We have thinking about adoption. We can't have any kids of our own, But we'd love to be parents. Some people say Go For IT! Some say adoption is asking for trouble. The kid's blood comes out eventually (tendancy to be good or bad) no matter how you raise them to be. Any opinions or experiences will be welcomed in helping weigh out this decision.
2007-01-07 05:54:16 · 24 answers · asked by Empress ~of~Roam 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Nurture plays just as big if not a much bigger role than nature. Nature will come out but it is going to be tempered by the method used to raise the child. If you feel you can be good parents and raise a child with morals and ethics and how to respect him/herself and others as well as the law and how to make good, independent decisions then yeah! Go for it!
2007-01-07 09:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents, biological or not, will always have hurdles that they will have to overcome with their children... that is just a part of being a parent. I think adopting a child is great. You are giving them a life and a family... what is greater than that? I honestly think you should tell your child at a younger age then waiting to tell them when they are 18 that they are adopted however. A teenager does not want a shock like that, but maybe at 8 or 10 (talk to a psychologist about when it is right) the child won't be too shocked and might see that since it was something that you did not hide from them then it's nothing to feel bad about. Just tell them how blessed you are to be able to be their mother and how much they mean to and all the joy that they have added to your life and you love waking up every morning because you get to be their mom.
2007-01-07 06:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is giving these children a chance in life. I am really considering adoption in the near future, I think it's such a wonderful thing to do. There could be complications with the child but there is complications no matter what route of parenting!
I say go for it, you would be such a blessing to a special child.
2007-01-07 06:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by mcm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you adopt a younger child, it shouldn't be bad. I have several family members who have adopted children. They grew up and turned out just fine. I am all for adoption. Children who grow up with parents turn out better than those who don't. I mean, why not give an innocent child a shot for a better life. I wish you the best!
2007-01-07 05:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Angelwings 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been trying to adopt for several years. It is an emotional roller coaster! If you think you are strong enough to handle many many nos before you finally get your yes, go for it. As far as the blood thing, that is silly. Children aren't bad or good because their parents were. Just love them and raise them to the best of your ability and you will be fine! Good luck and God bless, Patty
2007-01-07 08:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Patty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know people who were adopted and i can tell.....go for it.
It is the best most precious thing you can consider doing.
And so what if other people say that the blood may eventually come out,if that's true............at least you can say you tried,you gave a child an opportunity,took a chance to show them a different way...and gave them something they would have lacked in foster care........love and stability.
hope you decide what is best for you and gl.
2007-01-07 07:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Dream 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely if you guys want to become parents adoption is the way to do it, you are making a difference for a child :-] go for it!
2007-01-07 06:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say decide for it. there are a great form of youngsters that are forgotten in the device that any kinfolk which could shelter/love a baby is a blessing. i've got had many pals who have been observed into their households and none had extra problems than non-observed toddlers on the assumption of "blood" as you place it. beware that many toddlers in adoption businesses have been abused even nevertheless and be prepared to put in the extra attempt to make the transition as easy as a hazard. a baby this is observed can throw merely as many curve balls as one that comes out of your womb. I merely desire to thank you for thinking adopting, congratulations on in spite of your selection could be.
2016-11-27 02:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an adoptee. I myself would never adopt a child. Adoptees have no rights to their birthfamilies what so ever. And they are always looked upon as never good enough. I was always made fun of as a child because I was adopted and I was never good enough for my birthparents. I have always known that I was a mistake. And that she never loved me. I know that for a fact. Your best bet is to try the best you can to have your own kids. It is just better.
2007-01-07 06:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had a b/f who was adopted when he was really young and he's just like his adoptive dad, you know, same ethics, mannerisms that kind of thing. If I didn't know the truth about his past I would never have guessed it.
I guess it's what you make it:)
2007-01-07 05:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋