help me he will really kill me, nobody is telling how i can get away without him kowing i left him!!!?

Question

ok so i live with my bf, and weve lived 2gether 4 a while now. he is very obsessed with me, he tells me things like he couldnt live without me or he would kill himself if i ever left him. these things scre me alot cuz he hits me and yells at me, we were going to have a baby but then i miscarried, so there is no child in this matter(thank god). the last time he hit me was last night and i cant leave the house cuz he doesnt want anybody to see my bruses. when i wear short sleeves i usually cover them with my hair(its past my knees) i cant cut my hair cuz of my culture(my mom and dad are native american). when he hits me and im on the floor he pulls me by my hair, he wont let me leave and makes me have sex with him.i cant get away. my friends dont know about him doing this to me and neither does my family. i cant talk on the phone without his supervision, and i'm treated like a baby my family let me move in with him cuz they trusted him, i want out what can i do?

my family doesnt know about me being pregnant or about the miscarrage.he scares me and i really really wanna get away but i'm afraid cuz he says things like if i cant have u nobody can and i am scared he will either hurt himself or me or both of us. please help me, before i moved in with him he was soo good to me and now he jsut scares the bajesus out of me and i wanna go really badly. he beat me yesterday with the broom, and my bow for my cello, he tells me he loves me, i think its allong the lines of being obsesed with me, his whole back is covered with this huge picture of me and he has my name tatooed on his neck

my family loves him,he's good to me infront of people. hes crazy he thinks that he's so good and that he's the best man alive. i have scares on my back from being beaten with an extention cord and he always says he's sorry but i need a way to get away with out him being able to get me.

i got emancipated from my parents, rut i still have a really good reationship with my whole family, i got the emancipation cuz they saw how much i LOVED (past tence)him and he's older than me, im 17 he's 23

we r in north america

yokoke koi(again)

Answer 1

i already answered yur question but incase u havent seen it yet here it is again!!

ok from yur name im asuming u speak chahta anumpa so it will let me type faster if i use chahta anumpa, BALILIT ISHTIA!!!!!

TUSHPA!!!! TUSHPA ,YOU GOTTA OR HE WILL KILL YOU


CHIM ACHUKMA(i mean in this situation, are u ok with it??)

KUCHA,OK???

u will end up like me, me and my little brother had to run from my parents and they used to beat me really bad u gotta go(read my old questions, it'll explain what i'm talking about), r u part of a rez if u r they can people out get to a rez they will help u!!!!!!

Pit hv(uh)kloh ano,Palhki hosh balilih,kucha!!, Himak ma...Ant pisa ano sashki A aki A Amaafo A Sappokni !!!!promise me u will do that cuz he will kill u.

Hv(uh)sh nowah, chim haklo oh?,hv(uh)sh nowah

Answer 2

If there is any way you could reach the phone while he is away, try to call 911. If he is gone, try calling them then and tell them it is an emergency. Or when you are alone without him try calling 911. ONLY call 911 in a way that he won't know about it because if he finds out--you're in trouble. You could also do it when he's in the shower, going to work, or small things like that. Just so that HE DOESN'T catch you.

Trust me, this relationship of yours has nothing to do with love. If he loved you, he would cherish your body and never harm it or abuse it by hitting you and forcing sex upon you. You are 17 years old--there are some legal situations for that. Instead of sex, it could very well be called rape (if this reaches the courts). In any situation, I encourage you to get outside contact and support. Tell people about your story as much as you can. If YOU can't get help by yourself, ask other people to!!

I don't think running away is your best option. I think you should just wait for the police when they come. This way he has no clue what is going on and when they come, they can immediately target him without him knowing that this is the end.

I wish you the best of luck...

Answer 3

Honey you are young and this is no way to live.No man or woman has a right to put their hands on you and abuse you.You need to understand that completely.You have to want better for yourself.My husband is a police officer and I have worked with battered women and pregnant teens all my life.First let me start by telling you that once a man has abused you physically that is just the beginning next comes emotional abuse(which both are unacceptable)anyway once they physically abuse you they think that are in control and if you stay with him he will continue to do it.He will control you like an animal.All abuser's threaten to kill you if you leave because again that is part of their control.You have to decide what kind of a life you want.I don't beleive that you want to continue to be abused so here is what you need to do.First you need to call the police and have him arrested for assaulting you then you need to get a restraining order on him that he cannot come near you then you need to contact your family and be honest with them and tell them what has been going on.Everybody makes mistakes and you have made a mistake by allowing him to treat you this way.Learn from your mistake and change the situation you have no children with him(thank god)so you have no ties to him get out now while you can with no ties.Every state has an abuse hotline if you need additional help call it if you don't know the number for your state 911 will give you the number in fact when you have him arrested the police will give you an abuse packet with all the numbers that will help you.Now i have clearly given you your answer and obtions if you choose to stay with him it is because you want to die.Only you can change your situation so take the first step to living your life and call 911..If you don't call then my dear you have no-one to blame but yourself you can't even blame him (the abuser)because you are allowing his behavior to continue..Please make the call..You have to make the first step to help yourself..You have no excuses now so please make the call..Good luck to you..

Answer 4

Man I really feel for you. My niece has just gone thru almost this very same thing, This guy has allot of mental issues that need to be resolved but usually they don't get resolved b-4 something bad happens. The 1st thing you must do is talk with your family and they must be very creative in helping you. Fortunately for us we are a close knit family and there are plenty of guys to help my niece. We have, and this guy will no longer be harmful to my niece, you must be very careful to keep any plans hush, so he doesn't suspect anything or anyone else. No we did not murder him although he may have wished we did. Be careful and be safe. Also don't forget to try to get some legal help but they usually don't help until its too late. there are also in some communities battered women houses to go to and they will go as far as they need to to resolve theses very issues.

Answer 5

You must take action before it is too late. First you need to tell someone you trust,these are very serious things that are happening things that are very dangerous to you and your family!If I were you I would run to a friends house call the police and the police would escort you inot the house so you could get your things and get a restraining order!!!

also think of calling a domestic violence hot line

<3
stephhanie

Answer 6

You should tell your family and the police. I have a 16 year old daughter so I know what I would do if the police couldn't take care of the situation. The problem would be gone.

Answer 7

this is a difficult situation, but since you have scars, get a friend, family member, or even neighbor to drive you to the police station. with marks and bruises and you being 17, he'll be charged with assault and battery, rape, and assaulting a minor, it should lock him up for 20+ years.

If you can't find someone to drive you there, call 911 when he's asleep or out, even if he has something to monitor the calls with, the call will be too fast for him to stop you for long, even if it's incomplete they will come.

Answer 8

u have gotta run outta there...this guy is TOTALLY mental!!...a MAN SHOULD NEVER RAISE HIS HAND ON A WOMAN EVER!!..well yes thank god there is no baby involved or else the child would suffer for no reason..and sweety...if he did luv u.. then y does he beat u??..he forces u 2 sleep with him...all u need is just an oppurtunity...when he gets out for anything...for sum work or 2 da grocery shop near...u have gotta run...go 2 sum frnd..if u want 2 be free from an animal like him!!

Answer 9

what about the time when he is at work? can't you leave then? Or you may simply have to pick a time when he is not in sight of your doorway and literally run for your life! He's a monster and, if you value your life, you will find a way to get out.

Answer 10

ok i heard these kind of stories a bunch of times and trust me he can change but he has to be forced to change. and he doesn't love you and he's never sorry because if he even hurts you trreats you like sh** then he's not worth living with and try living with your family members you'll feel more safe and go to your best family member's house and call him on the phone and tell him "i'm done i'm through with you you don't treat me right and you beat me i got scars because of you and i don't feel safe with you i'm afraid one day you might try to kill me or something i just don't feel safe" trust me this is the best advice and this will work