Why won't our relationship work?

Question

I am in high school.

I had this girlfriend and we dated for fifteen months. She lived an hour away from me, but it didn't matter because we were so deeply in love. I loved her more than anything in the world, and she loved me equally back. But at the end of these fifteen months, we started to fight a bit, and our visits got shorter and more pointless. At one point, I decided to break things off between us, if only for the fact that I was kind of interested in another girl closer to home.

So we broke up. And we still talked online a bit as friends, but nothing really serious. Well, things with this other girl got complicated and she became mean to me and with another guy, when I realized I really didn't want to be with her.

Throughout the next two weeks, my feelings for my previous ex came back, and I decided to tell her the way I felt. I told her, and she said she had the same feelings, but didn't know if she wanted to go through another relationship with me again.

She likes this other guy, who is currently taken, and I hate. He is mean to me (he's one of her brother's friends) and he never gave me a chance. This other guy has used both of her best friends by inspiring feelings in them romantically, then using them sexually and taking off. Yet, she still likes him. Why is beyond me.

Her friends never gave me a chance in our relationship. They viewed me as the source that took away their friend, when in reality she just wanted to juggle me and them. But, eventually, I feel like they broke us apart.

Just yesterday, I asked her if I could take her to dinner and a movie, and she said that she'd love to. I had visions of us getting back together. So I made the drive up there, and we were flirting with each other in the car and at the movies. After the movie, when were driving to dinner I went to tickle her and she grabbed my hand and held it. We were holding hands in the car just like we had before. We got to dinner and afterwards on the ride home we did the same. She asked me if we could kidnap her friend to hang out and I said, sure. I was worried, though, because I wanted to make a move on her, and wouldn't be able to do so if her friend was there. So as we pulled up to her friend's house, I put my hand on her back, and she seemed to read my mind.

We kissed for about five minutes, and they were amazing kisses. I felt electrified, and I knew I had this connection with her. Her friend wasn't home, so I took her back to her house because I had to go home. I kissed her for a bit before saying goodbye, and figured that all was going well. I asked her if we could try again, and she told me she'd think about it. But I was very optimistic.

Today, she sent me an email saying we couldn't do it again because of 1) the distance, 2) the fact that her friends hate me, and 3) the fact that she's still a sophomore in high school. I don't understand, because the distance and her friends we tackled for fifteen months, and the fact that she's so young doesn't mean that she can't love the way she did her freshman year with me.

I am still in love with her, and I want to get over her to get this feelings out of my heart, but don't because I want her back really bad.

Answer 1

Well it sounds like she's moved on without you so maybe you should too. That line about it being too far and her friends is just that, a line to make it easier for her to stop seeing you. She must have someone else she wants to see or she wouldn't care how far you two were, she would want to be with you. I know it hurts right now but you need to look for someone else and put her behind you. It sounds like you last date was something for her to do cause she didn't have anything else to do that night. You may have some sweet young girl at your school dreaming about you and you've never noticed before, so start looking around home base. Try not to think about her, don't e-mail her or talk to her in any way, I think she's just using you right now and that's not fair to you at all. Don't let yourself be her little toy, cut her off right now!

Answer 2

Hi there !!!!
I know that right now you must feel very hurt, heart broken. It is part of growing up son, just learn from this life experience, grow. Time will heal, this too will pass.

If she does not want to be with you, well then let her go. Be happy for the time spent with her, don;t become bitter and talk bad about her, just let it go.

Take time for yourself, to feel good about yourself. Happiness lies within , I know at times we feel alone after a relationship ends, but trust me, look inside and you will find peace. With God we have everything.

I wish you calmness in your heart
take care
love light and peace

Answer 3

hey!
ok i dont believe that it has anything to do with the distance--- me and my boyfriend also live a hor away form each other and only see each other 3-4 times a week and we talk 6 days a week! but we have been together for 13 months!! and we love each other passionably!!

i also dont think its because of her friends...... i have always said to my friends that i would pick my boyfriend over them... and it the honest truth!!

maybe shes scared of getting heart broke because shes not sure if it will work out with ya'll. or maybe theres someone else and she just dont want you to know about it.

i do hope that you are able to either get over her or work things out with her one..... whichever is best for you!!! good luck to you and i hope my advice works!!

Answer 4

Welcome to immature relationships son. here is a bit of advice for you. Do what makes YOU feel good. Dont worry about what other people think of you. Believe me when I tell you, you most likely will not be involved with anyone of these people after you graduate from high school and go off to college.

Answer 5

For one you dn't need this gurl if she won't date you b/c her friends dn't like you and for two i agree with the whole distant thing but if it was me i would give you another chance but she will come around. gurls always do most of the time.

Answer 6

Obviously wasnt ment 2b