At what point did romance die, and why are gentleman unappreciated?

Question

I'm not talking about a needy, clingy man who sends you flowers every day and calls every 15 miunutes. I'm talking about a true gentleman . . . confident, honest, healthy, respectful, successful, and romantic. Men like that have been all but banished in American society, because most women see them as being "boring", and go out of their way to hurt them and take them for granted.

Then women whine about how they can't find a good man. A bit hypocritical, don't you think?

Answer 1

I know it stinks. I would kill to have a guy like that in my life. The girls who get guys like that do not appreciate them and what they do and they treat them like scum. I know how much it takes for a guy to take the little extra step and time to be gentlemanly and if I had someone in my life like that I would let them know how much I appreciate them. Don't stop what you are doing there are women out there who will appreciate what you do you just need to find her.

Answer 2

I did not know that true gentlemen existed anymore. They are very rare but unfortunately our society has really come to care more about looks and money than " true gentleman . . . confident, honest, healthy, respectful, successful, and romantic."
The average woman has not been raised to appreciate the old-fashioned true goodness of a man. Unfortunately, most of what we see is what is on the news, the abuse in our family lives etc. We have been brainwashed so much by tv etc that this is the way life is...IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THIS WAY! Alcohol and drugs and the media have all but painted the wrong picture of what a good man is. When we do find a man who is even close to being a good man, we get scared.....because all our lives we hear things like if it seems too good to be true then it probably is not true.

Answer 3

I guess its the same reason the decent ladies out there are unappreciated. I mean.. why is a skank like Hilton worshipped, and yet some of the beautiful, refined, talented women out there get no attention at all? And romance isnt dead, it still lives in the hearts of the true romantics, we just need to find the right person to share it with who is also a romantic and will appreciate it and respond in kind. There has just been too much emphasis placed on the "me" factor. Very few people go into relationships thinking about what they can bring to it and give to their partner, its all about their own self gratification and needs. And yeah, women whine they cant find good man, but ive seen plenty of men whine about not finding a good woman too. And rest assured, the decent ladies out there also get lied to and hurt and used and taken for granted.. Ive lived it.

Answer 4

Although I agree with you, romance is NOT dead. There are a few "women" out here who still like the old fashioned guy like yourself. It is the fast paced age we live in. People fall in "love" on the first date. NOT happenning. It takes time to build a lasting relationship. Women and men alike are in such a hurry to get laid, married, have kids, etc. (Not necessarily in that order) It's a shame. The divorce rate proves that. If they took a little time instead of just rushing in, maybe things would be different. People don't take their marriage vows seriously enough either. Men and women alike will take each other for granted. They are in such a hurry to do all of the above aforementioned, they don't realize a good thing when they see it. Don't change. You are fine the way you are. I just hope you find a good woman to appreciate you and all your fine qualities.

My hubby is the same as you and I never take him for granted. I love him to death. Till death do us part. ... Some men and women wouldn't know a good mate if they walked up and stumbled over them.

Answer 5

It is hard to find a gentleman these days but Im sure they are out there. I just recently found a guy who met most of your criteia for a "gentleman" and was so happy until he never called me again...guess he wasnt a true gentleman after all. Im not giving up yet though....I will find another.

Alot of women like the bad boy type until their hearts are broken by them. Then, the nice guys step in to be friends with them and be supportive only to find that the girl has found another bad boy. I dont get it but yes, it is hypocritical.

Answer 6

I don't think romance is dead and gentlemen are unappreciated. I think that you're making a generalization because of the women in your immediate circle are jaded.

I, personally, am waiting for a decent man that is a gentleman and is romantic. I'm not in a rush.

Maybe you're just trying to find happiness with the wrong women instead of waiting for it to happen naturally. Step back, take a breath and let it happen. You could try those online match sites, like Yahoo!, too.

Answer 7

i will take a genuine Gentleman any time and that i will consistently %. him over a moron. All genuine gentleman have been banished ? God i'm hoping no longer i'm nonetheless looking. you're saying in case you open a door for a woman she'll slap your face ? what baby of female have you ever been assembly? certainly no longer a woman. slap my backside and that i will slap you on the face because of the fact your no gentleman. Its all approximately who you %., in case you %. sh** for a companion it particularly is merely what you will get. adult adult males and female a like. do no longer positioned all us female in the some type for we are no longer all the comparable it rather is merely that presently we are out quantity by potential of the ding bats. i will see why some guy experience and think of that way yet hay you picked them over a good female ninety 8% why because of the fact there extra relaxing, .there seems or because of the fact thy the place EZ to get.. For the two guy and female make extra perfect selections and you would be happier.

Answer 8

oh please Rio Madeira - you are talking about passionless cold sexless relationship where the two people are neither male nor female!

Good friends are OK but I want passion my friend, and that comes from playing the roles of polar opposites AND it is a game - I play the alpha man for you and you play the feminine woman for me - we do it for each other!! Not because I am better or higher or stronger but because we want fire!!!!!!

And both of us never forget we are playing a game in service of each other!

I wil not live in a sexless equal androgenous world - egalitarians in the bedroom? Doesn't sound right, I decline Rio

Answer 9

Definitely hypocritical. You get what you look for. If women out there only consider guys as potential dates due to their looks, and only see the nice guys as friends... of course they are going to have trouble finding a good man.

Good is on the inside, and that takes effort to get to know someone to find that out. Since nice guys are uncommon nowadays, women seeking one need to look everywhere- not just the nicest looking guys, and not be passive and only consider the guys coming on to them.

Answer 10

All about balance everyone likes a good man yet there has to be something bad to them too also something exciting, and so on you just want a straight out good man that never works. Be a bad boy once and awhile but a respectable bad boy... and yes there is a difference.