i have been with this guy for almost 4 years now.. he promised me that he will marry me this october 2007.. he gave me a friendship ring but he never proposed to me yet.. we have been looking for engagement ring for almost 2 weeks now.. he hasn't spoken to his parents about our plans..my biggest worry is his dad - his dad doesn't like me. his mom is so wonderful!!! he told me that he will talk to them about our plans.. im also worried about the preparation part - we only have 9 months to go and i dont know what to do..do i have to push him to tell them? do you think he's ready for this? what do i do?
2007-01-07 04:55:18 · 5 answers · asked by Candie D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When a guy wants to marry you, he moves fast. 4 years is way too long - I think he either isn't ready or you're just not the one for him.
My now husband asked me to go ring shopping after 1 month of dating. When you know, you know - there's no reason to drag things out.
2007-01-07 04:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say to you is that i wish you the best i hope your dreams of getting married come true. Im going through the same situation. My boyfriend is also being influence by his dad. He doesn't want to marry me. We have been together for 3 years it will be 4 in march. I want to get married on July 7 2007 but he wont say yes. Hopefully some one has a good answer to this situation. Good Luck.
2007-01-07 13:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been living together? & also does her refer to your wedding regularly? Also how in tune is he with other social aspects? (IE: knowing he should make plans for dinner with you on valentines day, have a birthday card & present on your birthday)
Some guys just aren't very good at the whole planning thing and just sort of take things lightly. Perhaps you should start asking him to help with a list of people to invite to the wedding and check with him to see when a good date would be. Plus if your already living together he might view it as. "I've already got everything getting married would give me"
On the other hand if he is the romantic, good with remembering birthdays kind of guy who takes things seriously you might want to reconsider and talk to him about it ask if he really wants to get married now.
2007-01-07 13:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by dracaena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make his move. It sounds promising, just hold on a bit more. It sounds like there are some things he needs to handle, like his dad, so give him some time, not too much. By end of February, I would be asking.
2007-01-07 23:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's not ready.
Besides, do you really want a guy that chooses his dad's wishes over being with you? Sounds like a daddy's boy to me.
2007-01-07 15:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by trouble1374 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋