My dad has just split up with his girlfriend and i'm really secretly pleased. I have tried so hard to get on with her but she hates me and doesnt like me speaking to him.
I only met him a few years ago and we had a really great relationship he was seeing her then and they split up and she blames me. they got back together but would check his phone to see if he'd text or rung me or his other daughter (who he brought up) she is obsessed. I have spoken to her on several occasions about the situation but she says she has no problem. i know however this is not true because he tells me she gets in a strop if he mentions my name she is now taking it out on my sister as well but neither of us have done anything wrong apart from wanting to have contact with our father.
Am i horrible for being pleased they have broken up and if they get back together what do i do?
2007-01-07 08:35:49 · 9 answers · asked by Giggle Angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont want him all to myself i dont even mind him seeing her i just want him to have contact with me and my sister every now and again. ive spoken to him today for the first time in 2 months. She deletes texts me and my sister have sent him so he thinks we havent contacted him. He does know as I've told him and he is aware of it and says it wont happen any more but i know if he gets back with her it will. they broke up because he sent me a message saying happy new year! How sad is that?
2007-01-07 09:23:01 · update #1
well good riddance to bad trash is what i say...if she cannot accept you as his daughter then she don't deserve him....maybe now you can have a loving a fulfilling relationship with him and forget her, she's jealous of the attention he gives you, she is better off out of the picture...lets hope it stays that way...and no your not horrible hun....far from it...she's the one who's horrible
2007-01-07 09:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're not horrible for being happy. You don't need to express your happiness to your father but your feelings are valid. She doesn't sound like a very supportive or self confident girlfriend. She would have to be if he wants his children in his life. It sounds as if she's not the woman for your father and he's better off in the long run.
Good Luck!
2007-01-07 09:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by blackcaligirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, ur not horrible in any way. I think ur dad's g/f has some growing up to do. For her to be jealous of his daugthers?? That just seems insane to me. You will always be his kids and she needs to grow up and accept that! If they get back together.. well then that is his decision and unfortuantely out of ur control. Is ur dad approachable and could u talk to him about what she does? And is he aware about her obssessive behavior? Perhaps thats something that should be brought out into the light for him? Good luck!
2007-01-07 09:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by snowbunny67ss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sweetie, this must be hard for you, as you are bound to want him all for yrself having waited sooo long for him. Yr not being horrible, but be careful of yr love for him. I too had a sister who my dad didn't bring up. She wanted dad so much, he split up from my step-mum & he got so involved with her, she wouldn't let anyone too near him as she never wanted him to be away again. I won't tell you publicly how she kept him from leaving her in the end but you can email me about it. stevie1152004@yahoo.com
2007-01-07 09:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Could be happier 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not horrible, your normal. As a father who has a daughter, If my girlfriend got in to a strop every time I spoke to my daughter, then she wouldn't be my girlfriend. Stick to your guns.
2007-01-07 08:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by simon m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not horrible at all what ever happens between u and ur dad is nothing to do with her, he will see what she is doing inthe end.
if they get back together don't worry about it just make sure u and ur sister still have a relationship with him
he'll see in the end!
2007-01-07 09:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by bess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right to be pleased. Your dad should have serious words with her. I cant imagine any father allowing his girlfriend to dictate to him about talking about his own daughter?
2007-01-07 08:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by I know nothing! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way i would be well happy if i was u go celebrate u got ur dad bk maybe now ur dad will realise what she is like and then maybe they wont get bk together
2007-01-07 09:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by zagars07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are normal. And he is better off. Tell him you are sorry for his sake, but don't bother to pretend to be heartbroken. I doubt he expects that from you either.
2007-01-07 08:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋