is two years too long to be depressed from my mom dying,and to be out of work??

Question

i was very close to my mom and i was with her when she died it ****** my head up

Answer 1

Yes. You need counseling.

I lost my Mom at 9 years old and my brother was 19. I got over it better than he did.

Answer 2

Grieving the loss of a loved one can go on for years and everyone grieves differently, but if it's affecting your life so much that you're not able to work then I think it's time for you to find some help and support.

I'm very sorry about your mom's death. My mom died nearly 10 years ago and sometimes I still get terribly sad that she's gone although a lot of the pain has
lessened a lot over the years. What may have happened with you, as is what happens to many other people, is that the grief over your mom's death triggered your depression or you may be having such a hard time resolving the loss of your mom that you're not able to function properly.

The main difference between grief and depression concerns the presence or absense of self-esteem and guilt. When a person is experiencing depression, there is typically a loss of self-esteem and overall feeling of guilt. This can be somewhat complicated, as some people will experience guilt as a result of the loss of a loved one, but this type of guilt is specific to the event of loss.

Some common feelings associated with grief are:

sadness

disbelief

anger

confusion

guilt

helplessness

anxiety

sleep problems

loneliness

appetite problems

fatigue

absent mindedness

A lot of these symtoms can mimic depression so the only way you can really know for sure is to get an evaluation from a therapist and let them know what's going on. This way the therapist can help you figure out what's going on and what treatment you may need.

Grief can be terrible and it can be so hard to go through alone. That's why I also suggest that you find a grief support group to attend; this helped a lot with me. You can usually find these support groups through your local hospital or they may be able to help you find one. Sometimes hospices have these support groups too.

Take care of yourself and I hope things get better for you soon.

Answer 3

Two years might be too long to be out of work. But to be depressed...no. If you were very close to your mom then its natural to be that depressed. My uncle was like my hero. He died 2 years ago as well and I'm still really upset about it. But I suggest going out and trying to work again. I did that and it made me feel a lot better because I wasn't sitting at home thinking about it all the time because I had other things on my mind. But I don't know. Different people have different feelings. Just do whatever you think is best.

Answer 4

No one can say how long it should take a person to grieve as we all adjust at our own level and pace but that being said, What have you been doing about the depression? The loss of your mother is a profound loss but life has gone on for you and your mother would likely not want you to be depressed and in this grief so long. You must decide to pick yourself up from out of this and move on. Maybe you could get some help from a counselor or psychologist but i would explore all healing options before resorting to medications. A job would likely help you get your mind off your misery, i hope you can really work on getting one soon. Peace be with you!

Answer 5

No it isn't , and I don't care what anyone says. My mom died eight years ago. I wasn't all that close with my mom. We were just becoming friends when she died. But I will suggest that you get proper help with this. It was really hard for me because I just had my son 51/2 weeks before she died. It will get easier, I do admit it, but at the same time, I also recognized that I needed the help... after my suicide attempt. Don't let things get that far. Get the help you need now. I don't think your mom would feel very happy if she knew her child was feeling this way for her...I feel she would want you to live a happy and healthy life. Honor her ok? Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

i am not going to tell you how you should or shouldnt be feeling, my mother died 20 years ago when i was just a child, and i still morn for her.
But do you think that she wanted you to completely stop your life? Try to imaagine what she would be saying to you if she was here... probably somewhere along the lines of, stop moping, go outside, do something get a job!
Just because you carry on with life doesnt mean that you have forgotten someone, or that you don't care anymore. I will tell you one thing, the pain will nevre go away, but in time it does get easier... if you allow it... make your mom proud, live your life

Answer 7

Yes the depression related to a parent's death is long over .You have a clinical depression and are an outsider socially . Your expectations of love and sex are in error and cause a great deal of pain from your own brain. The brain can see truth.

Answer 8

I'm really sorry about your loss, my grandmother was like my mom and she died 7 years ago, and i'm still not over it. but sometimes you have to just get back into life working might be good for you, it will be hard at first but hopefully you will be able to enjoy life a little more each passing day

Answer 9

No. Grief is the number one hardest issue for humans to deal with ( divorce being #2.) As long as you are taking proactive steps for fighting the depression, then take all the time you need.

If you've done nothing, then yeah, it's too long to be just sitting there and your life is calling you.

Answer 10

I really feel for you!!! I cannot imagine I am lucky to still have my mom!! I don't think the pain will ever go away completely! She was your mom! But, is it preventing you from living a life?
Counseling would be a great idea!
You are in my prayers