My fiance & I are paying for our own wedding, so we chose to keep the wedding party small, and guest list to family & close friends. Now, six months before our wedding, the bridesmaid pulled out. So we have a bride, groom, best man, maid of honor, and a groomsman.
I'm debating whether to ask someone to be a bridesmaid, or to just leave it with just us (bride & groom) and the best man & maid of honor. If so, I don't know how to tell the groomsman that basically, he won't be in the wedding anymore.
What's the proper etiquette in this situation...and any suggestions on how/what to do?
Thanks!
2007-01-07 08:03:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It would be very rude to ask someone to be in your wedding and then tell them they aren't needed anymore. I would ask someone else to be a bridesmaid.
2007-01-07 08:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first things first. The bigger breach of etiquette is to uninvite someone to be in your wedding. (The lesser breach being the bridesmaid who pulled out of the wedding so close to your wedding). Anyway, there is no etiquette that dictates that the bridal party must be "even." The proper thing to do is to ask your unaccompanied groomsman to escort your mom or grandmother down the aisle. Then he would stand next to the best man during the ceremony. If there will be a formal recessional, the groomsman may either walk alone (him walking after the maid of honor and best man) OR, he can again escort your mom or grandmother out of the church. Please don't un-ask him to be in the wedding.
2007-01-10 17:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the groomsman and don't put yourself thru the hassle of getting a new bridesmaid.
My husband had one less groomsman than I did bridesmaid.The first groomsman that pulled out had a family event get planned for the day before and it wasn't possible for him to make it. The one we replaced him with got in a car accident. Then another ones dog bit our daughter and we haven't talked To them since.We then asked his brother who kept making up excuses after he agreed to until we let him off of the hook. Then the best man got in a car accident so we upgraded one of the groomsmen.In the end we had a best man (who had a bad fall 2 days before but, still made it) and a groomsman who was waiting for his wife to go into labour any minute but, was there. And I had a Matron of Honor and 2 bridesmaids a junior bridesmaid flower girl and ring bearer.
It all still worked great so I just say use the ones that want to be there and don't worry about being un even its better to Honor the friends who want to share the day and not worry about the rest.
2007-01-07 08:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all wedding parties are even on both sides...if the groomsman was close enough to you and your fiance to be asked to stand with you, it would be rude not to give him the chance to. It is okay that the bridesmaid backed out, the two sides will just be uneven. I have done quite a few weddings where there were more bridesmaids than groomamen, or more groomsmen than bridesmaids...no big deal.
2007-01-07 11:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not dismiss the groomsman. There are many other tasks he can perform. Ushering people to their seats, handing out programs, etc. It would be terrible to exclude him and there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a bride, maid of honor, groom, best man, and usher/groomsman in the wedding!
2007-01-07 08:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like getting married isn't enough stress! Slow down and take a deep breath....not a big deal here at all as far as I can tell.
As far as etiquette goes I couldn't tell you.........as far as common sense goes you have two options either your husband to be has two best men!......no law against that or because the wedding is a small affair the groomsman keeps his job, stands with the best man during the service and before that he ensures that all guests are seen to their seats etc.
CONGRATS & I know everything will turn out just fine!
2007-01-07 08:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by looneybinexpress 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think that you can tell the groomsman not to be a part of the wedding. how about instead of him walking a bridesmaid down the aisle he walks your mum down? that way you dont have to think of someone else as bridesmaid (who probably isnt as close to you) and you dont have to fork out for another dress. have a great wedding and enjoy the rest of your lives together
2007-01-07 08:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't uninvite the groomsman to be one. We didn't have even sides because of a similar situation. We just had the groomsmen walk out before the groom and take his side and then had bridesmaids walk out before the bride and take her side. No 'pairing' them up - problem solved.
2007-01-07 08:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have the same kinda situation... If you really want the grooms men in the wedding then find another bm, but if you know that he will understand then you can maybe put him as something else.. Like walking parents down or reading a poem for the ceremony or something.. So atleast he's not totally out of the wedding. Good luck!! :)
2007-01-07 08:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well when my sister got married a 2 years ago she had a similar situation and what she ended up doing is she had the groomsman walk with the flower girls (which she had 2 flower girls but it would still work with only one)... so if u have a flower girl you might be able to try that . . . it looks really cute lol
2007-01-07 09:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by Soon 2 be Mrs.Miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 02:21:08 · answer #11 · answered by bunton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋