Me and this guy, we have been working together for 6 months now and we have always liked each other since the beginning. We finally hooked up after I broke up with my b-friend and when we went on our date, he was somewhat agressive and I did not know how to take it. (never thought he would be like this on a date)
He started off by holding my hand the whole entire night and then he would hold me very close(I didn't mind) but then he would rub my thighs and in between them. (kind of bothered me) I should have said stop, but I did not.
We did not have sex or anything, we just kissed.
He was drinking the WHOLE entire night. I don't know if he was only acting like that because he was drunk or if he was acting like this because this is how he feels about me(after 6 mnths) , or if he just wanted some.
He wants to go out again and I am not sure if I should, I really do like him. If we do go out, I want to make sure he is sober so I can see what he really wants.
What do you guys think?
2007-01-07 03:52:16 · 25 answers · asked by vsweety 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Firstly, if you two are working together, it won't be long before one or both of you are out of a job. Never a good idea to date anyone you work with!
Secondly, he was way too aggressive with you on a first date. Your mistake was not telling him to back off. He probably thinks you enjoyed it and will come at you like a hungry wolf on the next date (sober or not).
I applaud you for being polite to the guy, but if there is a next date and he starts groping you without your permission....speak up and tell him!!!! To not speak up gives him a signal that you're ok with it.
2007-01-07 04:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 07:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by gelger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight forward and honest. Tell him that you do like him, but he was moving a little bit to fast and it is that simple. Be specific about what part made you uncomfortable. If he really likes you, he will respect that and keep pursueing the relationship.
As per the drinking thing, next date go somewhere that doesn't serve or have alcohol. If you do go somewhere where alcohol is served, tell him that you don't want to drink that night.
Also, he may have been drinking, because he was nervous.
2007-01-07 03:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Pyth 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it was rude how aggressive and unthoughtful he was, but it could have been the alcohol. I would give him one more chance. If he starts acting the same way, tell him to stop and leave if it continues. I would suggest going somewhere where he will remain sober, like the movies, or a restaurant, etc. Good luck, and stick with your gut feeling. Never let a guy do something you don't like.
2007-01-07 03:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by .:Blair:. 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hey, that sounds like ME!!!!! We didn't have sex that night??!!
Alright, seriously. Tell him (a letter might be most appropriate) you were turned off by his drinking and thigh rubbing and whatever else and you're not sure if you want to see him again. Also, get to know his friends. If they behave the same way, deep-six the dude. If they seem respectable to you, reconsider.
2007-01-07 04:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that he might be alright, but you have to watch out for him and try not to stay around him when he isnt sober, because theres no point of you being around him at that moment when you do not like it like that, especially if he keeps acting that way.
Who knows, you might even be help to him, by convincing him to stop drinking all at the same time, and thatll show true love, it all depends on your situation though. As long as hes sober i think it'll be fine, if he really isnt that way when he is sober though
No matter who you are with though, you should always be aware of your situation, and know how to protect yourself at all times, no matter who you are with.
Its your life so do what you want, which is right, and make the best out of it...
Thanks.
2007-01-07 03:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Phlow 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Definately he has got to be sober, altho, some say alcohol makes it easier for someone to show their true feelings. I think a guy should be able to express himself without drinking to do it. It might be harder for him but it also will be more meaningfull and it will, to some degree, make him feel some sort of commitment by living up to his words. Now the task for you is to determine if he is being honest.
2007-01-07 04:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by paws 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Always give a person a 2nd chance.
If his behaviour continues on the next date, or if he does things that you don't like...consider these the "red flags" and get out before it's too late.
I wish you luck and hope the 2nd date works out well for you.
2007-01-07 03:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well,i think he proabally celebrating your company,by the way he think ok,it might be a tendency of him to make you feel lonely/alone without him by his rubbing geture,he might be thinking that this make you more attracted him,even though you didn't like it not.he is not so sexcited type according to your questionaire details but he is sexenjoyer in a way he thinks he must be.
2007-01-07 04:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by ganesh n 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he was bold enough to act this way on a first date - when most people are trying to make a good impression, I can't imagine what he will be like once he is comfortable with you. It sounds to me like this guy has some serious issues -- stay away unless you are prepared to become a sex slave to him.
2007-01-07 04:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by paloma 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋