i met a guy that knew my daughter initially, we got friendly after a while but there was the possibility that they had maybe been involved, anyway i got involved and we had a brief relationship,he was in and out of my life for a while then he disappeared. I tracked him down to prison and i have visited and been waiting for into a 2nd year now, written almost everyday. I have just found out that he is now ringing my daughter and telling her all the same things he told me, i.e. will you marry me etc etc. I'v waited faithfully for almost 2 years and have loved him for into a 4th year and despite him knowing this and how much i love him, now that he has obtained my daughters number he is ringing her everyday and she is playing the game that she's always had feelings for him. Do i hang on in there for my man that is ringing my daughter or do i risk loosing him and say if your ringing my daughter then have her?
2007-01-07 08:20:58 · 25 answers · asked by mymanomer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you in competition with your daughter? It seems that you have a need to take men away from your daughter, and this is just sick.
Obviously, you don't have much to do with your daughter on a daily basis, if you've only "just found out" that he's been calling her.
You should get professional help re your obsession of needing to take men from your daughter. And in the meantime, you need to get out of their lives.
By the way, I think everyone involved sound like losers. You because you have a need to cheat on your daughter. Him because he's ended up in prison for a couple of years for something, and he had the nerve to screw Mum when he'd already done the daughter. And your daughter for not kicking him to the curb when she found out that YOU had been screwing her boyfriend.
I think you all need to grow up, and get a huge dose of reality.
2007-01-07 08:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you and your daughter need to wake up. He is and has played you both. Most men would love to do a daughter and a mother and the two of you have made a wish come true. Love is funny sometimes and I know it can be hard but I would not want to be with someone who want to be with my child. I would cut your loses and heal from this so you can move on. I feel that you need to have a long talk to your daughter as well because she does not need him in her life as well. There are good men out there (not in jail) that will respect and love you. Good luck
2007-01-07 16:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mateesta B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why was he in prison in the first place ? there must of been a specific reason maybe relating to women... personally i would just invite him round and invite your daughter without him knowing. So they are there at the same time and have it out with both of them and ask him who he loves you or her.
Normally i would not attend that. If your daughter was wise enough she would know alot better than to be with a guy like this. He is currently showing that he is a cheater who likes sleeping about with Mums and Daughters.
find a new man. forget about cheaters and losers.
good luck
sorry if non of this made sense. :p
2007-01-07 16:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your daughter both need to tell him to go to hell. It is a sick person that will have a affair with a daughter and then the mother. I would never want the same dick that my daughter or mother used, just something morally wrong with that. If he is in prison, that is a good place for him. You and your daughter both need to get some respect for each other first and then for yourself. He is not worth it.
2007-01-07 16:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm I would run as far as possible away from that situation because he is playing you both....that's kinda gross and wrong to date someone you knew you're daughter had already been involved with anyways.......and in the case of who gets him both of you should stay away because it will only cause problems, I'm sorry but you should have never gone there and done that so just put it in the past and move on and if nothing else you should be talking to your daughter about this problem instead of Yahoo answers people who know nothing about the otherside of the story......Happy New Years
2007-01-07 16:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by *CiTsJuStMe* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to forget the guy, and if you love your daughter, tell her to forget the guy too. I wouldn't want my daughter in a relationship with someone like that for sure. Smells like trouble to me. Don't let this guy ruin your relationship with your daughter. You can both find someone out there, there is plenty of good guys in the world. Don't let him be the wedge between the two of you.
2007-01-07 16:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried about losing him you should realize that neither one of you have him anyway. If he is playing you and your daughter, how many other women is he ringing. Please tell your daughter to lose the loser and do the same yourself. And remember, he is in jail for a reason, because he can't be trusted. So why be the dumb girl who trusts him and gets her heart broken. You probably want to forget him and by asking are just trying to find the courage. Well, here it is. Byebye loser, hello, freedom.
2007-01-07 16:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by sumarhwyatt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If He's ringing your Daughter he could'nt think very much of you
was it an act of Bravado thing, that made him go with you or vise-versa, whichever you're better off to walk away.If he made the advance in the first place he was'nt trying to impress his mates was he,alternatively if you made the first move were you trying to prove you could still 'pull em' Anyway get rid of him and find somebody your own age Like Me!!!!!!!
2007-01-07 16:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really? You're not sure what to do? Your man is trying to get into your daughter's pants whilst coming onto you...I'd have thought that it's clear that you need to hitch your skirts (no pun intended) and head for the hills as fast as you can. Get rid of him, find someone nice and don't let him anywhere near your daughter!
2007-01-07 16:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Eds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save yourself the pain and go on with your life that is a really F'ed up situation ive never heard of a man fighting over another man with his daughter but im not judging you anything can happen but a daughter is for life some guy especially this one is temporary go on with your life and try to get your daughter away from this guy and try to salvage your relationship with her cause im sure its not good. Good luck to you
2007-01-07 16:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by phenom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋