My mom says she wants too have another baby..but im totally scared..and the doctor said that if she has another baby..she'll die..i dont know what to do so..and i dont know what to say..someone plz help me!!!!
2007-01-07 03:57:53 · 23 answers · asked by die romantic 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Your mom is a grown woman and I don't know what doctor in his right mind would say that she will die because there is no real way to determine that. They could say she has a chance of not making it but not that she will die. Second, if that is a chance your mom is willing to take then she has some kind of issue going on because I have two sons and if someone told me that having another one would probably be deadly to me then there is no way in hell I would risk it. Your mom needs to talk to someone. Of course it's ok for you to be scared. Talk to your mom!!!! Ask her why you are not enough for her and why she needs another baby.
2007-01-07 04:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should talk to your Mother. She is probably the best one to make this kind of decision since she is older and more experienced and has all the facts. I doubt that the doctor said that she could die. If your Mom is older, say in her mid to late 30's or even early 40's then she might be considered a "high risk" pregnancy, but that does not mean that she will die. Far from it. It means there could be health complications for her and or the baby if she's not careful, but chances are, since she's already had kids (you) she knows what she's doing. Talk to her and tell her how you feel and make sure that she is going to the doctor and taking care of herself throughout her pregnancy. It is not something for you to worry about dear. I doubt your Mom would deliberately put herself in harm's way and leave you and another baby motherless. No Mom would want to do that to her kids.
2007-01-07 04:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just saw your comment about being harsh - I don't think most people mean to, I certainly don't - take my words at face value, please. Why in the world would you want to talk to her BEFORE taking a test??? It doesn't make sense at all, really. Although I'm a big advocate of being up front, honest, and telling the truth, it doesn't seem to me like you need to create chaos and drama before you really know what's up, absolutely no reason for that at all...my opinion, sorry. You said she won't talk about it? "and she wnt tlk about it" - this indicates she might already know something? I'd just walk in, tell her you need to talk to her, and say you're pregnant. It helps everyone involved if it's one of the first three sentences out of your mouth. If she gets angry, listen to her, and don't try and interrupt or talk over her - I don't know how old you are, but you're probably younger than 18...I'm guessing. She has a right to be worried, upset, and vent - it affects her son's life, and her life, too. The next thing i would do is AFFIRM her feelings - tell her you understand fully why she's upset, and ask her if you can give her some time to calm down, and state that you'd really like to talk some more about it,etc, and ask her how long she'll need to think about it before you come back to talk to her...and then don't approach her again until she gives her permission. Things like this tend to UPSET people, that is why everyone says "be sure". You're not only harming your relationship with her if you've upset her for no reason on a whim, but it will make you look like a drama queen and should this happen for real, you will get an even nastier reaction, plus it will make it look like you really didn't learn anything, IMO.
2016-05-23 03:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. Tell yourself it's okay, because your mom hasn't had the baby yet. See if you can talk to your mom about it. Tell her that your scared about her. Talk to her about considering adoption if she really wants another baby. And above all, if she does have the baby, remember this: Doctors are sometimes wrong.
2007-01-07 04:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by hokis99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know which health consequences may put your mother at risk during labor or carriage, but I do know that by guessing your mother to being over the age of 40 (based on your avatar), that amniocentesis used for the purpose of aid in detecting some illnesses in the amniotic sac, has been medically proven to have higher consequence of risk to the health of the baby en vitro in women of this age, or older. One can be certain that any health risks which may put your mother at risk, coupled with the risk associated with the allowance of amniocentesis by waiver, or the risk of unforeseen health issues that may arise by the lack thereof, may even exacerbate any issues that your mother has been warned of, and proves that caution and care of thinking towards decision in this matter is a must.
2007-01-07 04:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Garret Tripp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well of course its perfectly normal to be afraid of another addition to the family. I'm the oldest in my family and I've got 2 brothers and 2 sisters, and you bet I was scared when I found out I was going to have another sibling. Eventually though they'll grow on you and eventually you won't be able to live without them. Even if they do annoy the crap out of you. Best wises to you. Oh and tell your mom your feelings I'm sure she'll understand.
2007-01-07 04:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by airdoc2be 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I so know how you feel. I am the oldest of 7 kids. I am scared my mom will have another. and she has a dangerous condition. maybe you could talk to her about this because you are part of the family so you should be able to give some input right?
2007-01-07 04:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Idina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal my SISTER just had a baby but to bad she gave birth in lebanon on july 14th,that means after 2 days of the war, it was really tough for the whole family.it couldnt be worst than this.ull figure out after time that its a wonderful experience ull get to play with a younger brother and feed him..its awesome!but i was afraid to.NORMAL.----HOLLY CRAP!!SORRY I DIDNT READ THAT SHELL DIE..try to talk to her alone and figure it out.go to other doctors see if its true. and if shes really gonna die ask her what would be the use to give birth to a baby that will have no mother when it grows up
2007-01-07 04:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by RC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to persuade your mother to listen to her doctor's warning. When you bring a child into the world it's not all about YOU and what YOU want. It has to be about how you are going to be able to raise that child in a proper and responsible way. If you have that child, and it damages your health, how are you going to do this, and how are you going to fulfil your responsibilities to your other children, and your family?
It is one of the most selfish things in the world when you are talking about creating another human being, to be talking about doing it just because "you want to"
2007-01-07 04:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will not die intill god wants her 2
And haveing a little sis or bro is a pain i know i have 5 of them
but ur mom will be ok and if she has a nother baby she will love u
but she might not act like that
2007-01-07 04:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋