i wish i had as much as strentgh as you - you go girl - you definietly made the right choice and you were completely right you do deserve better. I am sure everyone here is 100% behind you - thank you for setting such a high standard for all us women out there - you are a great role model and are not rubbish at all. time is a great healer everytime you get a pang and miss him remember you are setting a pattern for you rlife of being a strong woman and not letting boys mess you about and when you are happily married to a manthat doesnt cheat on you and adores you because you rewspect yourself you will be grateful for the day you sent that text because it is the day that you bcame the person that will attract a fabulous and decent guy into your life and this boy will be a distant memory and probably a big huge loser.
good luck
2007-01-07 09:11:45
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answered by confused 2
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You probably did the right thing...although in the short term it may not feel that way
...and lets face it you will probably spend the next 2 weeks looking at your phone and hoping that he is going to call and tell you that you are right, and he has made a terrible mistake.
...but he probably won't. However, I guarentee you that you will look back on this in about a month and KNOW you did the right thing. Better this way then you carry on the way things are and end up getting hurt in the long run. Why prolong the agony?? Respect to you...you totally had the courage to do the right thing...you go girl!
...now you have earned the right to some serious retail therapy - take advantage!
2007-01-07 08:56:58
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answered by Charlotte G 1
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Andrea, don't sweat it. You've done the right thing. I'm the type of person that doesn't like people who can just sleep with another for just the sex unless they are both in for the same thing.
You are not rubbish but I feel he is. He's not for you, there are way too many guys out there that will treat you the way you want. The panic you feel is normal and it will pass in time. Go out with others and you'll soon forget about him especially when you hook up with someone that really cares for you.
2007-01-07 08:59:45
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answered by Kevin A 6
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u have done the right thing, though its hard to see it at the moment, i have been in actually the same place as u are, though is was two years he was messing me about, and i kept waiting for him and waiting for him untill one day i did the same as u and sent him the text saying good luck and goodbye, u will always be my best friend! i havent seen him seen, it still pains me now, as he was my best friend, but i have found love in an amazing fella and wouldnt change him for the world, he makes me soo happy. i think wot happened has made me stronger though, now i look back on it, he wasnt worth it, when somebody plays with ur emotions ur better off out of it and getting someone whos gonna put u first. go see ur doctor about panic attacks, they are scary things, i hate them, but once again its something u will over come u just need time and somebody u trust to talk to. good luck hun
2007-01-07 09:56:30
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answered by karen h 3
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Your not rubbish, you are a warm and sensitive person who has had the misfortune of liking someone, who does not have the ability to show you a level of respect you deserve.
This man has treated you appalingly and you know that, but your self esteem is so low at the moment you are unable to see that you are a thousand times, a better person then he ever will be.
2007-01-07 08:53:35
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answered by simon m 4
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Anytime you feel this intense, this panicked, you know in your heart that something is wrong with whatever it is that you're facing. Contact him, but be very light about it.. The more "important you make this, the more he will go the other way." If you're willing to just have the relationship be what it is, and you be his sex friend, then I'm pretty sure he'll allow that. If not, then you are just in this for more pain, because this is all he seems to want, for now at least. Yes, contact him, call him and ask him if he wants to go out for coffee or a walk or a movie, and act as if you never sent that message. He'll be cool with that I think.
2007-01-07 08:52:00
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answered by Barsedona 2
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You HAVE done the right thing, it will take time for you realise this. If he cannot chose, they you made the decision for him, at least that way, he didnt hurt you, by saying goodbye to you, but you were strong enough to let him go. Well done. You couldnt have done anything better. Now though, you need to carry on being strong, and try moving on. It's hard trust me but you were right and you can do better than being with a greedy bloke with more than he can keep! Good Luck, you deserve it xxxx
2007-01-07 08:56:28
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answered by ? 3
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You are not rubbish. You stood up for yourself and what you said is how you feel. Always look out for #1----YOU ! Four months is not a long time to be with one person only. He was interested in someone else and he went for it. You have to get over him and go onto the EXCITEMENT of a new guy. There are plenty out there.
2007-01-07 08:55:27
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answered by JACKI E 1
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He sounds like a rat and you did the right thing sending him that message no matter how much it hurts!
He has treated you badly, it's a shame you actually shagged him on friday because I think this has only added to your hurt and confusion.
Do not text him again - no matter how low you feel, you deserve so much more and will find it if you are strong enough to stay away from your ex.
2007-01-07 08:54:41
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answered by Poppy 4
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You say that u were seeing him on and off , now been a man I must be honest , it sounds to me that you never wanted to commit to him but you didnt want him to be with anyone else , and relationships dont work that way , either commit or dont and 4 months is a very long time in anyones books. Sorry if thats not the answere you wanted to hear.
2007-01-07 08:53:23
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answered by sbwrw 2
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