I'm Catholic and I've said for years I was going to wait until my honeymoon to lose my virginity. I was with my new bf yesterday, and we were making out. I said , "what about it ?" he wanted to but asked me several times if I truelly wanted to. I just was in the mood and off we went and I lost my virginity. I feel a little slutty. We've only dated 2 days, and like I said, I'm Catholic. I swore to God many times I was waiting until my honeymoon. I feel as though from some feelings I had (not emational) it may have been God was kind of punishing me, but I'm epilpeltic, and like I said, we were cuddling first. Am I a bad Catholic? You think those feelings may have been God punishing for breaking a sin I created? It's not really in the Bible. I just hope we stick together or I'll feel double the slu+. I'm happy with him. Was what i did bad? Especialy since I'm Catholic and swore to God?
2007-01-07 05:27:31 · 15 answers · asked by Artsy 1 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
whether your denomination is Catholic or not -- you disgraced yourself and broke a promise to God. you really need to rethink your decision. God doesn't punish people like you're talking. you need to stop saying "i'm Cathollic" like it's some type of cathc all as apparently you are not living a Christian life. Please stop and reconsider what you are doing to yourself..... trust me -been there done that and regret it whole heartedly. being chaste IS in the bible by the way.
2007-01-07 05:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Marysia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having done many virgins I can tell you it is often not great that first time. Your psyche may have made it more difficult to enjoy but probably not God. We all disappoint Him and I for one do not think I have been punished. Punishment comes at the end of life except for the normal consequences here on earth which apply to all of us.
You might however consider this Sex done with commitment in mind is equal to marriage in God's eyes and being a woman you may have adultry to confess at a latter date. Like say when you turn and find yourself in love for the second time
2007-01-07 05:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So long as you honestly repent of your sins and seek forgiveness through the Sacrament of Reconciliation, there's no reason to consider yourself a bad Catholic.
Maybe I am being presumptuous, but it does not seem like you were trying very hard not to sin, considering you slept with a guy you claim to have only dated for two days.
Everyone sin, and God is always willing to forgive your sins, whatever they are, however many times you commit them.
I am little confused as to why you bothered to mention that you are epileptic and that you felt said condition was a punishment from God. Are you perhaps attempting to justify your sin by "sticking it" to the Man Upstairs for punishing you with a medical condition?
God NEVER wills bad things to happen. He does, however, allow them to happen because He has a way of using bad things to promote a Greater Good.
There is such a thing called Redemptive Suffering. Our Lord suffered for us. We all, in one way or another, must suffer for him. Perhaps the way you are meant to suffer is through a medical condition.
The fact that you hope you and your boyfriend stay together tells me you now have a much better understanding of the morality because chastity, and the sanctity of marriage.
Go receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Be cleansed of this sin, and don't worry about it any longer. This experience, provided your repentance is sincere, will strenghten you from committing the sin again.
Since you are both Catholic and epileptic, you might be interested in joining this email forum, and be in the company of other epileptic Catholics, like me!
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/catholics_epilepsy/
2007-01-09 01:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Daver 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask a thousand catholic women including me myself if we waited till our honeymoon to lose our virginity and I bet you will see your not alone. Does that make us all bad catholics, I don't think so. What you are experiencing is a natural feeling of guilt that all humans have; catholics or anyone else when we lose our virginity. Its natural, we have given away something that is so precious to us, its hard to accept it at first. Its funny how we consider ourselves a slut because we had sex, my definition of that is clearly different from yours. Do not worry God understands and if this makes you feel better, some people would say it was your fate to do so.
2007-01-07 05:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by CelticFairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! You've just discovered the truth behind the statement, "All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God."
Be happy that it was no worse a fall.
Accept it as a lesson in humility. Acknowledge your boo-boo, both prvately to God and less so in confession to the parish priest. Repent, for fornication is against His Will and Law. Do the penance the priest sets you and try to be a little more in control of your hormones if you and your bf continue dating. You have, however, made it more difficult, for having been with you once, and being male, he will probably expect you to continue in a carnal relationship. If you cannot convince him that it is NOT what you want, one of two things will most likely happen.
1) He will discontinue the relationship, seeking a female who WILL accommodate his "needs".
2) He will try harder with each meeting to convince you to give in to his desires.
Both will make your life more difficult and quite possibly, more painful. And you will get still another life lesson. Sin brings with it its own pains and tears. Offer them to the Father and say thank you for the lessons.
I will pray for strength to be given you to be steadfast in your desire to remain chaste until marriage.
2007-01-07 05:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Granny Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You"re not a good catholic. Fornication is a sin against the tenth commandment. That IS IN THE BIBLE. In fact our bodies "are the temple of the Lord": But don"t despair:if you repent and don"t do "it" again and confess (receive the Sacrament of Penance) your sin, God will forgive you. He forgives the sinner who repents. But be careful : it wasn"t a sin you created, it was a real sin
2007-01-09 10:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by inchristwetrust2001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
fornication is a serious sin. You must repent of this sin, and promise the Lord that you will never do this again. Ask the Lord to grant you the gift of chastity. If you are Catholic, go to confession and complete the penance that the priest prescribes for you. "Go in peace, and sin no more."
2016-05-23 03:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catholics sin, just like anyone else. That's why our Lord and Savior gave us the beautiful Sacrament of Reconciliation. Make use of it as soon as possible, and then with the strength of its holy graces, get on with your life, and try to avoid making the same mistake again.
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2007-01-07 05:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not bad. BUT, since you seem to feel so strongly about it, you can NEVER do it again, until your honeymoon. It won't really be the same ( I waited til my honeymoon ) but it's better than spreading yourself all over til then. Good luck! And try not to feel sooo bad. Pray!
2007-01-07 05:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is fun and lot's of people do it very differently to others, so why not try sex, in all it's flavours, now, before you are married. Being catholic, it's not like you can get divorced if your new husband is crap(and completely unwilling to learn) in bed.
Allways practice safe sex but have lots.
2007-01-07 05:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by ewganhoff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋