my boyfriend (of 18months) is going on a trip very soon for 4 days, i know it doesn't seem long but it'll feel like forever to me...
the letter says that it's advisable not to take mobile phones but his dad said that he can't take it and his tutors said not to too. it's hard enough not getting to see him but not being able to talk or text will just make it that much harder.
is it just me that thinks he should take his phone anyway? why don't you think that he will?
i trust chris with my life but i don't trust the girls on his course one bit and seems that the class is going camping and doing lots of fun activities do you think i should be worried?
do you think that anyone will come onto him (even if it is flirting, hugging or kissing)?
we love each other to pieces and i trust him, so why will i miss him so much (i'm even missing him before he's gone) and why am i worried about other girls?
should i be worried?
2007-01-07 09:04:12 · 13 answers · asked by rach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its simple you just really love him, and when he comes back you two will just love each other more.
2007-01-07 09:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're already this worried, then maybe you need to look at how strong the relationship is. Relationships are built on trust and without that there's really nothing. However, if you do trust him, you don't have to trust the other girls there. Whether or not he should take a phone isn't the question, it's whether or not you think he will, but as far as that goes, being apart for a short time (even though 4 days will seem like an eternity) is actually a good thing. It could be worse. He could be in Iraq for a year or more.....
2007-01-07 09:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its only 4 days. you really shouldn't be stressing this much especially if you say tis an 18 month relationship.
However the bad news is, this relationship doesn't seem like something that will last if you keep up these kinda thoughts.
The constant paranoia will get the best of you, you'll eventually get mad at him for things you thought up in your head and you may break up with him for NO reason at all besides the fact your just so worried
so i'd make the effort now to change my ways befoer its too late and you lose him.
Not only will thoughts like this probably annoy him its unhealthy for a relationship you guys have been going over a year trust him!
and if he breaks your heart he wasn't worth it anyway.
You're worried about other girls for good reason...I do the same thing, its not that you dont trust HIM its that you dont trust them
girls are CUT throat! they dont care if he's taken which sucks
but dont worry he loves you
not them
ANd you'll miss him cause you love him :)
so be happy trust him and let him have a good time don't over smother him!
2007-01-07 09:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by USCfemme10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rach, I think since you guys love each other so much that you shouldn't be worried about other girls! Do you trust inside yourself that he won't care about those other girls and just be thinking of you the whole time? And its ONLY 4 days. I know it feels like a lot. But if you think about it. It's less than a week. And less than 100 hours. And so not enough time for that many girls to be hitting on him. 18 months of relationship, its normal for you to worry and feel this way. Just give him a big hug, and tell him to have a safe trip and before you know it he'll be back and you'll be wrapped in his arms again!
Don't worry, hope this helped ;)
2007-01-07 09:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by just*me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really trust him then show you trust him and chill out. It's only four days so get busy doing something else so you don't think about it so much. If he's going to get with someone else it would happen no matter what, even if you're on the phone with him the whole time. You shouldn't ask him to go against his fathers wishes either. Remember, if you love him and trust him then you can't worry about what he's doing cause that shows that you do not trust him. For those four days make plans with your family or friends to shop or go to the movies or anything to make the time pass. Just relax.
2007-01-07 09:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and he truly care about each other enough, to trust, then trut him. It's possible that someone will flirt with him, yes. But the real test or question is what he does when that happens.
As for the cell phone, I can't imagin why he couldn't be allowed to take it. I would question whoever it is that wrote the letter. I might even suspect that the letter was fake. Maybe even a trap. Yes, you should be worried, until he returns. But you should also assume that he will, return.
2007-01-07 09:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, the worst thing you can do is smother him. If you care for him as much as it seems, then you need to give him space. 4 days will come and pass, and try to make something special for him while he's gone, to pass the time. I know it will be tough, but you'll survive. If anything happens on the trip, trust that he cares about you enough to stop it, or if it's beyond his control, that he talks to you. I doubt you have anything to worry about, but the most important thing you can do is show him you trust him, but giving him his space.
2007-01-07 09:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Spiderman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me many x. Except it has been the other way around. I've left my current boyfriend of 3.6years from 4 days to 2 weeks before. And it kills me every time. It's not easy getting use to it. But we feel much more reunited once we see eachother after my trips. Kind of like appreciate eachother more:) Good luck and take the 4 days easy, take time for yourself while he gets back.
2007-01-07 09:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by GG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would feel the same way about my boyfriend if he could not take his phone, but you answered ur own question he loves you etc, so if you KNOW he loves you and is HAPPY WITH YOU why be fussed about other women, if he thinks anything of you they could hand him it on a plate and he would not take it.
sounds to me like you have a problem with trust and not allowing ur boyfriend to do his own thing, and thats fine we all get a little insecure,but it sounds like you dont tust him cos of the question ur asking! if he loves you whats the problem? let him have his 4 days away, my boyfriend plays gold and travels a lot and i have to let him go, its life and its called trust and if ur feeling like this now before his even gone maybe you have the problem
2007-01-07 09:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by ice_castles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it, if he's going to cheat he will and if he's not he won't.
believe it or not--you won't die if you don't talk to the guy for 4 whole days--let him breathe and leave his cell phone home--what ? u want to get him in trouble?
look, when you are young it seems like forever, but you will be ok---just plan a few things to do while he's gone to take your mind off of him.
2007-01-07 09:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, you should stop whining and be sooo very thankful that you get to be with him everyday minus the trip!!!!! 4 days!!!! gimme a break sweetie!!!!! the love of my life is in the navy and i went 21 MONTHS without seeing him!!!!!!! when he was just home for Christmas it was as if we had never been apart!!!!! hes back in japan again and all we can do is email and he can occasionally call!!!!! so, count your blessings instead of stressing yourself!!!!! i think you two will get through 4 days just fine so chill out!!!!!!
2007-01-07 09:31:56 · answer #11 · answered by rara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋