The school bully?

Question

ok i was bullied quite badly at high school 20yr ago, today i met her the girl that caused me so much pain and upset,basically because of what she did she runined my school life, i came across her today and she was like hi wot you been up to? she is a ex herion addict clean for 5 months,and acting like we were once best pals(we never were) i have moved on got lovely kids and a nice man,shes liked screwed up,is that justic?? or am i being mean?? wot would you do in my shoes??

Answer 1

Give her some more heroin?

Answer 2

Yes, it is justice. No you are not being mean. In your shoes I would try to be pleasant and polite, but keep my distance. She did not ruin your whole life, obviously, just cast a cloud over your school days.

I later discovered that the girl who made my school life a misery had a horrible home life, was sexually abused. That made it easier somehow, she was doing what kids do, reproducing at school what those with power over her at home (where she had no power) did to her. Of course she should have known better and dealt with it in an "adult" way, but she was only a kid, and the woman I am now cannot condemn her. Especially as, like you, I have moved on and have a happy life, and she's a lump of lard in poor health.

This encounter will probably help you to rethink your schooldays, and make you even happier as a result. No need to stay in contact with her unless you want to. You can either tell her your version of your school days, or not. Write it all down though, that really helps.

Answer 3

I was bullied at school by a girl who considered herself good looking, popular etc.
I went on to university, I teach, I act, I write. I'm happily married to a lovely man. have two healthy daughters a lovely house and car. I have loads of friends and hobbies
She works at the local chippy. She's covered in fat burns, has bad teeth and is basically haggard and old looking.
I relsih each and every time I go into that chippy, she has to serve me. It makes me feel good to see her, and to know she once made my life hell. I am alwaYS really nice to her an she now is really nice to me.
The way I see it is : Every dog sees its day.
I have no doubt that she is happy with her life and all power to her. I do feel however that because I can talk to her pleasantly and she can do the same we have both grown up (it does however give me little guilty satisfaction to compare our lives!!!)

Answer 4

You have done it all by being you! From what u have written you are a lovely person that has moved on with Ur life and made it wonderful! She on the other hand must of had underlying issues to bully so badly and that is why she has turned out the way she has. Please don't lower your self to make her feel the way she made u feel. Just be pleasant and be your self!

Answer 5

Good things come to those who wait. Thats what I say , She got what she deserved. If I was in your shoes I would ignore her, those sort of people will bleed you for everything you have , stay clear and watch her ruin her life even more. And what ever you do DONT feel sorry for her cause I can asure you, she did not feel sorry for you, when she was ruining your life.

Answer 6

if you see her again tell her you are not friends and never plan to be. Tell her she made your life miserable, now you are happy and really want nothing to do with her. I was also bullied and would love the satisfaction to be able to say now what I should have said then. Just show KARMA!!!what goes around comes around

Answer 7

You don't say how you handled the situation, but I think I would just smile and let her think what she wants to think. I would not give her my phone number or address, as you don't need that headache! Especially with her being an recovering addict.
I think just knowing where she is and knowing where you are would be enough for me.

Answer 8

You have seen with your own eyes what her hatred did to her. Continue being the sweet person you are, and be above anything that can pull you down including those feelings of self justification. Just forgive and literally forget everything that happened. She needs your prayers. Peace

Answer 9

No you are not being mean enough. I was tortured as a kid too and I would have like laughed my *** off at her in front of her and been like why are you talking to me you herion *****. You know you were mean to mean in High school why are you talking to me now you looser. bye bye.

Answer 10

It's Karma baby!!! 2 sisters I was at school with used to bully everyone, they are both junkies now and I'm always reading about their kids dads getting sent to prison for stealing and dealing drugs. I always say hi to them but smile to myself and think that they got what they deserved!!

Answer 11

initially, i might desire to declare how astounding your daughter is. no longer many youngsters, exceedingly her age, might play with somebody who gets teased plenty. youngsters think of it particularly is it rather is incorrect in case you befriend somebody who's diverse or is bullied plenty. you are able to desire to be very happy along with her. i'm no longer particularly that old, in certainty, i'm in extreme-college. i've got been bullied each year when you consider that kindergarten, and that i've got had to pass to 4 diverse faculties by way of severity of the teasing. i've got no longer purely been verbally teased, yet i've got additionally been punched, kicked, slammed into lockers, and hit with products at school. instructors do no longer do plenty approximately it anymore even nevertheless each and every college you are able to visit those days is a "vast anti-bully college". it particularly is bullshit, because of the fact i've got particularly been punched in the face in front of a instructor and that they have completed no longer something approximately it. rather of having all those "no drugs" communicate, we could desire to consistently have "no bullying" talks at school. additionally, dad and mom could desire to describe how and bullying is to their toddlers. this could shop somebody.