A guy asked me out..I said Yes. We went on a date..He paid for everything (golfing $10 and a little drink $8.00, but when it came down to the movies..I offered to pay for myself and he said "SURE". I don't know..most guys would have been "No, that's fine I got it" or like "Are u sure u wanna pay, I can pay for you". My date wasn't hesitant in saying "Sure". In a way he kinda expected it. Am I asking too much from him or is he just cheap?
2007-01-07 07:06:59 · 45 answers · asked by College GurL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The asker for the date.
Some people may say it's supposed the be the guy who pays but it's really the person who asks the other to go out on a date with them; since they're asking for it they should be able to pay for it, right?
2007-01-07 07:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by I want my *old* MTV 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should of paid (only because he asked), but if it was your first date and you offered to pay than don't get upset he said sure. lol. Just remember he did pay for the golf and the drink and he would have paid for the movies until you offered. Maybe it's a good thing you did because maybe if you didn't he would have been thinking you were a greedy *****? ahahah
If you go out again, don't offer to pay. That way he can't say somewhere down the line "you never pay for anything" hahaha ;) good luck with cho boy!
2007-01-07 07:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by immicrowavable 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have NO idea what dating rules are these days. I thought whoever asked you out on a date would pay, which is usually the man who asks. You offered to pay (something I would do too), so don't be upset when he accepts your offer. How old is he? If he's still a teenager, then they don't usually have much money ,then I'd say that it's Ok to pay for stuff too. Did you have a nice time with him? Or did you constantly think of the money you had to use? Do you think you'll go out with him again?
2007-01-07 07:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Just me. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Times have changed. Traditionally, a man would pay for everything all the time. Today, it is traditional for a man to pay on a first date (especially if he invited you), but these traditions have become loose.
Today, women are expected to work for a living, as well as men. That's what makes such a big difference. You can no longer assume that a man has much more money available to him than a woman. A lot of women now make more than their significant other. Young people don't have much money available to them to start with. Chances are he was going near broke by the time you offered to pay for something - so of course, he took it.
So long answer short: Although men are expected to pay for the fist date and it's a cute tradition, it no longer fits social reality.
2007-01-07 07:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a confusing time, because men hear so much about women's cry for equal rights and I think a fair share of men do a good job of accepting this (for many, we don't think twice about it) what becomes confusing though is the issue of who pays. It seems "traditional" that a man pays for the first date.
But the confusion becomes that women insist on paying or going dutch (half and half) and it could be interpreted as old fashioned and out of date and rude when a man tries to pay for everything. When a woman does offer, it's also hard to say no.
I think this topic should be brought up at every first date, to just clarify. If people would just act grownup and figure out where they stand maybe it wouldn't be so confusing.
2007-01-07 07:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by mrjohntesh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally the pereson who asked the other person out pays for a date. But since your date included golf, a drink, and a movie it was more like three dates, so it was good of you to offer to help pay. Keep in mind he may not be rich, so you helping pay will probably let you both enjoy more dates together than if he has to pay for all.
Don't worry, be happy!
2007-01-07 07:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who ever asks should be prepared to pay for everything, but don't offer to pay for anything if you don't mean it. The days when the man pays for everything is over, girls do pay for somethings now days.
When I go out to dinner I offer to pay the tip. Or sometimes if my date pays for the dinner I will offer to get the movie tickets. Sometimes they say sure sometimes they say no, but I never offer when I don't mean it. Because if he accepts my offer he's not cheap he just took me at my word and accepted the offer.
He did nothing wrong in accepting your offer to pay. You did wrong by offering and not really meaning it. Now if you didn't offer and he asked you to buy your tickets that would be something completely different.
2007-01-07 07:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by WriterChic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hun, you asked. Most girls these days don't expect the guy to buy absolutely everything. If you are really in college, you know how expensive it is to live. I don't know how much your parents pay for or how much is parents pay for, but dating is hard when you don't have much money. I'm sure he wanted to show you a good time, but try to realize that the money he spent on that date could buy half a week's worth of food. I kid you not, I ate ramen noodles for almost a full month while trying to get out of the debt I ran up just trying to eat. Most of my friends (other than my roomate who has parents who pay for everything) take turns paying for things they do togather or split it 50/50.
2007-01-07 07:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by premise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably would have been better if you started out paying your half. It's not like it use to be when a guy would take care of the entire evening.His money was getting low and he figured that instead of him spending all his money,you could pay your half for the movie.It sounds like you were asking to much of him,and he is cheap.And most guys these days would have done exactly what he did.Or try to get you to pay for the hole thing.
2007-01-07 07:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he didn't want to offend you...
for example: there are tonnnssss of feminist groups who would call "the guy pays" a stereotype and stupid tradition.. he may have thought that you honestly felt the need to pay and he doesn't know you that well so said "sure" since you offered. Don't automatically assume he is just cheap.. I mean he did pay for golfing... ;)
2007-01-07 07:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Neville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋