Well, after asking my last question (will he choose me) on Xmas day, i did what i was advised to do and told him not to text me or bother me again. All was going well, until he text me 3 days later. It was amazing, we chatted on the phone for hours and we met up last Tuesday, then again Friday and we are going to the cinema in a few days time. The whole issue was with another woman he told me he had feelings for. I have sat him down and talked to him, telling him i need to know where i stand. He told me to my face that they are not lovers and they don't have a sexual relationship he also said he hasnt got a problem telling her about me. He met her last night first time in 2 weeks, he said the subject would probably come up. I am scared to ask and be nosey, but i do want to know if it was came up. Does this mean that i am doing ok and he does in fact want me? He told me he woke up the morning i told him to leave me alone and cried. How do i take this relationship further and not ruin it
2007-01-07 04:50:37 · 12 answers · asked by beckietuck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I apologise for not having read your previous question. Based on the above, I'd say it goes down to trust. If this is about another woman, you can trust him and work things through; but if the trust isn't there, or you believe he isn't being honest, however difficult it is, you shouldn't go there. I think you deserve to know what these 'feelings' are that he has for this other woman, because no-one deserves to be second best, so however hard it is, try and find out the truth and don't be scared to let him go rather than be second best.
I hope it works out.
2007-01-07 04:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by cheesemonkeymonkeycheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men want to sleep with every women they meet, he may respect you as a friend and a valued one at that. Play it cool and see what develops. If you DO like him then treat him like a good friend.
As one gets older the friends bit comes out more and more, but when I was about 20 I used to go around with a load of girls as I found that they accepted me as a person whilst many guys just thought about sex and shagging the next knicker wearer that came along. Eventually there were 2 or 3 guys with this group of 7 girls and none of us "went out", got married or what have you. We were all "friends".
2007-01-07 05:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by rinfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him time to work thru his feelings but I wouldn't let it drag on forever.
When you get tired of waiting on him to decide who he wants, I would then tell him you are ready to move on with life. Tell him you want someone to be yours and only yours and if he isn't able to commit to that then it is time for you to move on so u can find someone else.
If you're that curious about wanting to know if the subject of you and him got brought up to the other women, simply ask him if it got brought up. There's nothing wrong with being curious and wanting to know how she reacted, after all it does involve you. It sounds like he is willing to talk about his feelings so I wouldn't see any harm in asking.
I definately wouldn't let this situation go on for very long. You have a right to be happy and to have someone stand by you and be faithful to you and you alone.
2007-01-07 05:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by suzyq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship is never ruined, those that are built on sand soon wash away. You seem to be teenagers. Take your time if he's the right one it will last.
2007-01-07 04:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want you? Do you want him, I think is the question?!Why is he meeting up with her if he has feelings for her? Perhaps he's playing with your feelings. I would tell him not to contact me until he has sorted his feelings out for the other woman. But one word of warning if he is treating you like this at the beginning of your 'relationship' is he really that into you? x
2007-01-07 05:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says that he is not sleeping with her but he probably is. Just maybe not as much as he'd like to or as he does with you. So I think you should leave him alone and go on with his life.
2007-01-07 05:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by little lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will be man and Women will be women .....wt u r doing is based upon the feeling of the other women's hidden desire......not ur's
2007-01-07 04:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Em, take this relationship further and don't ruin it.
2007-01-07 05:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by einenglander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly. Take it step by step and as long as you know he loves you (and you're sure he's telling the truth) you'll be fine. ;)
2007-01-07 04:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow, if i was you i wouldnt want to be second best to anyone, if he has feelings for this woman as well, then thats whats happening!
2007-01-07 04:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋