I have been dating this guy for about six months. For the past month or so he would flip out if i wasn't perfect. and i mean perfect No Mistakes. I love this man to death but he has just called it quits. i have more sexual experience and i know he was to experiment other women but it hurts. How do you let the love of your life just walk away and sleep with other women? Was i not good enough? He says he wants me to be his wife and he doesn't want to talk to me until he is ready because it hurts too much. But i just cant handle it i love him and if you truly love someone you should be with them. We have been fighting so much and it feels like i cant do anything right. but being without him feels sooo wrong.
2007-01-07 07:08:26 · 38 answers · asked by Elley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love of your life?? Sounds more like the love of your NIGHTMARE!! Tell him to hit the road. Its his loss, not yours.
2007-01-07 07:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by D.C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The philosophy I use is if someone can walk away from you, let them walk. It doesn't mean they are a bad person, it just means that their part in your story is over.
The first time I read this, my first thought was that it was a cop-out on his part. A way for him to continue a sexual relationship openly with other women and still have you hanging on until he is "ready."
I do believe that true love conquers all in the end. I am so sorry that you are in so much pain, I can relate to not wanting to be without the one you love. Being without them feels as though your very soul has been violated...you feel lost..and so empty.
In the end you cannot change someone's mind for them...all you can do is take care of yourself..minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. Know that if he loves you as you do him, your love will find a way.
Good luck
2007-01-07 07:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to be with somebody who thinks perfect exsists? Or more so, why do you want to be perfect all the time for somebody who says they love you? Love implies that the person cares for you know matter what, good or bad. Also, it doesnt matter how much sexual experience he has, or the lack there of, if he truely loves you, youre it for him. i know its hard to love somebody so much and have them walk away but take it as a learning experience. Thats something i have learned to do. In any relationship, if it goes sour, take what you have learned from it and move on. People learn so much about love through broken hearts, and ive acctually promised myself that i would never EVER date anyone unless they have had a broken heart before. Because in my opinion you dont know how to love somebody until you know how bad it hurts to lose that love. Also i can tell you right now that if you do get back together with him and he starts telling you to be perfect again your going to become so insecure with yourself it's not even funny, then what happens if you break up for real? There isnt going to be anything left for the next guys because this guy destroyed it all.
2007-01-07 07:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgiggles1225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this man has really done a job on your self esteem. I'm sorry to say that this was not the love of your life if he treated you badly and expected you to be perfect. If someone truly loves you they should love you for who you are and just the way you are instead of expecting things to be done only his way. A good relationship doesn't involve fighting and arguing all the time. You should be thankful he is out of your life because now you have the chance to meet someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
2007-01-07 07:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not the love of your life , the love of your life would not treat you with so much disrespect , move on , Love yourself more than you love him , God has someone special for you , but you will never find each other if you keep thinking of this other man . He does not love you , and to think if you married this man , he might in a year or two , say , he needs to see other women to see if he wants to stay married , come on , you know better then to be with someone who does not love you nor respect your feelings . Do not wake up years from now , and see how much time you have wasted on man like that .
2007-01-07 07:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by christina3661@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suspect his behavior of late comes from his unwillingness to communicate something to you. There's something on his mind and he's not being truthful or has only told you some of it. Whenever a relationship takes on a downward slope, there's something in the way of the relationship functioning as it once did. This is usually an uncommunicated communication or a thwarted expectation. I don't know how old you are but I do believe there will be other "true loves" in your life. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Especially with some guy who wants to "experience other women". This is total crap and nothing more than a convenient excuse for him to mess you about. Keep your chin up and for heaven's sake, don't sit around waiting for your "true love" to come back to you. Get on with your life. There are many, many fish in the sea.
2007-01-07 07:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by largerladybug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfriend did that!! He told me that he loved me but that he wasn't ready to have just one woman. He wanted to experience other girls and that he couldn't be with me RIGHT NOW. That's a load of bull! If he loved you then you would have been enough for him even if he was a virgin when you met! He's going to try and keep you on the back burner while he goes around the town. If something happens and it doesn't work out for him he knows you'll be there. Let him go and find someone worthy of your love. If you don't you'll find yourself waiting for him to come back and miss out on your life and maybe your true love. That's what I did. I told my ex that either I was enough for him now or I will never be enough. I ended it and I'm happy now.
2007-01-07 07:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by Gwenith O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you deserve respect, and appreciation. No matter how bad you think you 'Love" this guy, if he doesn't honor you as the lady you are... then you should leave him. Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about your feelings, and only thinks about himself? If he wants to see other women, let him! You could do much better, so think about it. Sex is'nt everything, and being treated like a fool isn't either. Make the right decision!
2007-01-07 07:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a person should love you perfect or not, and they don't want to go sleep around with other people. So I would actually say get away from him, because if those are just a few of his bad things, I'd HATE to see the rest of them.
2007-01-07 07:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Cory W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell away from this piece of crap! What's wrong with you! How the hell can someone that treats you like crap be the love of your life? Seriously, why aren't you using your brain! Any woman that stays with a man who treats her badly is an idiot! Apparently there are plenty of idiots out there.
Sweetheart, I don't understand why women hook up with guys who treat them badly and I especially don't understand why women stay with guys who treat them badly.
There are a ton of nice guys, who might not be picture perfect, but they are nice decent guys. These nice guys are out there just wishing some sweetheart of a woman would choose them over the jerks they always seem to get passed over for.
Get out of this obviously terriblly negative and abusive relationship and set your sights on finding nice guys to share your love with. Get some help, because you seem willing to let ******* walk all over you. And get out! Not later. Now!
Good luck.
2007-01-07 07:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by Just Chillin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love what you want him to be, (the love of your life) not what he really is, (from your note, something of a control freak, and an insecure guy.) Relationships/marriages are admiration respect, passion, and trust.... (with a whole lot of lovies, kindnesses, sharing, support, negotiating differences without rage, common goals regarding how to spend time, if you wish to have children, yadyadyadayda.......)
How much of these do you each have for the other? From your note, very little.
2007-01-07 07:14:34 · answer #11 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋