I just recently move to Chicago; I am having a really hard time adjusting... I feel sad most of the time, I hate my new job, and I am constantly fighting with my BF. HELP!! I feel like my world is spinning out of control.
I Will I ever feel better? Any suggestions for making it in the city?
2007-01-07 03:34:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Of course you're sad. You moved to a new place and left everything you've ever known behind you in another part of the country.
It's miserable weather at the moment- just where is the sunshine when you need it?
The job you thought would be good has disappointed you and to top it all off, your boyfriend can't get along with you...
But the good news is that you can help yourself.
Smile, even though you don't feel like it- the simple act will help you feel brighter.
You might be able to find some nice new friends if you join some local groups,
And even though you are having a difficult time, look at the things that are going well. You moved to a new place, got a job, have a boyfriend, you have a roof over your head and food to eat every night.
Alter the way you think about things, dont focus on how everything is going wrong, look at what you can do to help things go right.
And go for a walk in the fresh air whenever you are able- it will help.
Also, have a good cry, but remember to smile again after.
You need to examine why your boyfriend and you are fighting a lot- has it always been the case or has it been just since you moved- is he with you in Chicago or is he back where you moved from and is missing you?
Just what is so bad about your new job? Is it really that awful, or is it just because everything looks so bad that you are including your job in the things that are bugging you?
Perhaps you would benefit from a long chat with a good friend, or from asking to see a counsellor to help get your head together- you have done lots of stressful things recently, don't be ashamed to ask for help with sorting out your feelings :)
You will be okay...don't let everything get to you so much :)
Rent a funny film, gorge on chocolate and make friends with Ben and Jerry's Rocky Road for a night, that can't fail to cheer you up (unless you suffer from migraines after chocky and ice cream)
2007-01-07 03:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing, oddly enough, in the same city....I've been living in Chicago a little over a year, and I can't stand the city, the people in it, the atmosphere....nothing. If you feel yourself getting overwhelmed, try to get to see a counselor. Not saying that you have anything wrong with you mentally or anything, but I let my life spiral out of control for a year and ended up in therapy. It is hard to adjust, it's hard to make friends, and our boyfriends don't always understand (mine is from Chicago, so he doesn't see what I'm talking about when I say I hate the city). If you can get a weekend to fly home----do it. I went home for 2 weeks during winter break and it did wonders for me. But always remember this: YOU have the reigns, it is YOUR life, and as out of control as everything seems, YOU have control. If you feel it getting bad, REIGN IT IN. Good Luck to you, and God Bless.
2007-01-07 03:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Genea_80 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It can take a couple of years to settle in to a new life but it does sound like it's harder than it should be for you. Have you spoken to your boyfriend about how you are feeling. You probably need to consider looking for a new job. You spend a lot of time at work, life is too short to be doing a job you hate. That alone might make you feel better.
2007-01-07 04:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard when you move to a New City!
Especially without having Close Family or Friends around to help!(That's my Story)
I found getting out exploring the neighborhood and city a great help, as well as meeting New people along the way!
2007-01-07 03:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you like doing ? if you can find a club doing something you enjoy great way to meet new people. We always take things out on the people we love so explain to your BF that you are having a few problems ajusting to your move and i am sure he will understand .
2007-01-07 03:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by fiona M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is on pain in life more then mental stress, depression and being different which links to loneliness.
Just be optimistic, i think there is many other people who is having the same problem or worse. Only people who trying hard to fix their problem will prevail.
and i hope u do. love and hopeness from me. the real don of dhaka.
2007-01-07 05:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Don of dhaka 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your having a signs of 'Depression'
You should take things alot easiar for a while, talk to someone about how your feeling, and best yet, if you want the most help, go see a psychiatrist.
2007-01-07 03:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sakura 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jus to say am really not okay wid G M`s answer
i don`t know what kind of experience he`s got with psy`s but well i think u should go to see one before your situation gets worse....
2007-01-07 03:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try psychologist.
2007-01-07 03:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by SV650s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋