nothing major compared to a wedding. You'll never be ready until you do it. On the same token, you need to sit quietly alone and figure out why, it wasn't working out. If he thought it was working out fine, and you didn't then the problem is with you, and you need to figure out the reason for it, and do something about it. Once in a relationship of any kind, a person has to be loyal, reliable, trust worhty, committed and responsible. Are you able to be any of those things? is either ex?
2007-01-07 10:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire you looking at this objectively. But I also think there is no clear answer, only what YOU feel is right. I will be watching this one, though, because I think this is an age old question that has yet to (and probably never really will be) answered definitively. Good luck and remember, if there are two good choices you're torn between, you can't really make a bad decision, so cut yourself a little slack.
2007-01-07 09:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 18:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by howsare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know....I think you should what your heart tells you to do girl! oh and I also think that if he wants to push you into something that you dont feel comfortable with doing, he's not for you. but like tell him that you are just not ready..if ur not! but if u r, go 4 it! BUT I would only make a decision when I really really REALLY know what I want, ok honey.
Good Luck girl! Love yaz!
Winter
2007-01-07 10:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to this guy your feelings and take things slow with him. Just hang out with him and get to know him.
2007-01-07 09:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try the new guy, he might even take your mind off your ex
2007-01-07 09:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by lexi(: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to take it slow. If he doesn't listen, then maybe he just wants to shag-n-run.....so maybe you should run before he hurts you. If he loves you, he'll respect your feelings.
2007-01-07 10:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by JiveSly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then tell him and if he really is a really great guy then he'll understand
2007-01-07 09:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋