I went out with my first BF for about a month and I broke up with him how do I mend my broken heart and how do I win him back?
2007-01-07 06:41:07 · 24 answers · asked by pebblespunk2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may feel as though you are alone, and helpless, but i have had many friends go through the same situation. Only time will heal the pain. You have to get out and do things you like. Spend time with good friends. Usually guys don't like to see that you are dependent completely on him, that is too constricting to them. It is not about winning him back. He maybe "the one" (for now), but i believe that there are many "the one's" out there for everyone. Compatibility really plays a big part in successful relationships. You need to find someone that loves you back just as much as you love them. Since this is your first b/f you are probably young and have plenty of time to find another "one".....another thing I have learned and like to stress is that MEN DON'T CHANGE!!.....you said that you broke up with him, if you dumped him for something you didn't like about him, may it be trust, personality, whatever it is......that will always be the SAME
Hope I helped.....You are not alone......You are strong!!!!!......<3
2007-01-07 06:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by mafronk21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your broken heart will mend all on it's own in due time. Why would you bother to try to win back what you gave up? Move on. There's a world full of the opposite sex....
2007-01-07 14:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by largerladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, YOU broke up with him. Why would you want him back after you were the one to finish the realtionship? If you try to, I'm pretty sure that he would just push you away. Give it some more time. then you have to ask HIM if he wants to go back out with you, and give him a good reason for going back out with you.
If he rejects you, you have to forget him. Start doing some type of extracurricular activities to take your mind off of him and the breakup.
2007-01-07 14:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by luvcry247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world Pebblespunk!Love like life,is filled with joy AND sorrow,thats just how it works.Its the good AND the bad,you know the ying yang.
Bad stuff (your broken heart) happens, to enable us to grow and learn.Put another way " "you can't know heaven,untill you've walked through the depths of hell".
So he was your first "bf".Great,chalk it up as
lessons learned.Mistakes you may have made in that relationship you can learn to AVOID in the next one.Don't concentrate on trying to get back together with him necessarily,hold your head high and move on to the next (and probably better)relationship.
Life sucks when we DON'T learn our lessons and keep making the same mistakes over and over again.Good luck to you.
2007-01-07 14:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? 12?
Move on and just enjoy the few enjoyable experiences the two of you shared. Keep the good memories. And move on.
You will fall in love dozens of times in your lifetime. It's not a one shot deal. At your age you shouldn't even be labeling yourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend, but you do.
Cheer up and have fun hanging out with your friends!
2007-01-07 14:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by Just Chillin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun,its going to hurt,your just have to get over him,Since I don't know the reason her broke up with you I can't tell you how to win him back...since it was your 1st boyfriend I take it your still a teen...So there are plenty of other guys out there,you'll find a better one.also its was only for a month so it wasn't to long..I am so sorry for you,but it will get better good luck!
2007-01-07 14:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by carly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want him back. You want to smother your depression by renewing your commitment to making something of yourself. You will pay attention in school, become an A student, graduate top of your class, get a full scholarship to medical school, and become a doctor. A sexy, young, wealthy doctor who can have her pick of any successful, gorgeous, loving guy in the world. Congratulations on taking the first step.
2007-01-07 14:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probably don't think you will ever get over him but time does heal all wounds. But first you have to let go of the relationship or spending time trying to find ways to get him back. Do yourself a favor, let yourself grieve the loss of this relationship and then and spend this time working on you!
2007-01-07 14:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly - welcome to the world of dating!
Second - you may never get him back, even though he is perfect in every way. Remember - its no tyou, it him thats resposible.
Thirdly- Only time can heal your heart. GIve it a couple days, weeks, and it will fade away. The regret will come back every once on a while, but then not so much. Theres always a place in one's heart for their rirst love, though. : )
2007-01-07 14:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly what do you want?
do you want to mend your heart which would be forgetting about him, or do you want to win him back. from the looks of what you wrote you all only dated for a month, how deep could you be?
2007-01-07 14:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by gustine_girl98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋