I'm about to have my first child (a boy) and am torn with this question, since my husband has a teenage nephew who is gay and who stays with us sometimes for weeks at a time. I'm afraid to leave him alone with my new son and was wondering what other people think.
2007-01-07 06:45:16 · 46 answers · asked by Nervous New Parent 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
NO!!! Definately dont leave the homosexual with your child. Even homosexual adults have been known to lose control of themselves and rape or sexualy harrass children, im not racist or ignorant or homophobic, its true. But a teenager has even more chance of losing control of himself and raping or sexualy harrassing your child. Dont put your child in danger. Besides, I dont think its exactly best for your child to learn from a homosexual, I mean you dont want your child to pick up some of his habits. I mean, the homosexual may be a good person, but I dont think a small child should be exposed to him from the start. This is definately not a good idea.
2007-01-07 06:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bobesink 3 · 4⤊ 12⤋
You shouldn't have any anxiety about having your son's cousin babysit, or even just be alone with him. Being homosexual is not a red flag for "molesting incestuous pedophile."
Would you feel uncomfortable letting a teenage hetero girl, who could be a heterosexual pedophile, babysit for your son? No, which is why your apprehension is somewhat irrational.
Your husbands nephew, if left alone with his baby cousin, would probably having thousands of other things on his mind than sex or his homosexuality.
One thing, though- your question doesn't really explain why you're "afraid to leave them alone"- do you think he'll molest your son, "turn him gay"(not that gay is something that you "acquire"), or what?
Additionally, your son isn't born yet, and during the period following his birth, it's not exactly as if you can leave him in the care of others for long periods of time-- the boy's gotta eat.
2007-01-07 07:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by blue_orma 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If your nephew is acting appropriately around your child, ie not cursing, not horseplaying, not smoking, not drinking, being observant to the child etc... What would it matter if he were gay or not. Gay-ness is not contagious, it wont rub off. The rate of pedophilia is actually lower in homosexuals than it is in those who consider themselves heterosexual but are sex offenders.
Im not saying that to be offensive or mean.... if he were to babysit he should not have a significant other around anyway... so it wouldnt matter if he chose to date a boy or a girl.... Ive fired girl babysitters for bringing their boyfriends around only because they then didnt do their job as a babysitter.
I'm assuming that this nephew is someone that is around the family anyway... so the fact that he was gay wouldnt necessarily be a suprise... It is something your child will figure out in an age appropriate way just by being around the family.
I dont see any danger in it as long as your family is accepting and loving to your nephew in the first place. It might even teach yoru child that being different (gay, white, black, hispanic, disabled, etc) isnt bad its just different.
I think the true difference would be in how you presented your nephew to your child.... if you present him as a member of the family who is scorned - then no dont have him babysit. If your nephew is presented as a beloved family member that you believe is a responsible enough teenager to babysit then it should not be a problem.
2007-01-07 06:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by boilerfanforever 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Has your nephew taken a babysitting class (offerend at most rec centers)? Has he taken a Red Cross class in first aid? Infant/child CPR? Does he get good grades in school and generally act like a responsible kid? Is he mature for his age?
These are the questions that count for any baby sitter. Being gay has nothing to do with it.
2007-01-07 07:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would this person be a good baby sitter? Does this person know what is involved with taking care of a child? Is he a good person? I don't get what his sexual preference would have to do with anything. Even gay people have a heart and feel the same inside as a straight person.You shouldn't base your decision to have him take care of your child on the fact that he doesn't like the same sex as you. From all the gay people that I have met, I believe that maybe a gay person would be kinder to your child. They seem more patient and giving.
2007-01-07 07:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by beaner 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not sure if I would let any teenage boy baby sit a newborn especially a teenager who is obviously dealing with emotional problems. If he is staying with you for weeks at a time it must be because there are problems at home or he has no home and how would he have time to babysit anyway, doesn't he work?
The only teenager that I would allow to watch my child would be one that has taken child care classes and one that I have seen their reactions to stresses cause a newborn with colic can be very trying and you want an experienced and/or educated and calm person to handle that.
2007-01-07 07:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by bluzmelody 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't see any problem in having a gay person especially someone you know looking after your new son. I don't see why people are inclined to think negitively about this. Gays should live like anyone else. It shouldn't be the business of nosey closed minded Christian conservatives. Don't worry about it
2007-01-08 16:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Steve C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you trust him in your house for weeks at a time then you should know in your heart that this boy is your family and he would do nothing but teach your son acceptance, love and the strength to stand up and be okay with who he and others are.
Let the hormones and new mom jitters wear off and you will see how silly the whole issue is.
and if it is still a concern then you better not leave him alone with the cat or dog because as someone above said these sick homos cant control themselves!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-07 07:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The only thingl you need to be concerned about is if you have a RESPONSIBLE teenager watching your children.Ask for references. Would you be concerned if your teen sitter was sexually active in a heterosexual relationship? Sexual orientation does not determine responsibility.Try using your common sense when assessing people. A good, responsible and caring person is the same person regardless of sexual orientation.Keep in mind most people are good decent people and their private life is exactly that private.
2007-01-07 11:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by gussie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look I don't think that your nephew is going to rape your kid. I'm sure he is not like Michel Jackson.Look you shouldn't care what people think. If they have a problenm, they need to get over themselves because they are everywhere. If people care that is therre problem what would Jesus do. He talked to the poor, the theves, the tax collectors. I le my gay friend babysit my daughter all the time, he says that my daughter is like his daughter. Yu should try it out.
2007-01-07 07:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kimbo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you're ridiculous, homophobic and other things that are not very polite.
Do you think he is contagious? Do you think that because his sexuality is different from your own he is mentally unstable and a danger to himself and others? Does being gay make someone irresponsible and unable to tell right from wrong?
This question is the EXACT same as saying "My husband has a black nephew should I let this black kid alone with my child?"
Grow up. Educate yourself. Get off your high horse, and for the Love of Pete! I hope your own child never has a gay fantasy, what will you do? Legally disown him and kick him out of the house?
2007-01-07 07:00:38 · answer #11 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 5⤊ 4⤋