i have this new cowoker..for two month, I have big time crush on her, so two month ago(when she has been in the job only two week), I asked her informaly to go out for a coffee after work, she said she has to go to see her friend.. since then we have been talking more and more and finally last night at boss house(party) i aksed her again,, she was very mean and refussed/rejected me.. so what i should do? it is very difficult to to go to workb/c i have to s see her each day and get hurt.. i cannot take her out of my mind, it is like everytime i see her, the wound became fresher and fresher..why life so unfair...
Please help me.. i am so depressed, should i kill myself, i dont see any other soluation, if i quite job,, i will not get recommendations and i cannot get another job as good as this one..
i am new to the town,, so not many friends around,
2007-01-07 07:30:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about what you said..."another job as good as this one".
Your job is making you want to kill yourself...it isn't that good!
Quit your job and get on with your life.
Here are some numbers for you.
SUICIDE PREVENTION
Suicide & Crisis Hotline 1-800-999-9999 Help for Troubled Teens
National Hope Line Network 1-800-784-2433 Suicide Prevention
SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT IT TO
Talk Zone 1-800-475-TALK Peer Counselors
Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens
Teen Hot Line 1-800-747-8336 Hot Line For Troubled Teens
VOICES In Action, Inc. 1-773-327-1500
Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline
2007-01-08 12:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you even think about it! Over a girl??? In case you haven't noticed, there are a MILLION girls out there! I'm not sure what her problem is and why she was mean, but don't take it personal. She probably has her own issues and you shouldn't let it bother you this much. Obviously you're a sensitive guy. That's a great quality to have and I wish more guys were sensitive! I understand that you're depressed. I've been there too and rejection sucks. I can promise you that 2 months from now, this situation will be ancient history. In the meantime, you need to keep your job. You said it's a good one, so don't let this ruin that for you. Just focus on your job, not her and it will get easier okay? As for being new to town, that's always tough. If you're feeling depressed you need to get out there and do something that makes you feel good. Do you work out? The gym is a great place to meet people and exercise will help take your mind off of things. Maybe hanging out at a coffee shop? I wish I could be more help. Do NOT do anything stupid. If I have learned anything in life, it's that it always goes on. I'm sorry you're upset and I really hope you feel better soon.
2007-01-07 07:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by otbfj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection always hurts...and almost every person has had it happen to them one time or other. It is not however a good reason to consider suicide. There are so many other people to meet that we will have lost.
When someone says they are not interested it never ever is a one sided thing. You too have part of the blame.
You must realize that in spite of how much you think you love her there never was a reason why she should love you in return. And what you think is love is really only a strong attraction because love takes a long time to build.
One thing you need to know. Women are not intentionally mean to guys unless they feel they have no choice. She may have tried to tell you in many ways that she was not interested but that went right by you. With your persistence she finally had no choice but to be blunt about it.
Just remember this. You had a life before her and you can have one after her. Just because you like her does not obligate her to like you. Now she may very well like you but only as a friend. If you had not pushed it beyond that she never ever would have been mean to you.
As hard as it is just consider this as a lesson about women. Not every woman you meet will want to be with you. Your job is to find the one who does. And trust me....she is out there waiting for you to find her.
2007-01-07 08:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...where to begin. Well first of all...nothing is worth suicide. So lets take that equation of the the math here. You're new in town, you just started working, you've seen one girl, and you've been exposed to nothing it seems. Why not go out, explore the town? You've been locked up looking at the same person for how long? It should not at all be awkward to go to work. After you just want something she doesn't. Leave it at that. The more awkward you think it is, the more awkward it is. Just go on like nothing happened. If you show signs of weakness, she will just be drawn away from you more. Go out, have fun, there are 3 billion+ females in the world, and I'm sure there is more than one in your home town. New town = new adventure. The last thing you want to do is start drama where you've just shown up. Be the bigger person, step back, turn around, and walk away. Keep yourself busy...very busy...and I assure you she will be out of your head in no time. Guarantee 5-6 months from now, you'll look back at this and laugh. face-palm, and say "what the hell was i thinking"
2007-01-07 07:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Needanswers 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. There are a lot of emergency hotlines that you can call if you're confused and need someone to talk to. My advice would be that you look one up in your directory as soon as possible.
As far as the girl goes: She's rude and she's mean. Are you sure that you would have wanted somebody like that in your life anyway? Even if she had decided to go out with you she would have shown her true colours eventually, and it would have hurt even more after a few dates. Anyway, you barely know her. Forget her and move on. You're new in town, you've got to get yourself out there and meet people. Go to a club, a bar, join a special interest group, anything. You'll find someone else. Good luck to you.
2007-01-07 07:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Little Girl Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are serious about your suicide thoughts you should call 1-800 suicide. You should realize that it is okay to be sad if you are rejected by someone but that it is not the end of the world. Go to work and everyday, it will get a little bit easier. You will meet someone else! You should try to socialize outside the workplace because it's not always best to date a co-worker (what if things don't work out etc. it can be awkward) Anyhow, I hope this helps. good luck and may God bless you.
2007-01-07 07:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on buddy. think. you did not know this woman b4 you got this job. Apparetnly she doesnt want to mix business with pleasure right now and you should be able to accept that. Dont get ur panties in a knot over someone you barely know. Be thankful that you have a job first of all. Maybe you should look at it like this, everyday that you come to work is another oppurtunity to look at her beautiful face. Another thing, stop showing her that you are interested, and I can almost guarentee that she's going to at least wonder why ur not pursuing her anymore. But man please dont kill yourself over something this minute. She should not mean that much to you that you will kill yourself over a no. We cant have everything that we want, and everything that looks good to us is not necessarily good for us.
2007-01-07 07:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by Amaya T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Annually over a million people die of suicide.Every 40 seconds someone dies of suicide. It's really a truly sad and horrible thing. Hard times push people to do certain things. Not only does it effect the person who commits suicide but it really effects everyone else. Friends and family have to deal with the pain also. And that's the worst part. As for people who commit suicide, they obviously aren't thinking clearly in that moment. If they sat down and really really truly thought about it there wouldn't be a million people dying annually of it. For anyone who has ever had the thought of committing suicide, please please please tell someone close and dear to you. You can stop yourself.
2016-05-23 04:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT kill urself!! its NOT worth it ovr ONE GIRL. Just talk to her and tell her how u r feeling and see how it works out but DO NOT kill urself or u will regret it later. Also if this relationship with this girl doesnt work out then there is other fish in the sea but even if that doesnt work then talk to ur boss about not being able to work properly with this girl around...and also try to be as friendly with every1 as u can and u will be sure to make new friends.
2007-01-07 07:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE is worth killing yourself for......Nor is rejection &/or hurt.
Turn your negative energy into positive energy INTO YOURSELF!
Do NOT kill yourself. And do NOT quit your job. Hold you head up high, and put all your effort into YOU, and your job. By doing good things within yourself, you'll be a success. This will indirectly show her the mistake she made in being so unkind to you. But please do NOT give her a 2nd thought. She does NOT deserve your thoughts OR your time. You have much more do with for yourself, first excelling in your job, and getting to know others, AND your new town. BE STRONG for YOURSELF! You WILL succeed. Best Wishes!
2007-01-07 07:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋