please listen to this story,
i met a soldier in iraq online over a month ago. we hit it off completely and have been writing almost everyday (unless hes on a mission) we fell for eachother very quickly and hes not coming home until september...i told him i will wait and there is no question that i will. we decided that we will not see other people at all. its been so hard because i can only get about one email from him a day and sometimes a couple phone calls a week. he will be here on RnR in april and i will see him then.
I have never been in this situation and having a hard time not being able to talk to him as much as i would like.
i need helpful advice on how to stay positive because im finding myself getting sad over him not being here. and him not being here soon. i send letters everyother day and make sure im always here to take his call. any advice will help.......thank you.
2007-01-07 05:19:17 · 13 answers · asked by nonyerbusiness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can tell yall really love each other and you just got to stay committed to the relationship and realize how great he is and then you will realize that he is someone you don't want to lose. You've got to work up that strength and just let faith be with the both of yall. You've got you a great man that will be able to support you and have a family with you and someone who puts there lives in danger for ours. Don't give up. Yall will be a happy couple when he comes home for good. Good Luck and Best Wishes
2007-01-07 05:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation and I agree that is very hard to stay positive in such a tough situation. Whenever I feel sad or miss my boyfriend a lot, I will email him a quick note, or hand write it just telling him how I feel. A lot of times when there is something I want to tell him about I make a list so that when I am able to talk to him I don't forget all the little things that are going on that I want him to know about. It's definitely very hard and I know exactly how you feel. Try to stay positive and get involved in things that will make the time go by much faster. It's been 50 days since I've seen my boyfriend but because I've been keeping myself busy it only seems like it's been about 5! Good luck to you!!!
2007-01-07 05:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by shallybles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's romantic!! i wish i have a gf to talk to at least lol..but yea ok..
My sister and her beau, (welp they're not officially engaged, they just like the term) have been together for 5 years now, 4 years apart. it's similar to what you are in, minus the fact that me and my sister is here in jersey, and the guy lives in another country, not in the army. based on what i've seen, theyhave been constantly calling and texting, and emailing each other everyday. so one good advice i could give you is stay commited, but don't share everything, (especially the good ones) through mail or some sort, because you want you guy to be missing the good stuff. lol but yea i like longdistance relationships and i think it's romantic (that's why i get dumped a lot, coz i AM commited lol) but as long as you have his assurance that at the end of everyday, the both of you are praying for each other's arms no matter what happens, either good, or bad.
good luck and god bless to you and especailly ur army guy..
pz
2007-01-07 05:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by griever24seven 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 07:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in Iraq and we didn't get to wirte that often, sop you should feel lucky you get that contact. Dealing with deployments are very hard, and this is not going to be the only one. I have been on three deployments, and will not have to go again until 2009 because I have 3 year shore duty. But It will not get any easier. You need to find something to keep you busy or you will go crazy.
2007-01-07 05:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is emailing you once a day and calling you a couple times a week, AND he in in Iraq fighting for his country, he obviously loves you. Take it slow, dont give up. You will see him again in a couple months.
2007-01-07 05:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just think about the greater good hes doing. Also think about how faithful you've been to him, i know alot of people that would of said"cya" after they told them. you have been awesome about it. and it wont be thattt much longer. think about taking a class to keep you ocupide. that always helps. but just keep writing to him. it also helps if you pretend that he is on a buisness trip for the weekend. and it makes everything go by so much faster. you will be fine. im sure he misses you alot more than you miss him. and if you can make it through this you can make it through anything:)
2007-01-07 05:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by OmG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For that situation - Congrats! Youve been doing great so far! Keep doing that. As if that keep your hopes really REALL REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY high. Not trying to scare you but sumthing could happen to him in iraq. I would send letters more and email more.
2007-01-07 05:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep it together and know that you'll have him when he's all done, it is very hard but you just have to hang in there and try more phone calls.. my ex and me used the phone every day to talk to each other until he was done and that worked wonders for me :) :) :)
2007-01-07 05:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when u fianaly see him make sure u have a camera so u two can take pictures and then u both can have pics of each other
2007-01-07 05:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋