I am a divorced single mom. I have been dating this amazing guy for 6 months, and I get so confused with the whole dating thing...it has been so long. So he was invited to go to a football party today and said he wanted to stay w/me and the kids instead. We were supposed to go to a birthday party. My older boy ended up being sick, so we didn't go. My BF decided since we were not going out, then he would go to the football party. I felt like I was not so important...that it was more important for him to go out. He wanted to come back to my house after, and I said no. I told him that it wouldn't be fair to me if I let him back. I am sick of putting myself second and don't want to wait for him to be done with his thing. He was sorry, but does not understand why I won't let him come back....Did I do the right thing?
2007-01-07 08:45:17 · 15 answers · asked by lulu13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you srewed up- you are too insecure
2007-01-07 08:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by hiding1959 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily think it's wrong that your boyfriend went to the football game, but maybe if I was in your situation I would feel differently. It depends. I don't think he meant to hurt your feelings like he did, and if he said he was sorry then I think you should let the issue slide. But, if you didn't want him to come back after the party, then you did the right thing saying no. Tell him the truth and how you feel about the matter, and if he is a good boyfriend I think he'll truly understand.
2007-01-07 08:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he going to stay at your place, or go to the birthday party with you?
If he was going to the party with you...then you messed up and better hope he comes back. It's a miraculous thing that he would sacrifice a football party to go to another party with you. It's also great, that he would want to see you after the football party. You messed up, by acting out.
However, If he was planning to stay behind while you went to the party...then he was planning to sneak out. In that case, there really was no football party.
2007-01-07 08:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can feel if you did the right thing or not.
However, I would have handled things a little differently than you. I would have let him go out and come back later full of joy and happiness. Some other day it might be him watching your kids while you are out without him. It was sweet of him to stay home in the first place.
A successful relationship is about giving and taking.
2007-01-07 08:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no you didn't do the right thing. What you are expecting him to sit around watching your kid get sick. You should be lucky he chose you and not the party in the first place. Then when your plans fall through he can't do the other thing he wanted? Get over yourself the kid isn't his he doesn't need to be there. Give him time with his friends. Otherwise you'll be keeping him form things and he'll leave you for that.
2007-01-07 08:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he had plans to do two things, one was with you and the other with his friends. The plans with you fell through so he wanted to go to see his friends. He's not saying that you aren't important, but what would the two of you done all day? Watch football? By treating him this way your telling him that he should probably never go to see his friends or have any outside activities, which he will resent you for.
2007-01-07 08:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I depends on which was most important to him. Had your Son not ended up getting sick, would he have spent the time with you instead? Don't forget, it's only been 6 months. you are still learning about each other.
2007-01-07 08:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by Erica R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would just roll with it...he showed how caring he was by wanting to miss the party and be with you in the first place, time for you to give a little too.
2007-01-07 08:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did wrong. You let your anger to tlak for you and the fact that you used to be put on the second place got out and talked for you. Men don't like us to be very possesive and in the first place he wanted to spend time with you so no reason to act like that. Call him and tell him you are sorry.
2007-01-07 08:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A courting isn't something with out have confidence...if he cant even admit that he gave you an std, you desire a actual guy, heavily. he's clearly a liar.. & I also have a feeling hes no longer supplying you together with his password for a good reason.. as in he's hiding plenty from you. Get out of that courting!
2016-11-27 02:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by trif 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ok i don't think that u were wrong i mean u have riht 2b mad evry1 get's mad but it about wat u feel after u get mad i mean u get mad and u say or do somthing and then u start thinking if wat if wat u did was wrong and u were 2fast with doing or saying somthing here when the chance come 2ask 4help or find out how 2do the right thing i know u didnt ask if any1 can tell u wat 2do but i think u should just alk 2him and tell dat u alwayz feel ur 2nd in he's life and never be #1 U may say why would i want u 2talk 2him i tell U Y he don't knwo how U feel and he dosn't undrestand y u would not let him come back that is a sign 4U 2tell him about ur feelings and then after u talk 2him u'll find out if ur #1 or #2 in he's life .good luck and hope ur son is okay now .
2007-01-07 08:54:50 · answer #11 · answered by mohame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋