during christmas break me and my brothers had to stay over grandmas for 3 days. i'm 13 and my brothers are 9 and 5. anyway for bathtime she made me bathe with my younger brothers and i hadn't done that in 2 years. i tried to tell her no i didn't want to, but i couldn't change her mind. once i got in the bathtub it wasn't that bad but i was a little embarassed cause she sat there almost the entire time. i told my mom and she didn't seem to care. what can i do?
2007-01-07 08:22:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you're just trying to stir stuff up, based on this and your other question. Maybe you should get your kicks elsewhere.
2007-01-07 08:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by greensock 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think your grandma is like mine - picky over water. My grandma was always irritating me when I'd take a bath because she thought I took too long.
I think your grandma is just old fashioned, and she doesn't want to waste money on heating and water bills, but that isn't any reason to embarass you over it. Your mom probably sides with you, but doesn't want to insult her mother (or mother-on-law) - still, talk to her about it and either ask grandma yourself, or ask your mother to ask her politely why you can't take a bath alone. If it is money, offer to give her $1 or so each time you take a bath - I imagine it would cost less than that to heat and run water for however long you take a bath. Also, tell your grandma that you're a teenager now, and thus need more privacy, so ask her to stop watching you. It's your right to have at least that little bit of privacy, after all.
2007-01-07 08:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sailor Jupiter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I ask the two my women an prolonged time 4 and 15 months in the event that they are waiting for "bathtime" and then I replenish the bathtub with heat water and upload slightly hypoallergenic bubble bath to the water. They love the suds and make little beards and hair do's out of the bubbles all the jointly as splashing and squealing with delight. Then i'm getting my bottle of bubbles and replenish the full bathing room with bubbles in the air. They like it plenty and its lovable to visual exhibit unit them enjoying bathtime jointly. in addition they have stacking cups and little fish that flow in the water for fiddling with and that they love those besides.
2016-11-27 02:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Mom about it again make sure you tell her that it really bothered you and what should you do next time you are at Grandmas? I would not want to bathe with my 9year old brother if I was 13 either!!!
2007-01-07 15:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're thirteen! My gosh, what I would do is be persistant and refuse to do so if it is making you uncomfortable! No offense but your mother and grandmother may not realize that you are not 5 or even 9 (which hmm I still don't understand why they are taking baths together...lol to save water?). Again be persistant in telling them how you feel and if they still won't listen, I would find an excuse to avoid the situation where you'd have to take a shower with your brothers. Find someone who will listen and understand how you feel, then have them help you talk to your mother and grandmother.
2007-01-07 08:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by dark_sapphire21 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully the next time you stay there u will be able to explain to your grandma that it is just to uncomfortable for you to take a bath with your brothers. Maybe try to take a shower before she really has a chance to tell you to take a bath.
2007-01-07 08:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by pierronmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it ever happens again, tell her you are too old to take baths with anyone and you are certainly too old to have your grandmother watch you. Just flat refuse to do it. I usually side with parents on making kids mind them, but this borders on sexual abuse. You are at an age now where if it bothers you, you should be allowed your privacy. Take this post to your mom and let her read it. Tell her you will not allow that treatment again and if they try to force you, you will call the authorities so they can explain to her how wrong it is. Good Luck!
2007-01-07 08:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's just wrong. Your grandma may be trying to save money by having you all bathe at once. Tell your mom and your grandma that you need your privacy not that you are a teen.
2007-01-07 08:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Next time that happens tell your grandma that you are getting too old to bathe with your siblings. Tell her you would rather do some things like that for example by yourself, with no one in the bathroom at the time
2007-01-07 08:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Sydd 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me start by saying I'm terribly sorry u had to endure that awful experience and I pray it may never happen again. I don't know the best way for u to approach this situation, but u could start by talking to grandma again. If not face to face, perhaps in a letter or card. If that doesn't appear to work u can always tell mom to order her to stop or u won't feel comfortable sleeping over at her place anymore. It maybe kinda harsh but it might be the only way to get her to under stand that u are maturing and u need privacy.
2007-01-07 08:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
your mother doesn't seem to like you too much. Lols. Its okay though. you're only 13. Better spend time with your siblings now then having to go to college and not being able to spend time with them. Just relax and have fun. You do seem a little old. Maybe talk to your grandma ? Dont plead, just like talk and tell her about how you feel uncomfortable.
2007-01-07 08:27:58 · answer #11 · answered by ViVo (: 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋