Ok so i was over my girlfriends house and we went to her room to watch saw. well things got a little heated and we started making out. she got on top of me then and we kept making out. well while she was on top of me her mom walked in and caught us. now her mom is mad at me and me and my girlfriend have only been goin out for 2 months. i have lost all the trust of her mom and now her mom thinks we are going to have sex and thats not the case until we are totally sure we are ready. what should i do? i have thought about talking to the mother and telling her tht i love her daughter and tht we decided to wait for sex but im not sure if i shud or wut i should do?
2007-01-07 04:25:18 · 18 answers · asked by RedWingsDIEHARD 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah write her as letter, older women like that for some reasond. Don't tell her you love her daughter, thats just goin to scare her, tell her you completly respect her and her daughter and you wouldnt do anything that would get out of hand because your a man with principles and you know this is not the time in your life or her daughtrers to be ricking it, that you are more consentraited in first finishing school and so on. Ask her to give you a second chance and that you wont get out of hand again. Simple as that homes.
2007-01-07 04:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you talked to her it would show you to be the respectful young man that you seem to be. Reassure her that you do not intend to have sex with her daughter because you guys aren't ready for that yet. Make sure you apologize for disrespecting her home by getting so hot n heavy (even though I personally feel that you shouldn't have been allowed to watch the movie in her room in the first place-I mean come on she had to know you guys would get a little naughty). Just be grown up about the situation and talk to your girl's mom and ask for her forgiveness and trust.
2007-01-07 12:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Twinki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just talk to the mom and tell her precisely what happened, precisely what's going to happen and your plans for sex? DO NOT BRING THE WORD 'LOVE' INTO IT! She'll immediately switch to defensive and you won't be able to tell her anything. When parents are involved, "love" means "having sex soon." If she flat out asks you "Do you love her?" Answer "I think so. If not, its only a matter of time."
She's just another human being like you and me. If she wants to be irrational and get pissed off and not listen to you, then just continue to be with your girlfriend and don't even acknowledge her mother until she calms down and is ready to talk to you. If anyone your own age didn't want to extend the courtesy of listening to you, you would ignore them. Why should someone older than you be any different?
2007-01-07 12:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ideas sound good, but don't expect a miracle to happen. You've already betrayed her trust by making out with her daughter when she was giving you time to yourselves...now she's probably wondering how many other times that's happened, or how far you two have gone.
Be polite, be frank, and try to listen to her concerns. Don't yell back if she yells at you. And then explain to her what you did to us - that you love her daughter, that you two plan on waiting to have sex (although adding "until we are totally sure we are ready" probably won't soothe her!).
Good luck!
2007-01-07 12:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is right about being angry at you. You both disrespected her home. Note that I say HER HOME, because her daughter was not disrespected for she was a willing participant.
Earning her trust again is goint to be a difficult thing, not impossible. If you are serious about the girl, which seems that way. Talk to her mother.
Did you apologize? If not start there. Why don't you write to her a letter expressing your feelings of sadness for disrespecting her.
2007-01-07 12:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can tell the mom that you are going to wait for sex but she probably won't believe you. You can talk to her and apologize and hope she forgives you. I don't think she will trust you in her daughters room anytime soon. You might just have to build that trust back up. It might give you points if you talked with her though...Good Luck
2007-01-07 12:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by healergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are really young then the idea of talking to her mom and telling her that you love the daughter is out the question.....I wouldnt even talk to the mom about what she seen until much later depending on what kind of mother she is.....You should have had enough respect not to be caught in that situation anyway
2007-01-07 12:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a wild thought.
You were busted as a couple. Discuss it as a couple. Your gf is much more of an expert on her mom than a bunch of Yahoos.
Good luck. Use protection if you decide you're ready (he said, knowing that "don't have sex" never gets listened to).
2007-01-07 12:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down... getting caught making out is part of growing up. Parents never like to see that... it is scary raising kids.
I am sure that after a few months of not being allowed ot be in her room without the door opened, everything will blow over.
just be respectful and you will grow on them.
2007-01-07 12:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you have no right to have lost trust with her mom..it was in her house and you crossed the line with her daughter. Making out usually leads to heated moment of passionate sex. I'd be upset too. I was busted with my boyfriends dad we started out just making out and one thing led to another and his dad walked right in. Both of us had to appologize and respect that his dad was upset. Ihaad to call my mom and tell her what i was doing so then we had to appologize to my mom. Its one thing when your grown. something totally different when you arent.
Appologize to her mom and let her know it will never happen again.
2007-01-07 12:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋