Recently I have been having a problem and I wanted to get other people's input here. When I go out with someone on a date, I have always believed they should pay for everything. I'm a woman. Occasionally, on a first date, I've been left paying my own. I didn't think it was right and I never dated that person again. Am I old fashioned?
2007-01-07 06:13:55 · 27 answers · asked by christinedaae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No; you're not old-fashioned. It's common courtesy for men to offer to pay for the entirety of the date. It's our job as men to show that we can be supportive financially and emotionally. The only exception would have to be if you feel so inclined as to offer to defray some of the cost of the date yourself; and even then it should be the man's responsibility to reject your offer if he's not hard up for cash.
However, I HAVE met a fair amount of women who feel that they like to pay for a portion of a date just to show that they are NOT dependent.
It's all up to you, I suppose.
2007-01-07 06:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me but I'm old school and I think the guy should pay for everything ALL of the time. With me, it's embarrassing for the woman to have to pay for anything but then again, that's just me and there are a lot more men out there that have other views.
2007-01-07 14:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm female and my view is that the person who asks you on the date should be paying, unless they indicate to you it will be dutch...however, I don't go out w/o money to pay my own way should that be necessary...
If someone asks you to "join them" for a meal, they may mean they'd like to have your company but you pay your own tab...try to be clear on what the other person means...are they taking you out, or are y'all just sharing one another's company over a meal?
When dating a specific person regularly, I think it's appropriate for the woman to offer to pay at least some of the time and/or to offer to chip in on the bill...or to ask her guy out occasionally so he's not always the one arranging the dates...
2007-01-07 14:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who planned the date should pay. It's okay for the other party to offer to cover the tips. I'm also old fashion about lots of things when it comes to dating, like opening doors and stuff. But there are women who seem to be offended that "I think they can't open their own doors"...it's confusing.
2007-01-07 14:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally the person who initiated should pay. Guys seem to get a nice feeling of being a provider/protector when they cover things, so I usually let mine cover things. But I also even it out. Like last night, he bought the tickets and I bought the food. It about evened out.
I don't want a guy going broke because of me. It's also just nice when you do things for each other.
As long as you're on the same page as your date it doesn't really matter though.
2007-01-07 14:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES. Sometimes if your date has taken you on something big and paid for it they might be lower on cash than they thought and you'll need to back them up. It's not right if you rub in their faces that they made a little mistake. It's important that you have fun! If you both have fun, then it doesn't matter who pays. IF they're taking you out though - that's different. They need to pay if they're taking you out, and look for honesty - if they tell you they don't have eneogh ask if you can both pay. And try to be happy!
2007-01-07 14:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by that guy with the face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your values.
If you feel that men and women are peers in terms of final decision-making in the family, you should alternate or go dutch.
However, if you feel that the man is to be the head (and supporter) of the family, then he should pay. This means he makes the final decisions, after consulting you and giving your views serious consideration.
You can't have it both ways.
2007-01-07 21:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy pays always. I've never had a girl pay, not once or even offer and i'm now 28. It never happens, you may wonder who should pay, but it's always the guy ALWAYS.
2007-01-07 14:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by jz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that depends on who ask who out.if you've been dating for a while( the same person ) I pay both sometimes,but not all the time.we both work and i like to spoil my man .i took him out on his birthday and spent 90 on supper for him,because i didn't know what to get him.it all boiles down on how you feel about the person.why should men do all the work for us?we women want to be treated equal,so why not share the responsibility sometimes.
2007-01-07 14:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the Man should pay its proper etiquette. But its nice of the girl to offer to split the price sometime or pay for popcorn or something. But over all the guy should pay.
2007-01-07 14:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by anniebella16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋