my boyfriend is 13 also, like me, and we've had sex in his parents basement 4 or 5 times...do you think this is right, we sincerely love eachother, and we're just experimenting. we use protection too.
2007-01-07 08:24:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I do not think it is right. You are both far too young to understand the consequences of what you are doing. You should talk to an adult that you trust and tell them what you have been doing before it ends up ruining your life.
2007-01-07 08:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Hotsauce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you too are genuinely in love, and you both handle the relationship in a mature, intelligent way then it's ok.
However, I would advise extreme caution, use protection wisely and never,ever go without, not even once, on a whim. You should also know the posiible consequences of your actions. How would your parents react if they found out you were pregnant? If you were pregnant, would you have an abortion? Or, if you kept the baby, would you have somewhere safe to stay if your parents kicked you out of the house? This may seem extreme, but if you are having a sexual relationship, it is important to have these things clear in your head. This way, if it should happen, you already know your own opinions and know what to do. Remember that protection is never 100% safe.
Loving eachother is all well and good, but if the idea that you could end up pregnant really scares you, then maybe you arent ready for a sexual relationship. You need to think long and hard about this, and remember, although you have already had sex, you can still say no if you want. There are other ways to express yourselves sexually with less risk of pregnancy or STDs, and this may be a better option until you feel you are willing to consider all of those things I mentioned before.
If you still feel you two are genuinely in love and can deal with anything that might happen as a result of your sexual experimentation, then go ahead, and enjoy yourselves in the safest way possible!
Good luck!!
2007-01-07 16:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by rosy p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always say before you have sex, even if you use protection. Ask if you are ready to be a parent. If you are not ready to be a mother or father then you are not ready to have sex. It only takes once and condoms are not 100% effective.
So if you are ready to be a parent then you are ready to have sex. But seriously at 13 you have so much ahead of you don't rush being a parent. B/c it's a few minutes that give the rest of your life up to someone else that you have to be there for. Being a parent is a neverending job and one you can't call in sick for.
2007-01-07 16:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say all that stuff about how you're too young, bla bla bla bla bla. BUT: I'm just saying, that you might not like him when you are older and both of you will move on. So why have such intimacy with a guy that you don't even know you're going to be with in the future? When you grow up, the only reason you will regret it is because you will wish that you could have saved you and your intimacy for the person you really truly love.
2007-01-07 16:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by julia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that its pretty gross cause i'm 13 and i seriously dont think i'm ready but i know how bois can be somtimes cause my bf is a real nasty and well u know lets just say that he wasnt is really bad but i aint givin it to him because its your body and your descision and if he really loves you he'll wait BUT if you've had sex 4 or 5 times like u you know ur kinda 2 lait the damage has already been done
2007-01-08 17:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by cookiegurl_9392 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOO! you are wayyyyyyy to young, you are a "teen" not an adult, you dont need to rush things, no 13 yr old girl or boy is ready for the responsibility that it takes being a mother or a father, yall need to see someone about this and if it is Love IT CAN WAIT, you need to keep your virgenity as long as you can, if you were to wake up one morning pregnant, what would your parents think, you would go through so much pain and missery!!! You need to start thinking positive and stop having SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-07 16:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lakelyn_045 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it, I mean be pro-choice if I spelled that right, do what you like be a democratic-anarchist which in my words is a kind of do what you want if you want and the rest of the party wants to. Im givin you advice because im 13.
2007-01-07 22:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by persona1025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see any problem with it. & thats not because i had sex at 13. im 17 & still a virgin. i just think that people make "sex" into this whole big deal that you have to be a certain age & you have to be in love & blah blah blah. i think that sex is healthy & a way to express yourself. so i say kudos to you little lady. =]
2007-01-07 16:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by literateandstylish_x 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that is so wrong..u guys are way too young
u are going to ruin your future...
stop having sex...dump ur boyfriend..and enjoy ur childhood
u dont want a baby at 13-15..and that is were u are headed
trust me..i am 23 yrs old...and i still have alot to do b4i want to get married..i can travel..i can do whatever i want...
trust me..u will regret it if u dont wait
2007-01-07 16:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by A Girl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell ya hun but 13 is waaay too young. I would quit while you were ahead so you don't have to wake up one day with morning sickness.
2007-01-07 16:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by learn_from_catch22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋