My girlfriend broke up with me 8 wks. ago.She is bi-polar.I supported her emotionally and loved her so much.She is on meds. and conseling.I understand the disorder and stood by her.My question is Im over the love now for her but am feeling real anger and resentment about how she treated me.I feel guilty as i know it is the disorder.Is this a normal thing and after this anger and resentment leave ,will I be completely free from my feelings for her
2007-01-07 08:45:44 · 11 answers · asked by Cherokee P 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Bi-polar disorder is an illness, just like cancer is an illness. Try to think of her as a person who is very sick and accept the fact that she is not necessarily in control of the way she treats you.
You have to let go of the the resentment and anger, they are poison to your soul. You have to be willing to let go of those feelings and ask God to take them away. Then you will be able to heal. Sometimes it is easier to hold on to the anger and resentment because it is easier than forgiving and letting go, but you cannot let those negative feelings have control over you.
2007-01-07 08:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Betsy Jayne 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anger and Resentment are not about the break up, it's about you feeling that becuase you stood by her that she some how owes you. You'll feel better when you realize break-ups happen and it's just part of life. Her being Bi-Polar means she needs to first learn to take care of herself, to find how to deal with the life long reality of being bi-polar. Her breaking up most likely was something she needed to do as part of dealing with being bi-polar.
We don't help others, care for others, be there for others because we expect things in return. If you stood by her becuase you expected her to be grateful or owe you, then you did it for all the wrong reasons.
2007-01-07 08:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mountain Bear 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okayi really dont know where to start with this. it kind of depends on how long you two have dated and how long she was on meds for.
i am a bipolar female and i know for a fact that once you are medicated you are able to make the correct decisions and function the way you need to. you have every right to be angry with her. that is the way relationships work.
good for you for supporting her though. where were you when i needed someone to do that for me? lol it is completely normal trust me. you should feel some anger because of the fact that you supported her and she left you when she got better (is what im assuming)
if anything, you should be proud of yourself for taking care of her. we need more men like you!
2007-01-07 08:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by jenay4867 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its entirely possible. Pain and resentment do fade and even though you aren't in love with someone anymore, you can still wish the best for them. You don't have to hate them just because your not with them anymore, there is something else out there that will most likely make you both happier. It unfortunatly takes time. Good luck!
2007-01-07 08:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Krissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar Disorder is a disorder where the person has extreme highs and lows I am sure you know this dont confuse what could be her own personality with the disorder as that is how so much steriotypical behavior gets going
2007-01-07 08:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by ourlittleposseof12 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bipolar people, excepsially girls are like a bomb, if they arn't on meds, or if there not working. people who say "run the hell away from her" thats not nice. did she say why she broke up with you? if not, it could be just that, she feels different from day to day i'm bpd and when i have a bf, i feel a certain way for them a certain day. i still love them, but i just feel like something isn't right. you should talk to her. unless she did something that was just really out of control. ask her why she treated you like that. if she won't say its probably b/c she embarrassed of what she did. if you don't feel like talking to her at all anymore, just don't call her anymore, just stop all contact, unless she calls you. i hope i helped. sorry if i didnt
2007-01-07 09:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by tuxedokitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud you there to support her through her illness...Don't think just because she is bi-polar this isn't like any other breakup...you need to move on and hopefully you will be free from your feelings for her...Good Luck
2007-01-07 08:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by devilsadvocate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you don't give power to the anger and resentment, they'll leave. And your peace of mind will return.
2007-01-07 08:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely bipolar now and will need to find someone to help you through it. Your expectations for love and sex are false and need to be revised or your depression will get worse.
2007-01-07 10:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bi-polar girlfriend? You better run like hell away from that.
2007-01-07 08:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋