Boyfriend going to Marines bootcamp.?

Question

My boyfriend is going to boot camp in seven months. I'm still undecided to whether I still want to be with him or not. Communication is a big problem between us now and when he goes to boot camp it'll be an even greater problem. Are you allowed to write letter and recieve letters when your loved one goes away to boot camp? If you're not allowed to write there, then are you able to recieve letters every so often? Please help! I'm desperate.

Answer 1

The Marines own him now , by the time he comes out of bootcamp he will have changed from the guy you know into an automaton that is only capable of shouting ridiculous sayings like BOOYA! and SIR! YES SIR when asked even the most mundane question.

Give him up , in 10 months you wont even know him , and I doubt he will be the slightest interested in you.

Answer 2

Yes, the two of you can exchange letters while he is boot camp. He will need to provide you with the proper address. I think they gave it to us in the first week to send to our families. Do NOT put anything on the outside of the envelope except the relevant address information. No cute little notes, stickers, pictures, etc. When I went through every word was five push ups and every sticker and picture was ten. My girlfriend at the time sent me a letter that would have cost me 1500 push ups. I was half tempted to tell the DI to send the damn thing back. After 100 push ups the DI took pity on me and gave me the letter with a promise that they would take them in installments. Before I left RFTD I paid every one of those push ups.

Any photos of yourself that you send will be seen by everyone in the platoon, including the DIs, so make sure that you can live with that before you send them. The DIs put up a cork board called the "Pig Board" where photos of our girlfriends went. A lot of time was spent on Sundays comparing and rating these photos.

Whether you ultimately decide to continue to be with him or not I would still encourage you to write him while he is away. Letters from the real world go a long way to help you make it through. It may be the thing that will help him understand the importance of communication. Be aware that the boy who leaves for boot camp will be a very different man when he returns. You may like the new man or you may not but you'll never know if you abandon him now.

Answer 3

First, THANK your boyfriend for SERVING and you should be PROUD of him NO matter what ANYONE says!

In the first few weeks your boyfriend is just going to be TOO WHIPPED to even consider a girlfriend; he will love getting mail, but probably will not write back. Leisure time is polishing boots, brass and staying squared away so it isn't because he isn't thinking of you, he just doesn't have time.

On the up side when he comes home he will be a MARINE and a MAN of HONOR. On the down side he may have out grown you (sorry to be blunt, but it happens). If you don't think that you can keep up with his committment you should probably end your relationship before he goes; just easier for everyone that way.

I was in the Navy, deployed and my wife had a problem. I was told, "If the NAVY wanted you to have a wife, they would have issued you one in your seabag". The NAVY took care of her and I stayed.

Whatever you do, DO NOT "DJ" him in bootcamp; he will have enough on his mind without the distraction.

If you can handle it understand, write and support his decision, just do NOT be a needy distraction.

The BEST to you guys, honestly.

USN 1964-
"HONORARY" MARINE CORPS DI

Answer 4

Letters!! Send LOTS AND LOTS of letters! The military man/woman LOVES mail! Get friends and family to write him IN boot camp and after he is done.
As far as DUMPING him....you should be PROUD of him. He has chosen to be part of America's fighting force and part of America's BEST fighting force. To be willing to go face to face with the enemy is the bravest thing a man/woman can do. I salute the US Marine Corps for all they have done in the history of the U.S. I spent ove 20 years in the Navy and have had many contacts with the Marines, all good. They are not taught to be 'automatons' as someone on here so mistakenly said. They are taught to obey orders, to think on their feet and die for the country they are fighting for if necessary. Most often though, they make the person they are fighting die.
If you would like to learn about the life of a U.S. Marine (that's always a captital M.) sign up for the newletter at www.sgtgrunt.com . When you read those newsletters, have a box of tissue by your computer. An old guy like me gets misty eyed at some of the letters in that newletter.
Yes, he will be changed person...for the better.
Hon, BE PROUD OF YOUR U.S. MARINE!

Answer 5

I think they have to wait a week or so before they are given incoming mail. If you want to break up with him, do it now. Still write to him. He needs encouragement from home. Most of the mom's I know with sons in the Marine boot camp say the girlfriend gets more letters because they have limited time to write. If you stay with him, he will be changed for the good when he returns. Tell him thanks for serving from a thankful american in Indiana.

Answer 6

Visitors? We didn't get visitors until the day before graduation.

If you aren't sure about the future of your relationship, don't wait until he's in boot camp to break it off. Do it now. He needs a clear head to get through boot camp, and he deserves to know how you feel. Additionally, if he's enlisting to create a 'stable future for his potential family', you'd better say somethingnow.

If you are sure, then, yes, write him letters. Don't be dismayed if he doesn't write back. While we were given 'free time', the smart recruits used it to get a head start on their responsibilities. I was able to write a total of three letters to my girlfriend in boot camp. And if you change your feelings while he's in boot camp, wait until after he's home on boot leave.


Edit: Simple Simon, you are a moron. Get a life.

Answer 7

Its been many many years since I was in Marine boot camp, but yes you can write letters back and forth and as much as you want. Keep in mind (depending which boot camp he goes to) sometimes they will be out in the field and sometimes moving from place to place, but they still get mail call, and believe its something that everyone wants and its great for moral. As for phone calls, I don't know, I was in boot camp 20 years ago, and we could not make or receive phone calls, but letters, as much as you want to write. Hope this helps, and I hope you make the right deceision on your relationship. But please if you do deceide to leave him, do it before he goes away, don't do it while he is in boot camp, thats all I ask.

Answer 8

You can write and receive mail, depending on your recruit's time available. My husband went through boot in 1999 and the last several weeks of training they were able to receive mail but truly didn't have time to send any.
Also, in Marine Corps boot camp, you don't get visitors until the week of graduation; you'll be lucky to get a phone call. You sure as heck don't get to visit!

Answer 9

While your boyfriend is at bootcamp he can send and receive mail, just remember that its bootcamp and that its not a vacation for him, he is going to be very busy and isn't going to have much free time in the beginning to write letters, but I'm sure he will write to you if you write to him, its always nice to here from back home when you are away.

Answer 10

You may write letters to him and he will be allowed to write back and the US Marine Corps encourages people
to be in contact with family and spouses and fiancees
during Boot Camp and beyond!!!!