Should I tell my sister that her daughter (15) told me she was bisexual?

Question

My niece who is 15 years old just told me that she was bisexual. On several occasions my sister and I have encouraged her to talk out her feeling with us. I have, in the past, promised her that I would not tell her mom what we talk about. I just feel that if it were my child I would want to know as soon as possible. At the same time I feel that I should not betray her trust in me.

Answer 1

Kammy, your neice came to you in confidence and told you something that is very personal about her. It is hard enough being 15 but to be bisexual on top of it compounds her life. Keep her conversation between the two of you and tell no one. Absolutely no one. Do not tell your husband or anyone. Please don't betray your neice. She will tell her mother in her own time. As long as her mother doesn't push and is available for her, you neice will talk to her but she has to do it her own way. Keep her secret.

Answer 2

don't tell your sister; that would betray your niece. it's not like she told you something life-threatening.
just be supportive & encourage her to talk to her mother, if you think that's best.
she's still the same person; it shouldn't even matter, unless she needs support b/c she's having a difficult time accepting herself.

Answer 3

the mother should really hear it from the 15 year old and not from you. imagine how she would feel after you told her mother? i'd feel betrayed, cause i trusted you to not tell anyone. i say just give her some time and she will eventually tell her mom when she's ready.

Answer 4

I think that is something your niece should tell her mom. Let your niece know that if she ever does want to tell her mom, that you will be with her when she does. If it was a life or death situation, or she was doing drugs or something like that, then you should tell. It is her responsibility and she (your niece) should have that right to tell who she wants.

Answer 5

D0N'T..THAT'S THE WAY MY AUNT iS..WE TELL EACH0THER EVERYTHiNG..jUST THiNK 0F iT THiS WAY..iF Y0U D0 TELL HER M0THER AND AFTERWARDS, MAYBE A DAY LATER Y0U'LL G0 UP T0 TALK T0 Y0UR NiECE AND SAY "WHAT'S NEW??" SHE'LL PR0BABLY WANT T0 WALK AWAY FR0M Y0U 0R TELL Y0U N0THiNG AT ALL. y0U D0N'T REALLY WANT T0 BREAK Y0UR B0ND WiTH HER..jUST LET Y0UR NiECE TELL HER M0THER WHEN THE TiME iS RiGHT...SHE'LL TELL HER MOTHER HERSELF...jUST KEEP iT 0N THE D0WN L0W F0R N0W..Y0U SAiD Y0UR NiECE TELLS Y0U EVERTHiNG..iT W0ULD BE HEARTBREAKiNG F0R ME iF MY NiECE DiDN'T TELL ME ANYTHiNG AB0UT HER LiFE...jUST LET Y0UR NiECE TELL HER..TRUST ME, Y0U'LL D0 THE RiGHT THiNG

Answer 6

No it should be her place and it is her right to disclose it to whom ever she wants to being 15 she has alot of emotions and everything else to deal with, when she is ready she will do it, support her when shw does, though, if she felt comfortable enogh to tell you, she may need to added support

Answer 7

You need not be in a hurry.Help your niece and instill courage in her and let her speak herself.That would be much better than you telling.

Answer 8

No i don't think that u shpuld tell ur sister. she felt comfortable enough 2 come to u so dont break that bond. it's good to no that she can come to an adult, family member (you) with it. She could have gone to a total stranger n they mislead her totally.

Answer 9

I say no, do not interfere. You might cause some family strife if you do. Let the girl tell her mother when she is comfortable.

Answer 10

So, if I am understanidng you. sometimes you feel one way and then another. Sort of the way she feels. At fifteen,I think you should support her, and keep your mouth shut otherwise. If she is to be outed to her mother, let her do it.