Well, among many problems in my household right now; my parents are fully against this guy I'm in a relationship in. I mean - completely - against it. Because he's older than me and has kids. If it doesn't bother me - and believe me, I've really thought hard about this - it shouldn't bother them. Now including my personal life in my household, I find it absolutely impossible to stand it here anymore. I don't think they realize how serious he and I are, or how close I am to really moving out. I'll be 18 when I move out, and I am in high school. I'll still continue high school, he wants me to go to college even though I'd rather not :( so my main question is what everyone's input is and can my parents do anything to either of us if I move out? Thanks for reading this for me, I appreciate it.
2007-01-07 06:48:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since everyone is so worried, we are not having sex, geesh, look at the state of our society. Relationships are NOT FOCUSED on sex. **rolls eyes**
2007-01-07 09:26:10 · update #1
I think that 18 is young to take on that kind of responsibility. I also think that your problems with your parents may surface as problems with your bf. You have the conflict of him wanting you to go to college and you don't want to. Sounds like another father figure to me. Is this healthy? Think about it carefully before you decide.
2007-01-07 06:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LIke everyone said..when you are 18, you are an adult.
But WHY would you even want an older man who has kids already? What a turn off. I know I would also be against my daughter having a serious relationship with a man who is too old for her and has kids. It's highly doubtful that this relationship will last. I would suggest to just stay at home and concentrate on finishing high school. these are the best years of your life. Don't waste it on some old fart.
Isn't it considered statutory rape if you are having sex with this man now?? He can get into trouble since you are a minor.
Yes, you should go to college. Don't be like so many of these young girls today who can't get their degrees right away because they got pregnant at such a young age. Kids are great, but they will totally change your life.
Take it from me. I graduated from college when I was 29. .I didn't get married until I was 28 and then had my first baby at the ripe OLD age of 30. I'm glad I waited and had a year left of college before I got married. I didn't have any kids to 'hold me back' either. I will never regret that I waited and got my degree.
2007-01-07 07:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Just me. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dumb reason!! That would probably be the worst mistake you could make in your life. Can you support yourself, and don't say, well my b/f can support me..... because who knows if he will be there forever! Think of all the things your parents actually do for you (make you dinner, buy all the groceries, clean up the house, probably after you, pay ALL the bills) Why don't you go to College, move out that way So here's how it would be to live on your own: Rent: $600-800/month Groceries: $100/month Gas: $150/month (that's being reasonable) Bills: $100/month (No cable, no high speed Internet) Anything else you may need/want: I would add an extra $200 a month So if you are making at least $1350 a month, that would come out even, no savings for anything you want in the future, like a new car, or a house, or kids...... of course no savings for emergencies
2016-05-23 03:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, when you're 18 you can do what you want. You seem to be asking if it's OK or perhaps you're concerned about hurting them more than you are about what they can do. Once you're 18 they can't do anything. They may be right that this is a mistake but you are going to have to find out for yourself and they should realize that and not make it so difficult for you. Again, they can't do anything once you turn 18. Go to college though. And don't move in until you are MARRIED.
2007-01-07 07:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I just wanted to co-sign what everyone else has said. No, they can't do anything but why would you waste your time with someone who's obviously not been responsible with some of the decisions he's made. You do not need to be a parent at 18 - Explore life, go to school, live w/your boring/get on my nerves/why can't they leave me alone?/ parents till you have some solid footing. Being 18 does not mean being established.
2007-01-07 09:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Emerald Jones 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be sure you are not jumping from the frying pan into the fire.
At 18 you can move out but I always told my 5 now grown children that they can stay at home as long as they like but once they leave there will be none of this moving back & forth.
Are you planing on living with this man without the benifit of marriage, if so,honey you are making a bad choice in my opinion.
Your parents can do no more then protest if you choose to leave and you will upset them. I wish Gods Blessings in your life.~Jill
~~~~Happy New Year~~~~~
2007-01-07 07:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like they all say when you turn 18 move out and pay your own way... But just remenber the grass is not greener on the other side and since you said her b/f is older and with kids, ask yourself why his other relationship didnt work....HMMM?
And when you turn 18..why would you want a b/f with kids?
It's partytime, live at home, spend money or save it, get a nice car,clothes,etc.
Ok hope this help..
Just remenber your parents act like buttheads( U think )
BUT THEY DO LOVE U AND CARE.....that's why they say NO...
2007-01-07 06:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by j d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is not to swap one set of parents for another. If you really want to be independent, then don't just bounce from your parents' control to his. Get your own place, and keep the older boyfriend with kids at a distance for a while--keep your indepence and give it time enough to see if he has a real relationship in mind for you, or if he's just looking for a live-in maid/housekeeper/nanny.
2007-01-07 06:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, when you are 18 you are a free bird. You can move out if you darn wish to!
2007-01-07 07:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by mortician 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18, they cannot do anything legally against you. But does not disobey your parents. You try to understand them. You try to respect their opinion after all they gave birth you and bringing up and nursing you till 18 year. Does not be ungrateful to your parents. Try to happy for hole life not for sometime.
2007-01-07 06:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by akandaa 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋