How do i control my anger when i see them???

Question

its very unlucky for me that the girl who ditched me for my classmate, has come in my postgrad class. They both hangout together always(obvious), but what angers me is they both are really mean and selfish towards other people. Whatever happens they first secure themselves and ignore everybody including me!!! They are self cenetered for themselves in everything!! and basically very rude to anyone who tries to talk to them or suggest something. She even told me once that she hates me!! straight face!!

This angers me because i cant bear that the people who hurt me try to now act smart and without conscience. I cant believe i was once with her(its good it did not work out). But everytime i see them together i get totally irritated and feel this hate inside me!!!

How do i control my anger and hate????

althogh i am very calm usually!!! but i get angered only when they insult my friends(sumtimes), or try to act smart and intelligent in class, or some other people talk about their grotesque character!! or their some act!!(it adds kinda fuel)

Answer 1

Get therapy and help to move on.
People in love often insulate themselves from others, it isnt unusal. Your anger and hate is a waste of energy, redirect that energy to something more useful than hate!
Walk away from them, dont go near them and be strong;

Answer 2

First of all accept ONE thing. Grow Up! Keep on thinking around these two words. When you are mentally able to accept them you will move on and see clearly that the two in question have a problem . . . and where on earth will it take them?
Concentrate on all the other GOOD people around you - DO THIS . . . . and when you really notice why and how these "GOOD" people are 'nice', even though they may be plain, Vhave buckled teeth and other problems, YOU will have cracked it.
I do assure you - so GO TO IT and accept that Anger and Vengeance is something that only the mentally unadjusted can enjoy.

Answer 3

Although I am in a very happy relationship with my current partner I still have pangs of anger when I think about my ex partner and how our relationship ended. I think this comes down to a closure issue and possibly the same with yourself. I didn't end the relationship even though I wanted to. So I didn't get the closure I wanted. Sometimes you just have to move on, and except that she has, and that you now see her for what she is, and perhaps your anger is for yourself, from the fact that you cant believe that you allowed yourself to have feelings for what is obviously a total *****!!. Move on my Friend to the greener pastures that our out there, life sometimes punishes those who wrong us and sometime they seem to get evrything, but what do you care you have moved on. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

I am really,really sorry for you.
This happened to me also.These 2 rat faces kissed in public and talked loudly about their plans together. I was ssseething mad!!
then I discovered....It was only in public they were so lovey-dovey.
They barely talked to each other in private. She thot they were in love and he wouldn't even touch her. one day led to the next and finally they broke up. He told me later he just did it to intimidate me and make me watch them. He thot by his confession I would laugh and take him back....I was so amazed by his immaturity
I just looked conserned and told him,I hope you have a better life from now on. I left him standing by the door way and I am not sure but I think he is still there today. I have not thot about him until now,
when you needed me. Do all the things these people say about moving on..and not looking at them.The fire will go out on these two,
Oh and make some new friends!!

Answer 5

In a postgrad class u have enough to do, and other classmates to get along with. Tell ur self more about ur syllabus than why those two happen to be in the same class with u.

Answer 6

Just remember, if you are noticing all of these behaviors, certainly other people are as well. You are more sensitive to it because you were dumped. Its difficult to be around the person that dumped you, particularly when they are already in another relationship. I would drop the class, take it a different time. Take up swimming, jogging, kickboxing. Anything physical that will help you work off some of that aggression. Good luck.

Answer 7

Firstly walk away,if that's not possible then look away,sometimes no response is the best response.

The two things everyone takes for granted before they lose them.

Are they're Health and Freedom.

Especially Freedom don't do anything you will regret they are not worth it ,show them you better by being better.

Take care and be safe!!!

Answer 8

Listen, they don't know you as well as u know urself. They think it as a joke or ....

I tell you one thing, just forget the past and build a better future for urself. Not everybody is the same kind. I hope u find a better gal and show them who is the boss. and anger takes people to destruction.

Answer 9

Try to rise above it. You are a better person than them.

Always remain polite, and don't take it personally. It sounds like you had a lucky escape.

If they are openly nasty to you, stay composed. Ignorant or rude people hate it when you are nice to them.

Answer 10

Just remember, you are not part of them, and that's a reward in itself from what you say about them.

Do you really want to be what they are, or envy them in anyway? Chalk it up as a learning experience, and be grateful for your escape!