How can u tell if a guy just wants a fling-maybe just kissing or an actual relationship??
2007-01-07 06:48:45 · 38 answers · asked by Cassý 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he spends most of his time trying to get sex then it's a fling. If he takes you out and around his family then he wants a relationship.
2007-01-07 06:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by cece 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what-ever you do don't talk to them. If they happen to want a relationship, then they'll feel offended that you would even asked the question. It might, also, sound like you want to break up with them. And even worse: they would probably lie to you if they were a "fake"
With that being said,
guys who'll rush, they want a "fling"
compassionate guys who don't rush want "an actual relationship"
If you're talking about before you go out with them:
Unless, you've known them for a long while, it's impossible to tell what kind of person they are.
2007-01-07 07:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by dude guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone really wants a relationship with you, they will show you alot of interest, they may just call you to hear your voice or send you little text messages just to say hi and let you know that they are thinking about you. They will respect you and want to be the one to chat with you to find out how find out how your day was. And they would try to introduce you to their mates and take you out on dates.
If they just want a fling they will show less interest and only call or text you when they need sex.
2007-01-07 07:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Playful~Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there !!!!
I believe that you can tell if you are being perceptive with the guy. kissing does not mean they want a relationship or not, I do not believe one thing goes with the other nesesarily.
Before you get involved anyway with someone you should get to know them real well, this way you can make a informative choice, a good choice.
The way a guy talks to you , and how he talks to other people could give you a clue, his body language, his eyes( the way he looks at you)
his reactions to when you talk to him and how he responds to you,
sometimes guys hide their feelings though, for fear of rejection or getting hurt.
Have a wonderful new year
love light and peace
2007-01-07 06:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how fast he tries to get you in bed. If he wants a relationship, he will be willing to wait for sex. Also see how he treats you, does he only call you when he wants something (fling), or is he there for you too (relationship). If you are having sex, does he put the emphasis on pleasing you (relationship), or just getting his pleasure then he's done (fling)?
2007-01-07 06:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time! Give it time. Time is the great illuminator! If he wants an actual relationship, you'll find yourself enjoying his company over time. He'll make himself available for mundane things like shopping and laundry. If he just wants a fling, he'll tend to only answer your calls half the time, be lazy about calling you back, and really only seek out your company on the weekend eves.
2007-01-07 06:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that I am less eager to move fast when I really like a girl, but then again, all guys are different. Girls are too! If he takes it slow, tries to get to know you instead of your body. If he isn't too eager to kiss and fondle. If he tries to know your family and friends. If he spends time with you to do the things you like. Ask him the big question? How far is he willing to go with you, is he planning to know you with marriage in the near future? If he is not in the relationship to go "all the way," then be very careful. You can tell him your aim and then ask him the same. Give him 1 day before he answers you. Guys usually like time to answer as they can be affected by the beauty of the girl who asks.
2007-01-07 06:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by cardo11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would ask him but i just know because i have a lot of friends that go through relationships where the boy just wants a fling but he says he wants a real relationship they say they want a real relationship so you will get closer so they can get in your pants!
2007-01-07 06:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him this is the only way to find out but what do you want if you want a fling then tell him if you want something more serious then this takes time and take the time for it to develope and dont scare a guy off if you've only just met
2007-01-07 06:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by julie t 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well- ive had relationships with both types of men.the men that truely cared for me could not, and did not want to hide this . it is the same for women. if you really care for a man then it is so obvious. if you wonder if a man is not sincere, you should see it in his actions, and if he really cares for you, it should be easy to see. if all he does is grope you, and make sexual suggestions early in the relationship- believe me, he is only wanting a fling. its really a no-brainer. most men are not that good at acting
2007-01-07 07:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋