My names Matt, and I am 16 years old. I was adopted by my grandmother when I was about 4 years old. My father was an alcoholic and my mother was really bad into drugs, so therefore my grandmother took me in. I lived in PA for a long time, then about 2 years ago, she moved me down here to Tennessee. I hate this place with a passion. I've been talking to my Dad, and I have decided that I want to move in with him in PA. Well, my grandmother doesn't care for the idea, but she agreed. Then, a few days ago, spazzed out and said no and gave me a huge lecture. I still want to live there, reguardless. So if anyone has any information on where I want to live and who I want to live with, please help. Is there any legal actions to be taken that will help me out? Please, someone help me out, I don't really have anyone to really talk to about all this, so any suggestions or input would be incredible. Thank you.
2007-01-07 06:01:09 · 9 answers · asked by Matt H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How about you go visit with your dad for a week or so to see if you do like it. That way everybody would be happy.
2007-01-07 06:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by johN p. aka-Hey you. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandmother loves you and wants the best for you. Even though its kind of selfish for her not to let you go you've been living with her for so long that you are more like her own child. Maybe she doesn't want to lose you. You should try talking with her. If she still doesnt budge just wait two years. Any legal actions you can take will only hurt you both. Try to be understanding. Despite what youve gone through youre very lucky to have someone who loves you that much. Some of us don't.
2007-01-07 14:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by helplessromatic2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay since your grandmother ADOPTED you, your dad has NO legal rights when it comes to you, so he is not entitled to custody of you in the courts eyes, your grandmother is the one who has legal rights to you, meaning she gets to chose where you live until you reach the age of majority, which is 18.
Being that both of your parents had rough starts to life, your grandma has good concern for not wanting you to live with your dad. She is concerned for your safety. You should not change who you live with simply because you don't care for the location you are living in. It's just not the right reason to move in with your dad. If you truly want to build a strong and healthy relationship with your dad, you are going to want to take things slowly and really get to know each other, and heal the wounds of the past, as they will come up on and off throughout your relationship with him.
Stay with your grandma, but perhaps spend the summer with your dad?
2007-01-07 19:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Julie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, you can't decide because you are under 18. It sucks, but that's the way the law works. Ask to spend hte summer with him? Maybee your grandmother would agree?
2007-01-07 14:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 16 the choice is yours, but your grandmom is just trying to save you from being hurt, so i suggest you sit down and have a long talk with her and tell her you just want to try it but still want a place to call home...
2007-01-07 14:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you are sixteen you can choose where you want to live but i wouldn't decide that for sure until i went and spent the summer or something like that with my father. only cuz you really don't know him that well and you may hate him too. that is what happened to me i hated my father or i should say my sperm donor.
2007-01-07 14:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lara M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have two years to go. At your age that seems like forever, I know, but it isn't. It sounds to me like you would be a lot better off staying with her.
2007-01-07 14:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can choose who you want to live with.All you have to do is go to a judge and tell them your situation and what is going on...tell them you want to move back in with your dad.If the judge finds it suitable they wilkl place you back with you dad.
Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-07 14:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one who can change a custody order is a judge.
2007-01-07 14:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋