im inluv with my bestfriend that is in a grade lower then me and i think and care about her all the time and i dunno if i should tell her i wanna so bad but i dnt wana ruin our friendship she stays over here alot and we lay next to eachother in my bed and she rapps her arms around my waist and puts her head real close to my face and lays on my shoulder one night we were holding hands when i was laying the other way and she cuddled me from behind and held my hand like we were dating i wanna tell her but i cant we tell eachother we love eachother all the time and we speak alot over the fone on the computer and face to face i really really wanna be with her but i dont wanna scare her outt of our friendship and im going crazy keeping this a secret from her i dream about her nearly every night and when she touches my and lays real close i feel really weird deep down inside and i really wanna be with her and be able to kiss her but i dnt wana scare her PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-01-07 03:07:28 · 6 answers · asked by emily c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i guess u have a different preference than normal you should have. but if you are below age 20yrs old, its normal to feel so close to your same gender & sometimes the love can arise. maybe you will carry this abnormal preference till you adult enough but if you really certain about your heart, preference & yourself, than just go on. but to be in a safe side, without jeopardize your r.ship now, better you ask her indirectly for first step. Question like "hey, gurl? what do you think bout love between gurls?" or.."what do you think of lesbian & such manner, accepted by you or not?" ask her in 'joking mood' and see her immediate reaction. If she answering you with strong NO means you going to loose her as a good buddy if you ever ask her to be your serious gf & made her frighten over you. But if she kinda hesitating & shy or even positive, then maybe you can work it out & let her be the gurl of your dream. But whateva you do, pls be patient & never do things that u might regret later. Love is wonderful but frenship lasts forever. Good luck! =)
2007-01-07 03:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dr^Dea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay for people of the same sex to totally admire another. It's a lot more common for girls to do this than boys. It just means you feel safe and loved by her. Apparently she values your friendship and probably won't stop being your close friend because you "think" you may have sexual feelings for her. Who knows, she may be flattered and may or may not feel the same. I don't see anything wrong with you for this. It's all part of growing up and discovering your true feelings.
2007-01-07 03:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls can be very affoctionate. I know girls in my school hug, hold hands, and even kiss cheeks when their good friends.
It seems like you two Are very close.
Me and My friend think that you should Talk to her about Girl + Girl relationships and gradually start hinting if you get positive feedback.
Maybe if your close to your mum or sister perhaps discuss your feelings with them
Hope this helps
Goodluck!
2007-01-07 03:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by -Ashlee- Eeeep! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe suggest a threesome with a guy you both like! fun for everyone! :P
nah, the best thing to do is to just tell her how you feel straight out. If she is a good friend she will listen to you and will treat you the same if it does or doesnt work out in that regard.
Apart from that, there is nothing else you can do, if you just make a move on her without telling her your feelings, you will definantly freak her out and may lose her as a friend. So just tell her how you feel and see how it goes from there.
2007-01-07 03:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like she feels the same way you do. If it were me, I'd give her a little peck on the lips and see how she reacts. If she likes it, I'd try for a better kiss, and see what happens. All the best.
2007-01-07 03:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it rather is advantageous for individuals of the comparable intercourse to completely know yet another. it rather is plenty extra elementary for women folk to do this than boys. It merely potential you experience risk-free and enjoyed by potential of her. curiously she values your friendship and probable won't provide up being your close pal when you consider which you "think of" you have gotten sexual thoughts for her. Who is conscious, she could be flattered and could or won't experience the comparable. i do no longer see something incorrect with you for this. it rather is all area of starting to be up and gaining know-how of your genuine thoughts.
2016-11-27 01:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋