What are the dating Rules and Etiquette for 40 years old woman NOW these days in the US.?

Question

I was married in Asia for more than one decade.
Now, two years after my divorce, I am thinking about start to date again.
But, every thing change a lot sense the last time I as dating here.
From the places where you go for your first date, what you say, or not, write and do…..All my friend they are married and they have not idea how to help me...... They all say very old thing or don't say any thing.....It is a lot of change…and I am terrified and lost…..
What should I do, I want to learn more about how to date a nice guy in 2007... From what I should say, dress, email,...nice alternative for places to go/not be limited to the tradition 7 o'clock dinner...
I want to make sure, that I am passing the right impress to be able to attract the right guy. I am looking for a long term relationship not an opportunity to go out with some one....

Answer 1

as far as what you wear, something classy but dont overdo it. What you say, talk about anything to him. Let him know about you and ask about him. It is alright for the woman to ask the man out. places you can go, anywhere... there is no limit on where you can go on a date.

Answer 2

Ask your friends, family and co-workers to set you up with someone. There's really not much difference between dating these days or dating someone 20 years ago--it's still all about attraction and compatibility. Just do the same exact things you did before you were married--nothing has changed. Go out and buy a really nice outfit and make yourself look immaculate. Spend time at nicer events where you know there will be people around your age group. Go to the grocery store around 4-5 pm dressed like you are ready for a date--that's a great place to hook up with someone. So are laundromats--grab a stack of quarters and go to one in a nice neighborhood--you just might accidentally dump some fabric softener all over some guys clothes you know? Big thing is to just have some fun.

Answer 3

Whatever rules of etiquette we might write down here are surely to be different everywhere and are generally worthless. First, I think you need to be comfortable with YOURSELF. Don't rush into anything, and concentrate on being your natural, honest, intelligent, personable self. Here are some additional tips:

1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Work harder than ever
4. Spend an hour a day in the library
5. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your parents
7. Get involved in a worthy community function
8. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause
9. Help someone every day
10.Go to Church
11.Invite your friends to Church
12.Take group dance lessons

Good Luck

Answer 4

If you're looking for something long term, you need to be looking for a friend first. Most people find friends at their jobs, but if you don't love your job, well, you might not want to. It really depends on what you like to do with most of your time, and what kind of person would benefit from that. Experience the best parts of yourself... do the things you do well more often, go the places you like going, spend time with people you respect... and be friendly. For what you want, it's more about building relationships than dating.

Answer 5

The world today is much different today than yrs ago. It is less judgmental, more acceptable of social differences,much less inhibited. Just go out into a public place and see the variety of people, personalities, couples, expressions.... now picture the same things 10,20, or30 yrs ago. Its amazing, the evolution of society. Don't try to pass any example of impression unless it is who you really are. Be yourself and don't be afraid of expressing it. Granted there are some things that should be kept behind closed doors, but in general be yourself and relax. You are way too tense

Answer 6

The first rule is......there are no rules any more. For instance, it no longer matters who calls who first or who pays for what.
My suggestion is just to be yourself, go to places you enjoy, do things that interest you......and the guys you run into will probably have similar interests.
You sound like a lovely lady who is not interested in a 'one night stand', so get involved in the kind of things that serious people take part in, such as volunteer work or book clubs, sports activities and so forth, depending on your preferences, and let nature take its course.
One HUGE caution....beware of internet connections until you know for SURE who you are talking to.
Good luck and God bless.

Answer 7

You need to be willing to put out! Paying for all the dates also helps.