GUYS ONLY! are you shallow?

Question

do you go out with girls for ther looks if so why? i know loads of guys that do and i was wondering if there is a decent guy out there

Answer 1

Yes, yes I am shallow. I only ask women out if I find them attractive. Then continue to date them depending on personality. I do not think that there is anything wrong with this at all, but according to you it is probably "shallow". I just feel physical attraction is still an important part to the beginning of a relationship. Why ask out someone I am not attracted to?

Answer 2

I don't discriminate based on looks. Don't care about height, weight, ethnicity, body type, etc. I've been on the receiving end of that from women since high school since I'm only 5'1". When you have to deal with being on the outside of what is considered attractive or desirable, it's easy to see it's the wrong thing to do.

If you are serious about a relationship, long term, etc... what makes it last is personality, common interests, and the like.

Yes, a lot of men and women out there are shallow, but that doesn't mean there aren't some out there that are looking for the right qualities in someone. Just keep looking wherever you can, and keep the same non-judgmental view as you hope others would treat you like.

Answer 3

Here is how it works...you have initial attraction...it does not have to be intense as hell...I wont date women who I see first time and say "wow"...why, cos then I know I will let her get away with anything...so, back to the original point, you have attraction, three things happen while you are with them and get to know them. The get much more attractive to you, cos they have a good personality...they start to look ugly cos they are ugly people inside, or the attraction just stays the same, you are nuetral.

Now you cannot expect people to date those they are not attracted to. That would be the same as saying you have to date someone who you cant stand to be around because of their caustic personality.

Answer 4

I really like attractive girls and always fall for looks, but I am starting to see that many of these girls have sucky personalities. They are boring, superficial, and more often than not, chirpy and annoying.

I guess you can't have the best of both worlds. I am still waiting for a girl with a great personality and great looks, but it is very hard to find.

Answer 5

There are decent guys.I am one.
I would love to find a "plain Jane" that has had to depend on her personality and intellect to get by rather than some "pretty" with 3 brain cells.
Is there any girls out there like that???

Answer 6

Looks always helps to attract.... but ultimately its the personality that matters. I couldn't stand to date a gorgeous woman who is nothing more than a socialite twit...

Hideously ugly tho.... that would be a hard one so I suppose I'm a little bit shallow for that

Answer 7

You're only as shallow as the girl makes you. After 30 though, its all about $$$$$$$$ and not hard tight bodies.

Answer 8

in my experience looks don't amount to much
if the women is attractive but can't hold a intelligent conversation. I'm not going to waste my time. sure it takes looks to get noticed if you are in a night club were you can't converse anyway.
but in the real world were i spend my time if you are intelligent
and have some self confidence then looks become secondary.

Answer 9

Yes. Looks Do Matter.
Its Not Fair, but thats just the way it is.
That does Not mean We are Shallow.

Answer 10

No, I've been more impressed by other things. But come on...don't tell me that you don't consider looks important when scoping out a guy? Do you have image or self esteem concerns???