v both met online. spend lot of time together gud as well as worst whn he was goin thru some traumas v both were together thru phone n net, he needed me thm. i actually felt his love. he told me everythinm abt him n so did i. he told abt a gal whom he proposed bt she refused. 1 day she called him to invite in her marriage n thr she proposed him n both r married now. he dint even bother to tell me once of all this as he wanted to keep his image intact b4 me. bt im deeply hurt. v both havnt talk frm an yr n i miss him a lot. even all this i gotta know thru some1 else. plz help me wat shud i do...
work to get him back coz trust me he really loved me once....
or take revenge
or forget him
bt i know 1 thing now i cant love any1 else other thn him
plz help..........
2007-01-07 07:23:37 · 16 answers · asked by jiyya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
v both met online. spend lot of time together gud as well as worst whn he was goin thru some traumas v both were together thru phone n net, he needed me thm. i actually felt his love. he told me everythinm abt him n so did i. he told abt a gal whom he proposed bt she refused. 1 day she called him to invite in her marriage n thr she proposed him n both r married now. he dint even bother to tell me once of all this as he wanted to keep his image intact b4 me. bt im deeply hurt. v both havnt talk frm an yr n i miss him a lot. even all this i gotta know thru some1 else. plz help me wat shud i do...
work to get him back coz trust me he really loved me once....
or take revenge
or forget him
bt i know 1 thing now i cant love any1 else other thn him
plz help..........
PEOPLE HE DID SAY ME THT HE LOVES ME,A HELL LOT OF TIME N WID IMMENSE FEELINGS N LOVE.
HE EVEN SAID ONCE THT I M HAPPY THT I LEFT MY EX.
PLZ DONT GET ME WRONG PEOPLE.....
2007-01-08 00:36:26 · update #1
PEOPLE HE DID SAY ME THT HE LOVES ME,A HELL LOT OF TIME N WID IMMENSE FEELINGS N LOVE.
HE EVEN SAID ONCE THT I M HAPPY THT I LEFT MY EX.
PLZ DONT GET ME WRONG PEOPLE.....
2007-01-08 00:37:32 · update #2
Hi,
First i wonder a lot, how could you blindly belive someone said his part of story and you started loving him. I would say it is your stupidness.(Sorry to say like this.) Best is forget him. Don't try to talk to him anymore. There is a chance for him to missuse you.
As far as the way you mentioned in your question. It seems he just enjoyed talking to you on phone and net just for time passing.
Missused you that what i can say.
Think why you worry and make your health down, coz of some stupid made you hurt your heart. If you really want to show who you are. You should come up in life and prove him, that he is not fit for you. Give him a lesson. If you worry about him. He sure will prove that you are stupid and just enjoyed you.
Taking revenge is not gonna make it satify you in anyways. He behaved badly and what would be the difference if you take revenge on him. You both are same in character by this way. Don't take revenge. Instead teach him a lesson, That you are not just a simple girl what he thinks in his mind.
Don't say you cannot love anyone for just this stupid guy made you hurt you. It is no worth. He is not fit for the words you put here.C'mon wake up and don't worry and come up in life. Study well and get a good job.
2007-01-07 10:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mayandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely not correct on his part to have left you high and dry like this. Definitely not right. Your hurt is real.
1. By taking a revenge, what are you going to get... just a temporary satisfaction that you vented out your anger, but do you really believe he will throw out his marriage and marry you ?
2. It is already a year old and you haven't been able to forget him. True... you wouldn't be able to forget him, until you learn to FORGIVE him and move past.
3. Missing him a lot - another good sign - goes to prove that you really liked him. His being very open to you does not mean that he was IN LOVE with you.
4. You can't love anyone else other than him - Good, but not essential. For the moment, don't ponder on this. Let time go by and concentrate on things much better than pining for a person's love. Start GIVING love to things / people that really need.
Be strong. You have been given the strength to bear everything. Just be strong to yourself and have faith in yourself. The rest will fall in place. Good luck !
2007-01-07 17:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should get rid of thinking about him..and move on that's the best for u..because he already is married..and u haven't contact with him since one year..that's a lot distance ..Now he might forget everything about you..he loved u once but may be changed himself now! men are not emotionally same as women sometimes..that's true..you can't fix this relationship so you have to let this go way from your life..If u really love him see his happiness not your selfishness ..and this is the fact u need to accept it..u say now u can't love anyone else but by the time somebody, somewhere is there sure for u ! leave it upto God..What relationship working presently into your life think about that...
2007-01-07 07:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Diya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but it sounds like you were a hard-core rebound. He probably needed somebody to love him because he was reeling from the last rejection. And I'm sure he did have feelings for you b/c you were there for him. That's probably why he didn't tell you about the other girl, didn't know how or didn't want to hurt you. It's not right on his part, but it wasn't malicious either. Since he picked the other girl, the best thing you can do is forgive and forget. And MOVE ON! Don't stay hung up on him!
2007-01-07 07:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by claire5star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Jiiya,
Has he said that he loves you ? if not then Their is nothing wrong on his part..... He needed some girl to manage himself and you played that role and brought smile back on his face. (only 5% of the people in this world can do this.... U are simply great)
Now u r broken. you take help of your friends to come out of this HELL...
1. Don't Try to get him back... no doubt he may leave you again.
2. Revenge, Don't even think of it.... you will spoil at least 3 lives.
3. You Have got to forget him....
4. Believe me, you will FALL IN LOVE once again.
Cheers,
Life is their to live don't spoil it, it's beautiful.
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2007-01-07 18:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needed someone to be there when he was going through bad times, and you were there, if he left for his love which he found agian whats wrong? Are you not happy that what ever happened happened within 3 months of the relationship? "You actually felt his love" He did not ever express he loved you, You built that yourself, how is it his fault? He was honest and confessed all his problems of his first love and the pains he was going through, he never once said he loved you, the problem is you not him. Please do not misunderstand me, it is the only way to see this situation, on taking revenge, it is surely not a loving act, love is patient, love is never angry, and love is letting go. You can love him for ever no one can stop you from loving him, but he should love you in return is not possible, what is under your control is what you control, you cannot force someone to love you, this is not love it is called dictatorship!
Perhaps you need to understand the meaning of love, meaing of friendship and all different kinds of relationships. Grow up!
2007-01-07 11:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you destroying for some pig who does not care for your feelings!!!
taking revenge, working to get him back all are only going to make you feel more and will show your desperation
Just get over him !! find a new mate!!
Forget him for good!! and trust me you can and will probably start loving someone in time but only better and with more maturity and control!!
2007-01-07 07:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by metallixan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys come and they go like the wind. Do not limit yourself to only him there are many more guys out there and trust me we will come in contact with a lot before GOD sends us the right one for us. Let this be a learning process and a strength base pick up ur pieces and move on. He was not the one GOD sent for you he is still out there next time try to keep your guard up around your heart before you let a guy in on it guys are not promising to any of us they move around as they please. They do not look at things like we do. He was just using you for a good conversation and waiting on her to finally come back to him pretty much he was using you to hide and make his feeling for her disappear or go away but his feelings for her were too strong to hide, he did not tell you cause he didnot wanna hurt your feelings and look like a phoney so move on hun the right guy is out there for you. Plenty more to choose from he is not the only guy on earth I know there is one better than he whom will be truthful the whole time and be sent from GOD to you. Do not limit your love only to him you are blocking your real true blessing of a husband being sent to u.
2007-01-07 09:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi lol. i find no use in blaming you for the entire happening. i do share your part of the story.
he needed you to console himself and you were there for him. when things go wrong by loving a guy whom you know, how could you trust him over the phone or net. anyways, he would felt guilty in avoiding your love and marrying his ex-gf. i do understand that it would be the most difficult part of your life, but you need to accept the reality. consider him as your past and keep marching forward.
2007-01-07 16:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by Adam Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is nothing u can do except forgetting him coz if u luv him then u won't wan him 2 be unhappy.......
Life is 2 short my dear so watever u do u hav 2 suffer urslf 4 d happiness of others
N my dear u might get someone else more better then him.Don't jus loose hope!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-07 07:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋