Wedding receptions are for everyone that was invited to enjoy, and a list of 100 of the bride's favorite songs the DJ is forced to play is a recipe for disaster. What to do?
2007-01-07 03:16:16 · 11 answers · asked by Trisch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To clarify, I am the DJ...
2007-01-07 03:17:32 · update #1
Your are being paid for your services and if she wants a disaster she should be allowed to have one.
2007-01-07 03:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by User103443 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
We ran into this problem once and I can tell you what we did. The bride and groom gave us a list of these horrid non-danceable songs and told us to play only those particular songs, with no requests. We very politely suggested our recommended list but they were very set in their minds, so we kindly agreed to play their songs because after all, they are the ones who are paying us. We also made sure to get their song list in writing on the contract.
When it came the day of the wedding, we gladly played their chosen songs. After about 4-5 of these god-awful songs, with absolutely no one dancing, people were coming up to us trying to request songs. We discussed this with the bride and groom, who also noticed no one was dancing, and with their permission, they told us to throw away their song list and just play whatever we would like. The very first song we played, everyone that was there was on the dancefloor. And at the end of the night, they gave us a pretty hefty tip.
2007-01-10 03:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest (don't tell) that your professional experience has been that the guests tend to get involved and dance more if they are able to request songs and if you are able to choose songs based on the mood of the crowd. That often a "play list" creates a situation where everyone just sits.
All you can do is suggest so she is forewarned. Other than that - if you want the gig - play her songs if she insists. For good or bad - it's her choice - at least you can say you warned her.
If you are afraid that by doing so will make you look bad and blemish your reputation, tell her that you need freedom to adjust the playlist to the crowd or you can't do the gig.
2007-01-07 14:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that with your experience its also best to save room for the guests requests. ask her if its ok you play the requested songs then try to stick to her list of songs when no requests have been made. is she is smart then she will take your advice. if not then thats her problem. I would at least make the attempt to tell her though. that way if it is a disaster then at least you warned her and there is nothing she can say or do about it. hey...if your getting a pay check then I wouldnt worry too much about it.
2007-01-07 12:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, stand up and tell her just that. Just make sure you are right. Explain to her how her guests might not like her selections or might want to make requests themselves.
I often thought if I hired a DJ I wanted to approve the song selection beforehand because I would not want "seemingly inappropriate" song lyrics blaring thru the hall. That too is your responsibility to inform her.
Good Luck
2007-01-07 11:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is to thank her for the list of songs. Tell her you will do your best to get them all played, and then let her know that guests usually request songs as well. If she's controlling, this will allow her to give you approval to play songs 'not on the list'. Ask her for another list of songs that you CANNOT play, even if they are requested. Personally, I refused to have Macarena, Chicken Dance, and all those lame songs played, along with some pop songs that I can't stand.
The long and the short of it is that she's paying. You can try to explain the way it usually works, but if she's set, then make up a CD of the songs that she wants and play them. : )
2007-01-07 17:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am surprised to see such a question from a DJ - after all, it is her wedding, what better time for her to get to have a say in the music picked? As a DJ, your job is to know how to use those songs and mix them up in a way that works. Sure - suggest that she allow some other guests to pick some songs as well, but remember who's wedding it is.
2007-01-07 18:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What a poor question from a D.J. You musn't be very experienced in the business if you have to ask such a question on yahoo answers. You would make reccomendations on what she should do. Paint her a picture about what you see happening. If she's got an eclectic grouping of songs - cool. But in the end? Who cares? It's her wedding, you're getting paid. It may be a terrible wedding, but oh well! ;)
2007-01-07 23:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by Kass 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, you are being hired. She has a right to make requests.
It is also your job to guide this bride in the right direction. You are the PROFESSIONAL and therefore should explain to her the potential disaster she is heading for. If she balks, is disagreeable, tells you she is PAYING you, then I suggest that you politely decline the job.
2007-01-07 13:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is paying you, and you are providing a service, just do your best, or tell her that you have a limit on the number of requested songs.
2007-01-08 14:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋