he acts like he's cheating and i accuse him of cheating but he swears that he is not cheating. our relationship is over and he says it's because i accused him of cheating but he wasn't. He hangs out with his ex wife alot - mostly when things are bad between us and they have no children together...she is his 2nd ex....but then she is right there diving in and he's not pushing her away when we are broken up and then he comes back to me and tells me that he doesn't love her and he doesn't want to be with her, he wants me.....what should i do?
2007-01-07 06:50:56 · 34 answers · asked by regis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you want to believe in him, but unfortunately he's telling you more by his actions than his words that he is not serious about you. It seems that any excuse causes him to run to someone else, this just keeps you on pins and needles all the time. If he were really into you, he would stay with you and work things out without bringing other women into it. Find a guy who cares about you. It takes some time but it's worth it. Don't go back to this man's games. He has issues!
2007-01-07 06:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by shotze01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just end the relationship altogether. First of all, there is no trust in the relationship and that's the most important factor that you need to make it work. Second, he's hanging out with his ex wife..that's a big no-no. You mentioned they have no kids together then they have no reason to keep in contact. To be honest, it seems like they are still having relations and they're both not showing you any respect. Don't believe him when he says that he doesn't love her anymore. Obviously they still love each other because they are still keeping contact with each other.
He's trying to have his cake and eat it too. So to answer your question, yes he will cheat on you again if he did it already. Just move on with your life and end the relationship. Since he likes to hang out with his ex wife so much now he doesn't have to worry about balancing her and you. Good luck!!!!
2007-01-07 06:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who cheats is NOT worth your time.If he loves you like he says he does then he wouldn't be going back and forth between you 2. There is a reason he has 2 ex wife's. Of course he says he wont cheat again he doesn't want to loose you.Past behavior is a predictor of future behavior.You can do so much better than him. I hope everything works out the way you want it 2.
2007-01-07 06:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters Cheat so long as you allow it. Kick him to the curb and keep hunting for Mr. Right, this one ain't it
Ladies, no amount of attention you give, or him being attractive or suave or any of the other BS answers you give is a reason to forgive a cheater. Cheaters do so because they think they can get away with it, and they are selfish people who wnat to get what they want, and no girl should ever waste her time on one. Love yourself to know how you want to be treated by a man an accept nothing less.
2007-01-07 06:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one--you're just looking for validation of your instincts. Men are like buses, there's always another one coming. You got off that old bus for a reason, cuz it wasn't going the direction you wanted to go. So, just be a little patient and check the signs before you get on the next one. Then, if that one's going astray, too, well, then another bus is comin'!
2007-01-07 06:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do ? Value yourself and be aware that a person will treat you only the way you let them treat you. What to do? Have many productive conversations (as it sounds that you have) and if still not in balance with peace . . . then tell him " Bye, Bye ". Hurtful, hard to do ? Yes, the right thing to do is not always the easiest. Only you know.
2007-01-07 06:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is never accuse until you have proof. Think how you would feel. But he should have enough respect for you to not hang out with his ex if your not ok with it. And if he insists on hanging out with her then you should be there. And kill her with kindness.
2007-01-07 06:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by With My Forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things will be good for a while then he'll do it again,they always do.same goes for us women.
you try it once and keep on going back for more.that's life.if he loved you in the first place he wouldn't of done it the first time.
he hasn't lived enough ,he needs to try new things before he makes a serious commitment to 1 person.
we all live and learn.
2007-01-07 07:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone cheats on u ONCE, dump them. chances are they will do it again, and even if they dont they have wrecked the trust between the two of u and its his fault. so whats the point of trying to move on?
2007-01-07 06:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like any man will admit hes cheating. He probably is. I would if i was given the opportunity unless you are shakira.
2007-01-07 06:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by Triplestack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋