Why is forgetting things rude?

Question

I have been accused of forgetting things too often and I have no way to gaurd against forgetting. Leaving messages can only partly help, until they also fail to help.

So I ask...

Why do people accuse your of forgetting something in a way that indicates your miss-behaving, when doing so is it's self an human error that cannot be prevented entirely.
What do they think I can do to prevent myself forgetting?

Although we have a responsibility to try and remember, we cannot be held accountable for failing if we have tried our best.
For forgetting means that the act of trying to remember is no longer possible and so it cannot be a form of miss-conduct.

Explain what I must say. Saying "Sorry, I did not mean to forget" is not good enough since doing so leads to people claiming that I am lying.

It is a fundamental impossibility to remember not to forget once you have forgetton to remember 'not foggeting something'.

Do you know?

Answer 1

I think it just means they feel you are uncaring or inconsiderate about what you promised to be obligated to.

You may be coming at this from a very immature standpoint though.

I think there is a certain point from being 'forgetful' to just being careless and inconsiderate.
If you are having that many problems with your long term memory, you should carry a tiny date book on you and if you promise something to someone,
or a certain date is important, write it down.
And look at it in the morning every day to make sure you don't miss anything that day.

You can't "just forget" to go to work,
or have an important meeting, or job interview, or date.
If you turn out to be that guy who forgets his son's little league games all the time, quite rightly,
you will be considered a huge prick by all.

Answer 2

I think if you are a younger person, people will have a tendency to think of 'forgetting' as an excuse. I forget all the time. My short term memory is practically non-existent. Thats why I carry a little notepad in my pocket. You do whatcha gotta do.

Answer 3

If you forget things that are important to someone else, it shows a basic lack of care for that person.

When is the last time you forgot your own birthday?

Saying sorry doesn't help much as it is sort of like saying "Sorry, but I just don't care that much about you."

Answer 4

well i guess i am a very rude person because i forget all the time..I always tell people to remind me cause I have a bad memory.Its not rude,you just forgot....Now people Know I forget cause I always tell them..

Answer 5

well i think it is because to remember something is a sign of trust

Answer 6

my sister is just like you
the reasons i get mad at her is because i tell her over and over again and she never remembers she also hates to listen to me so i never know which one it is