i have been with her for more than a year now.I love her.I really really do.her brother has died recently and shes pushing me away.she says not to love her again and not to worry about her because her friends are taking care of her.she keeps on being mean and keeps pushing me away but i say nothing because i know shes having a rough time.I have done nothing but be the best boyfriend i can be.it seems evident now that shes becoming closer to someone else.She spends time with this person and she does not mind his company at all. I am scared because this guy,'Divindra', is very fond of her and i am scared to death that i might stand a chance of losing her to him.my entire life has truly begun to revolve around her.how do i fix this situation?
2007-01-07 03:44:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's true that nothing has technically gone wrong between the two of you, maybe she's scared to be too close to you. I mean, she just lost her brother. Maybe she's going after this other guy BECAUSE he doesn't mean so much to her and that feels safer. If she loses him, it won't hurt so bad. It sounds crazy, I know, but these things can mess with your logic.
I agree with others that you should sit down and talk openly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Don't put pressure on her to make you feel better, but explain to her that you really do love her and want what's best for her and that you want to be the one she can turn to. If she doesn't respond the way you'd like, just give her some space. Whatever you do, don't get angry with her and don't smother her.
Meanwhile, try to find something else for your life to revolve around. It's probably a lot for her to deal with if she's the center of your life.
2007-01-07 04:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Evelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to fix it is to back out gracefully. You might write her a note and tell her that you love her and want for her whatever makes her happy. Then just bow out. She wants you to stay away, at least for now. You can use this time to collect your thoughts and reflect and decide whether or not you want to be involved in a relationship such as this one. Even in getting back together there would be trust issues. You'd have to wonder why she is hanging out with the new guy rather than you.
2007-01-07 03:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is already gone. Let her go and move on with your life. You will find a new girl, it doesn't take long, there are billions of them out there, there is bound to be one that you can make a connection with.
Next time don't build your entire life around a girl either. You always have to diversify your life. You should get involved with a new girl, then get involved in something else, it could be anything, friends, family, work, school, sports, even cooking. It doesn't matter just find something else in life besides a girl that you can focus on, in fact get at least a couple of things in life that you can focus on, that way if you lose one you will not lose your entire life so to speak.
2007-01-07 03:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Pyth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you guys were happy before her brother passing away I think you need to sit down and talk to her and that don't work try to talk to the guy that's in the way, let him know how you feel about her and you want advice. I don't see why she's getting comfort from another guy if she has such a loving boyfriend now. Losing a person in your life is hard I would say give her time but if she's talking to another guy I think you need to do something right away
2007-01-07 03:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sherry A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing for you to do is to give her space that shes asking for. If you love someone set them free if they come back to you it was meant to be.
2007-01-07 03:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to advice... be open with her...if it's imposible to talk - try to write, this is the best way to say everything you think and not to be interupted, sometimes it works:)
good luck!
2007-01-07 03:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Svajule 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her..comunicate with her and doesnt matter about what..thats the A and O :)
2007-01-07 03:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweety4live2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋