Hate his friends?

Question

I can not stand my boyfriends friends.. They never did anything to me but they just make me feel like such an outsider. keep in mind I am 25 I don't need to relive highschool which is what it feels like everytime I hang out with them. what do you do when you hate his friends? oo and half of them are girls.

Answer 1

Its not good to have hate in your heart. I will pray for you!

Answer 2

The worst you can do is be an outsider, try to be friends with them. I know it sounds hard, because you are his "girlfriend", but it can be done.
When you are together in big groups might be a little bit harder, approaching his friends. It's better to start in small groups. Ex: You, your boyfriend, and a friend. In there you can ask questions, participate in conversation, and get the other person to know you and feel good about you and around you.
After you have done this with a couple of his friends successfully. When you are in big groups, you won't be anymore an outsider and start being an insider.
Try it out! You might even meet some fun people.
Remember, people (specially students) act much different in groups than in the normal life, so don' t start judging anybody by how they act in the group.

Answer 3

You'd better find out why they don't like you instead of just assuming. A guy's friends are the brothers that he never had growing up and the bond is no less deep than that of blood relation. Make no mistake, if your boyfriend's friends don't like you, you don't have much of a chance.

The girls are still playing "alpha female" and the reason you don't want to play is because you don't want to admit you have anything to prove. If you really like this guy, then you're going to have to get in there and show that you're not one to be ignored.

You don't want to relive high school, then find a guy with more adult friends. Guys don't change their situations just because you want them to.

Answer 4

Very few women actually like their boyfriend's/husband's friends. Usually the guy ends up losing his and hers becomes "theirs". This is typical in relationships. I know of no couple that this did not happen to. Usually when a guy tries to reconnect with his friends the woman tends to feel threatened and reacts accordingly by attempting to vilify his friends. I'm not saying this is the case with you and his friends may very well be obnoxious jerks. To keep it fair you, if you are threatened by his female friends or just don't like them, should be willing to give up any and all male friends. Double standards really take away credibility from any argument you may have against his friends. Schedule things for you and him with your friends, keep the social calendar full and this will limit his time with his friends. You describe them as immature as your guy grows up he will begin to see this and will perhaps drift away from them. It is sad when we lose friends but such is life. Just make sure there are no double standards here. My wife has several gay male friends but my lesbian female friends were not allowed when we got married. Please try to realize how much friends can mean to someone.

Answer 5

Perhaps you feel like an outsider because they are his friends and you are seeing them in their an environment where they are the most familiar and comfortable with, try having a party or get together at your place invite some of your friends and let the two mingle. You will feel so much better as the host and they can see you as your own person rather than just his girlfriend.

Answer 6

you really only have two or three options here. 1. you can ask your boyfriend not to hang around these people which probably wont work, 2. you can dump the guy or 3. you can stay with the guy and deal with it. thats the reality of it all. there is always going to be people you would rather not hang around with that are friends of your boyfriend or spouse. my wife has two friends i could live without so what i do is go do my thing while she visits with them and that way no one loses out. once they are gone or my wife comes home then things are back to normal again. its not written anywhere that you have to be friends with your boyfriends friends.

Answer 7

this is why, they are his friends but may have a tiny bit of love for him, and you threaten them just by being there
so yo need to sit down and have a calm nice talk with HIM as soon as you can, and if he starts getting mad or starts arguing, tell him you are not here for this and we need to take a break and come back to it another time, OK and then give him a kiss, but do not fight over over it
then when he can talk nicely go back and talk about it..
but if he keeps getting mad, ask him if these girls mean more than you do to him, then just come out and tell him whats going on, let him think about it for a while, then make him chose...
you should not have this happening to you, and maybe he does not need all those girls as friends...

good luck
smile

Answer 8

If you're planning to have a long relationship with your b/f then you are going to need to find a way to get along with his friends, if not the relationship won't work.

Remember, birds of a feather flock together, so what does this say about your b/f? Maybe you are just worth more and have settled for less?

Answer 9

Hating is a wrong thing to do, hating makes u blind and make u to do wrong things. Just keep cool and find a sensible way to take command of you friend and use them for good.

Just simply find their strength and weakest then compare yourself with them, then just fix anything that is seem wrong to you.(don't take it as a offense)

There is many alternative ways, i am just an teen, so i am not capable to help u any farther right now. i m sorry. and another thing those poeple u hate much be jealous of u.

Answer 10

If you are serious about this boy then you should talk to him about this, explain how his friends make you feel and see how he reacts. Tell him you are willing to get along with his friends but you need his support.

Try to arrange dates without them or when with them try to stay close to your boyfriend.

If you want this relationship to last you will have to try to like them, if your boyfriend sees you making an effort to like them he'll love you all the more.

If all else fails avoid them and tell your boyfriend you want to see him and not them. Gd Luck!

Answer 11

you may want to attempt to sparkling up the reason they're scuffling with and take a verify out to cause them to not hate one yet another as a lot. in the journey that they retain continuing to wrestle and also you do not favor to verify aspects merely walk away and hang around with some human beings for the day and note what is going to take position.