Okay so last night, my boyfriend came over and we were upstairs in the game room just fooling around a little, when it started getting hard to not want him, my dad came upstairs and saw us on the couch in the game room. He didn't say anything but this morning i got the talk. They brought up the conversation at the wrong time at breakfast and the whole talk bothered me. I am already sexually active and its to the point where my body asks for it. My dad kept trying to reassure me that he wasn't mad at me but that he was trying to keep me from doing something "BAD". My parents say that I am not at age to have sex, but isn't that just like saying im not at age to know love? i don't know what to do. I'm only 16.
2007-01-07 06:30:30 · 20 answers · asked by Karen D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reassure your parents that you're being RESPONSIBLE while sexually active, i.e., you're using protection. You might want to urge your parents to get you a doctor's appointment so you can get on birth control. Show them that you want to make the right decisions, and you're not taking it lightly.
Good luck!
2007-01-07 06:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, they only want what's best for you and they know better than you, all the negative things that can come from having sex.
Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to insist your partner wear a condom
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person
Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex.
2007-01-07 06:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you are not at the age to know love. But I have a 16 years old daughter & I know having sex is part of life. So I am very open with her about it. I just tell her to stay on her pills & use protection. We as parents know our children will have sex. If teens want to have sex they will find a way to do it. But remember it's our job to make it as hard as possible for you.
Good Luck & maybe you should set your parents down & have the talk with them. Let them know you are ready. And whatever you do, make sure you are on the pill but still always use a condom.
2007-01-07 06:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by With My Forever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry girl, but if you are putting your sexual life under your parents nose...do not complain when they bring up a conversation about it. if you want it Private, then keep it Private. finished.
and forget about love...you know now hormones... not love. otherwise you would be more careful.
i bet when you have kids, you wouldn't like to see your 16 years old with a boy between her legs...oops just playing around.
to all the other moral apostles... 16 17 20 30... whenever, however, the maximum of all women and probably men will say that the first time wasn't soo special, moreover it was awful. it's ain't about age, it's about the first time. however and whatever we write here, you'll do it. you know it, we know it, your parents know it. just be careful, do not be foolish and blind in love, and remember, that when relationships finish it's ain't the end of the world. Just be choosy with boys...
2007-01-07 06:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by zaraza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 16 your not ready for sex,, and you D A M N sure don't know what the hell love is at that age,, concentrate on your school work little one, and stop playing with the boys. the only time you will be ready for sex is when you, know you are ready to take care of a child IE. when you have a full time job, your own house, and a way to support a child and there needs, not living in your parents house in high school. if you was my little girl, i would be having a talk with him,, then his parents, and be D A M N E D sure he would never be in my house again, nor would you be dating him ever again,, plus on top of that you wouldn't be able to sit down for the next 2 weeks, and would not be going out of the house except to school and strait home for 3 months at least.
2007-01-07 06:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by redneckmp28 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They don't want any grand babies, they don't want you to get an std, and most of all they want you to be ready for something that's considered "adult" behavior. I started having sex when I was 15 and it wasn't so great. Y? Because I was only 15. I know where youre coming from and no one including your parents can stop u from doing what u want to do. I say be safe, handle yourself w/ respect, and don't get talked into doing anything you arent comfortable with.
2007-01-07 06:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be careful. use condoms and common sense. know your body, your guy, and yourself. you CAN control your urges and just because you are physically ready for sex doesn't mean that you should just go and have sex. when i was 16 i thought i loved the guy i was with and wanted to have sex. i brought it up with my parents and it became quite the issue. looking back i realize that i really didn't love him and i'm glad i waited to have sex until i was out of high school. you also say you're 'only 16'...maybe you are too young.
2007-01-07 06:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by how empty of me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask yourself a couple questions: Am I 100% prepared to take care of a baby if I get pregnant when I have sex with my boyfriend? Is he 100% ready to support a child with me and be a father to the child? How will you support yourselves? Now of course you are gonna say but we are careful- but are you really? Anyone can get pregnant anytime they have sex , even if Birth control is used. even if a condom is used, even if Dad doesnt interrupt. Think about it- hard and then maybe you will see why your parents want you to wait for sex and the responsibility it brings.
2007-01-07 06:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you may want to find some other place other than your parents house to do it, or at least wait until they're not home. Your parent biggest concern, I'm sure is, they don't want you getting pregnant before you're even out of highschool. Talk to your mother about getting on birth control, if you're not on it already.
2007-01-07 06:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone in their right mind is going to have sex when they feel it's right.Not when their parents think it's OK.I know exactly how you feel,all women do.It's right there in your face and you don't want to deny it(sex).I myself,lost it earlier then 16.Let me tell you,it was well worth it.I am still with the wonderful man I lost my virginity to.
The only thing you can do is have a mature conversation with your parents.Letting them know that you are active.Do this when you feel comfortable.Good luck.
2007-01-07 06:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by First Lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋