My friend is 16 and she had intercourse with this guy she likes now she is pregnant she wants my advice and I don't know Why what should she do?She says she is not going to give up for abortion and her mom said she is not going to watch the baby.
2007-01-07 04:52:32 · 27 answers · asked by Thelma 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Please share this information with your friend right away:
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
And remember, Planned Parenthood is in the business of selling abortions. They are not going to provide your friend with unbiased information.
2007-01-08 08:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would never get an abortion, i was raped and i would not take this morning after pill because it is still abortion and abortion is murder no matter how you look at it. even though she is 16 she can still be a great mom and there are other ways of help other than her mom, Please dont let her get an abortion she will never forgive her self and that baby didnt do anything wrong it dosnt deserve to die. it was created by two people who care for eachother if they didnt want a child they should not have had sex you take that chance evertime you have sex birth control has failed on many occasions. Tell her to take this as a blessing and she have the baby and if she still feels that after she has given birth she cant take care of the baby give it up for ADOPTION. good luck just remember there are other ways to handel this but abortion is not an option.
2007-01-07 13:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by lilmisses84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not advise her have an abortion, it will haunt her. Adoption is a great way for someone who cannot have children themselves to have a baby, she can even choose who adopts her baby in a open adoption. She could still have some contact with the baby then as well, if she chooses wisely.
Her mom may say that now, but her mind may change. If she has any motherly instinct at all she will change her mind, even if she doesn't want to.
And for future advise to your friend and other teens (even some adults!)... some sort of birth control. In this day and age, there's a pretty slim chance of getting pregnant if you use some sort of protection. Not to mention, the risks of getting HIV, AIDS, or some other STD from unprotected sex.
2007-01-07 17:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by JP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me when I was 17. I was a ballet dancer who danced in the performing arts schools all through high school. My mother thought ( who had an abortion herself) that sense I had so much to loose I should have an abortion, after all the father of my child and I had only known each other a few months. He and I both we determined to have this child and make it work. My mother disowned me for a while saying this child would never call her grandmother. We moved out with no help from anyone. 7 years later we got married and have great jobs, live in a beautiful house and have 2 beautiful daughters!! Good luck!! If there is a will there is a way.
2007-01-07 13:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by buterbuny2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is alot of responsibility,attending school and caring for a newborn baby is not easy.Her mother has already let her know that shes not helping out.It could have all been prevented if only she had asked her mother about birth control,or someone she could trust.If shes against having an abortion,she should consider putting the baby up for adoption.There are alot of good homes out there wanting to adopt.Right now completeing her education and hopefully attending college should be on the top of her list.I don't know the boyfriends situation,could his parents help her out?It's a difficult situation they got themselves into but there are alternatives.Liking your boyfriend is not enough to start a family especially at 16.Whatever they decide tell her to use birth control if she plans to stay sexually active.Good Luck.
2007-01-07 13:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abortion can be very difficult to live with. Many women who have them look back through the years and tell themselves that "my baby would have been three years old by now"
Abortion in itself can have a lot of complications. If the fetus and placenta don't completely evacuate the womb, she would have to have suction done to get it out. That can make fertility later in life a lot more difficult.
Ask your friend this: What if when she's 30 and married and trying to have a baby but just can't seem to conceive. Or she finds out later on in life she is infertile. Will she regret aborting her baby?
2007-01-07 13:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by stampadhesive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never suggest a 16 year old have a baby. How would she raise it with a minimum wage job? Even if she could get an apartment, what kind of environment would it be and WHO would babysit? I don't see how it can be done unless Unwed mothers homes still exist.
PS: A poster above is wrong. Abortion as a whole, will not hinder future pregnancies.
2007-01-07 14:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can get her G.E.D., keep her baby, and attend college classes online or at night. She doesn't have to have her mother to watch the baby, or the daddy for that matter. Also, after she has the baby DFCS will pay for her childcare weekly. I think she should have the baby. I have been trying for almost 4 years and would love to have a baby. I think everything will turn out okay for her in the end. Her mom will come around once she has the baby. Who could say no to watching their grandchild?? Tell her to keep her head up and be strong and that she'll be a stronger person in the end for doing the right thing.
2007-01-07 14:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by nursie1986 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is the one who has to make the decision but I know alot of girls who aborted and they regret it now 2-5 yeras latter. Also I dont think anyone would abort if they really understood the procedure and the doctor talked them through it telling them exactly what they are doing minute by minute, this web site shows and abortion on a ultrasound video and a doctor is exsplaining evrything. You should tell her to watch this then decide. There is after all always adoption and plrnty of orginizations that help young pregnant girls out.
http://www.silentscream.org/video1.htm
2007-01-07 14:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by cuetee220 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something this girl needs to think long and hard about. She and her parents need to talk to a third party and air out their disagreements and get everything out in the open. Her mom may just be in shock. Once that baby is born she is going to be in love. That being said, this girl should NOT rely on her mother to care for a baby SHE got pregnant with. She will need to step up to the plate and raise HER child.
This is a decision that can't be taken lightly. She shouldn't abort just because her mom freaked out on her initially. She needs to think long and hard about it and decide for herself. She will be giving up a lot, and life will not be the same. All you can do is support her and help give her all the information she may be searching for.
2007-01-07 13:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋