Hiya, basically I am insecure about my looks, resulting in lack of confidence. I can't tell how I look and Its led to me rejecting girls asking me out, two of which speciafically because i thought they were joking. They actually weren't and promptly led with one to the wrst two mins of my life (probs) and the other then putting a leg either side of me (my back against a wall) then pushing her crotch a few inches from my face. But that was odd. At a party My mates went to get drinks and girls actually surrounded me sitting at the table (fair enough they had to sit somewhere - could have been on the empty seats though). I promptly had to leave after 8 mins and the girl next to me stopped smiling when she actually heard me ask to leave. Whenever a girl looks or smiles at me I can't hold the stare unless drunk. A girl who always really wanted to speak to me and stuff I could barely look at. People I don't mind being insecure about looks, do mind about hurting girls feelings. Help PLEASE!
2007-01-07 08:45:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way I am fairly confidant around guys and stuff (I'm nowhere near being a geek) people buy me drinks at parties mostly and I've been calles an alpha male so I'm not meek - lol don't wry I'm not a maniac - just really like to win in sports lol! Its just I guess, I need confidance around girls. The other day sitting with girls and one or two kept looking at me, so I pretended to fall asleep. I can talk to female friends pretty much okay and make em lauch and hold a conversation with complete eye contact but its the initial meeting stranger(girls), not boys.
2007-01-07 08:49:11 · update #1
rofl D*** I talk to much! sry. Heyhey the guy about the shrink I'm not that messed up, or am I? Son of a ... u've got me thinking!
2007-01-07 08:58:26 · update #2
There seem to be that some thing in your child hood lead you to behave this way towards girls. You need to get professional help or in other words see a shrink.
For you don't want to be in a relationship with some girl and to do some thing stupid like hurt or abuse them and you will be in a world of trouble. Get professional help before you start dating girls as you seem to be spook by any thing they do.
2007-01-07 08:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Premio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your'e probably not ugly at all provide a photo at bjka78@yahoo.com and I'll tell you!
If a girl asks you out it takes a lot of confidence,maybe if you get asked again you should talk to them more,say you could meet with them for a coffee and then take t from there.You'll know then if they are joking or not.
As for the party,well, it sounded a bit rough to me. Try going to other places because the girls don't sound too nice there.
2007-01-07 16:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by bjka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you cant look into their eyes smile then look away realy fast and blush she will get the message....as for rejecting girls just be nice dont say something like "no way on earth" just say that shes cute and all but you arent looking for a gf
2007-01-07 16:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by hoplessly_in_love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your female friends were strangers at one time,right?They were strangers too at one time.how did you over come being comfortable with them? I really don't see the problem..Just be yourself and do the same as you did with them..
2007-01-07 17:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U TALK YO MUCH!
2007-01-07 16:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by unverified 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋